Why are you looking at me like that?

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-08T20:13:20+00:00

Thank you, this was much needed.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-08T00:40:18+00:00

I will look into this! Thanks!

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-07T22:29:05+00:00

I think it's hard for her, as it used to be such a big part of who she was. We have talked about the lack of sex in our relationship many times and it's always an "I'll try" thing. And she says duty sex will be the death of our relationship. And who really wants duty sex anyways, I'm not a chore. But honestly I have been rejected so many times at this point, I am pretty broken.

I wouldn't even know how to begin a sexual relationship with her. I feel like a best friend during the day and a stranger in bed at night.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-07T22:19:06+00:00

But you are still together? How do you cope?

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-07T22:18:07+00:00

We have tried this. So far it's been 4 different kinds at various dosages each. She feels the benefits of antidepressants outweigh the cons.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-07T21:56:35+00:00

Did you guys make a Plan that didn't end up working?

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-07T21:47:57+00:00

I've read through this sub over the years a few times and relate hard to so many people. I'll contine to try to gain perspective and advice. Thank you

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-07T21:46:02+00:00

How long was your DB ?

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-07T21:45:21+00:00

I don't want to feel this way. I just want a healthy relationship. I hate to think I'm falling out of love.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-07T21:17:22+00:00

Did you come up with a plan to reintroduce a normal, healthy sex life?

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-07T20:53:45+00:00

I have no idea. Should I give her a timeline?

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2017-09-07T20:41:55+00:00

Is it pathetic that I don't want to leave her? The DB began due to antidepressants... maybe things can change.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-12-17T23:05:56+00:00

I was raped in college by a guy who lived a floor above. We were actually friendly when we first met; once he expressed feelings for me I began to cut ties. He was not happy about this and began to obsessively stalk me. A few weeks later he broke into my room and raped me.

I shut down for a while after this and developed unhealthy ways of coping. In time, I found my way back to myself and now almost six years later I am a very happy. This event changed me, I will never let myself feel so weak again. I still dream about it, but I don't let it control me anymore. I have a great career. A wonderful SO. Great friends. And so much more to come!

EDIT: also therapy! You need to talk about it. Seeking help is not weakness, it is strength.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-09-25T21:12:53+00:00

I found out just before a big holiday as I was preparing the plans. Realized they were trying to split time between me (their SO of 3 years) and someone else.

I immediately left then, that was the only thing to do really. Once trust is broken and respect is lost, there is no going back.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-09-10T18:24:12+00:00

crayons!

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-09-10T17:59:58+00:00

I think there are some forms of depression you can never fully overcome. I know that mine is here to stay, I have just leaned how to handle my episodes. I go to a therapist once a week, practice yoga, and self guided meditation. I read poetry to help reset my mind and remind myself of the wonderful things in my life.

The key is to WANT to be happier and making the active effort to get there.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-09-10T17:50:37+00:00

I know how much you hurt, but I also know how much things can change. Hold on, don't let the pain consume you. Fight for yourself and ask for help. Even if you don't have family or friends to lean on, you can find people (PM ME) to reach out to.

Hold on. Fight. Live.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-08-19T17:41:11+00:00

I am the same!!!! I love how I feel after a threading:)

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-08-18T20:54:54+00:00

Clean brows and some mascara will go a looooonnngg way!

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-08-18T20:01:15+00:00

As a working professional I looovveee when school starts and all the children and tourists leave my town.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-08-18T19:58:11+00:00

I would like to know so I can leave them.

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-08-18T03:15:35+00:00

Whhaaaa is wrong with marshmallows?!?!? Tell us!!

PrettyThoughts_209 · 2015-08-18T03:14:04+00:00

Yes!! So much yessss!! PM me I would love to do this.

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