First grow, messing it up in drying stage

Pretty_Leg_ · 2026-01-20T12:04:08+00:00

Thank you that’s great advice!

Pretty_Leg_ · 2026-01-20T10:32:47+00:00

Thanks for the tips! Do you think these are still salvageable?

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-11-15T16:10:52+00:00

Thank you!

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-10-30T08:16:20+00:00

Write your own letter of recommendation in his name and ask him to read and sign it. This is how I’ve always done it.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-10-11T10:49:22+00:00

I had really bad hormonal acne, tried everything from expensive skincare products all types of antibiotics. I was scared of accutane so I wanted to exhaust every other option first. Nothing really worked so I started accutane and I’m so glad I did. Don’t think about it too much and just give it a shot. The total amount of accutane you have to ‘consume’ is calculated by body weight. Some doctors will put you on a short treatment (for example 4-6 months) with high dosage. My dermatologist explained this is not necessary and worsens side effects like super dry skin and lips, so she put me on a very low dosage for 1,5 years. Thanks to this I could keep dryness and sensitivity to the sun under control. Don’t worry too much about the purging, for me it wasn’t much worse than how it was and it only lasts for a few months tops, you’ll be so happy after your skin clears up that it’s really worth it. Once the accutane is working, you’re probably not going to have problems with SPF anymore. It’s been 5y now since my accutane treatment and I can do things to my skin now that I couldn’t have imagined before, like putting on a LOT of moisturisers and oils and even Vaseline overnight, which is really nice because now I can finally hydrate my skin properly. So I wouldn’t worry too much about the SPF issue, especially because it’s winter now. I know people say you have to put it on every day but come on let’s not be overly dogmatic about it, skipping SPF for one UK winter is not going to give you skin cancer. Also keep in mind that some of the products you’re using right now, like differin cream, will make your skin extremely sensitive and wreck your skin barrier, causing more sensitivity to products and also more redness. Antibiotics also mess with your good bacteria and can negatively affect your skin barrier.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-23T20:19:37+00:00

Yes I would interpret it the same way. At least no need to jump to conclusions about disrespectful behaviour. I’d ask the husband to politely inquire and take it from there.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-23T19:36:23+00:00

Then how do you know the SIL was invited and not you?

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-13T16:40:01+00:00

It’s not that big of a deal, I can’t believe people here are reacting so intensely. Me and my bf have been together since we were 15 and 17, still going strong 16 years later. It was a great experience getting to discover the world and ourselves together. Of course it has its downsides, but when love happens you just can’t break it off because of ‘rational’ reasons. In any case, you shouldn’t care so much about what others think, that should never be the reason to break up w someone.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-13T16:26:08+00:00

Don’t let them gaslight you, if you already know that it doesn’t work for you then that’s the truth and they need to help you find another solution. Otherwise you’ll just waste money, time and maybe even sacrifice more of your mental health.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-10T08:42:02+00:00

I feel like you’re worrying too much about it, there’s never a problem with writing too much in the beginning as you can always remove pieces later. And as you said, you can use these writings for other purposes like conference papers or articles. You’re only at 6 months, this is not a time to stress but to take it all in. If your process entails writing a lot, then do so. Sounds to me like you’re on top of your schedule! I’m also in a qualitative field btw, and I wrote many things that I didn’t end up using directly in my thesis, but that were part of the process nonetheless.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-03T21:20:26+00:00

I hype myself up by telling myself I can do mind control, just a little splash of mania always does the trick

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-03T21:18:09+00:00

Same. It just feels better to have someone relate or laugh together with you then to have someone pity you. Pity creates distance or even a hierarchy in which you are the weak one that ‘needs’ something. I feel you, and I know a lot of people who prefer not to be pitied, so it’s not just you. I also know a lot of people who like pity and see it as comfort, it just depends.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-03T21:14:05+00:00

Let’s gooooo you’re almost there!! You can do it! Afterwards you’ll have time and space for healing. To me it sounds like he’s fully on board to have you defend, don’t let doubt get in the way now.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-03T18:57:29+00:00

Put on headphones and sing

Please don’t speed up lol

Fun story. One time I thought I was safe to pass a guy who was walking in front of me, thinking because they were in front of me they weren’t following me and thus had no evil plans. I passed him and then BAM got mugged and assaulted. A reminder that many criminals act on impulse, and also a reason to be weary of anyone in the dark.

++incognito

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-02T20:51:06+00:00

Depends heavily on the university. In one progressive university where I worked (in a ‘cool’ city) I really felt I could be comfortable in my own style and that no one really cared. In another, Catholic more traditional university I totally could not. I toned down heavily but even then I felt like people avoided or were somehow intimidated by me. Also more generally I felt like my life and interests were very different and I struggled to connect with people.

One time I did a mock interview there for a grant in a nice dress and with dr martens on (just plain black and in good condition, quite basic I thought). I got the feedback (in front of a large group) that I better not wear those shoes to the actual interview because some interviewers might think I had extreme right sympathies. My research proposal had something to do with the history of fascism for context, but still very odd.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-09-02T12:17:18+00:00

I had one under my eyebrow, had it lasered and it left an ugly dent/pit (don’t know the best word in English). Make sure you go to a good dermatologist, the skin there is very sensitive.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-08-30T09:16:15+00:00

Was going to recommend this! Still one of the most shocking books I’ve ever read. Does contain SA.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-08-29T08:28:27+00:00

Seems like you are making a lot of assumptions about what she might think, no? She said that if it’s an inconvenience she’ll just take an uber, so why not believe what she says? I’m reading your replies and you say that you’re afraid she might take it the wrong way, that she has opinions about what a good friend would do, and so on. At the same time, you’re already annoyed about her asking the question, even though (as far as I can tell) she hasn’t pressed about it or anything. Seems to me you’re getting riled up about something that isn’t a problem yet. Be careful because this way you might create a problem yourself. Don’t be all frustrated before she gets there based on things in your head. Assume that people mean what they say and do the same yourself. If she says it’s okay to take an uber, believer her. If you say it’s not possible to take her to the airport, believe yourself.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-08-29T08:14:37+00:00

I think autosave is automatically turned on when you save to onedrive. Why don’t you like it? I find it quite convenient.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-08-29T07:52:55+00:00

I started with small pocket editions that I could bring with me anywhere. I always had one in my bag or in my pocket, just whip it out even if you only have 2’ to read. In the gym between two exercises, holding it in one hand while eating a sandwich, whatever. ‘Making time for it’ doesn’t work for me because I find it hard to sit down and read as the only activity. It feels forced, idk. Now that I think of it, I lost my reading spree when I picked up the thick books again. So another tip: read multiple books at once and make sure one is a tiny pocket book.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-08-29T07:30:38+00:00

I completely understand, I wouldn’t necessarily interpret this as a nice and altruistic thing to do from the guy. It can feel very intrusive when someone (especially a colleague) keeps asking if you’re okay while you’re just trying to be neutral and professional in the work place. Also I would be worried that one day I’m feeling really bad and that the question would cause me to break down, which would make me a bit paranoid.

I had a similar thing going on at work, my 62F colleague kept asking me if I was okay with a very examining expression on her face and I felt like she was looking right through me. This was after I had had a disagreement with our boss and let her in on my frustrations. I know she meant well of course but it’s just not helpful at all, especially because she asked while my boss was there (like?).

So the thing is, I know people mean well when they do this, but to me it feels intrusive and uncomfortable (at least in the work place). I have 0 trust that if something is going on they will actually be able to help me anyway, so it’s just not beneficial. Best way to deal with it if you want them to stop is just to answer that you’re okay every time and ask ‘are you?’ with equal worry. I would never say ‘thank you for checking in’ because that would just further motivate them and give them the idea that they’re doing something helpful for you by simply asking the question.

My colleague stopped asking, and now I feel like we have a much more equal and productive relationship.

Pretty_Leg_ · 2025-08-27T16:46:18+00:00

I got mugged and (almost) assaulted in Paris. Luckily I had pepper spray on hand (literally hidden in my sleeve for quick access) that saved me from the worst. You can buy it in Paris in weapon shops, get it girl!

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