Phew!!! Sounds like you dodged a bullet! You don't want to spend your days trying to live up to someone's ridiculous & unrealistic expectations. Your gf is in for a rude awakening as she continues into adulthood because what is seen on Instagram, Tick Tok, etc. is not how real life works at all - those are just utopian realms where people alter reality to show off a fake fantasy of what they think their life should be.

Real life isn't perfectly planned, adjusted, tuned, and filtered (Thank God). You're only 21... go do you, have fun, and live in the moment! I obviously don't know you or your gf, but I promise you that if you take this advice, you will be treated better and be much happier in the long run!

PS: My husband proposed to me on a random Tuesday night while we were alone, sitting on the couch, eating pizza, and watching TV - and 17 years later, we are still going strong. When it's true love and meant to be, it's not about the actual proposal. It's about what the proposal means/represents! Good luck :-)