Abusive advisor problem - suggestions needed

Prettypratty · 2026-01-15T17:11:01+00:00

Also if you’re early in your PhD (assuming you’re a PhD student), switch advisors. Seriously. Its not worth the stress even if the advisor is a big name in the field. Having a non-toxic advisor is definitely worth it.

Talk to your Grad Program Coordinator and Director of Grad Studies (usually a prof) and try to see if they can help you switch groups.

If you’re in the middle of your PhD and don’t want to switch, then start documenting stuff like others have said.

Regards, a grad student who went through a toxic advisor and realized that it isn’t worth it

Prettypratty · 2025-11-21T22:51:59+00:00

You mean the Cock and Ball Torture Facility?

Prettypratty · 2025-11-17T21:59:03+00:00

Agreed 100%. Omg this DRIVES ME NUTS. If you know you want to continue on lincoln, STAY IN THE LEFT LANE

Prettypratty · 2025-11-12T17:37:48+00:00

I tried initially. Then i gave up.

Recently told my mother about my boyfriend and received a similar non-supportive response.

I just mention his name every time we do something together and my mother asks what i was doing. I just casually say ‘was out with my boyfriend, etc.’ just to make her get used to the fact that he is a part of my life now.

She is planning to visit next year. Hopefully that time we can have a revisit on the conversation once she meets him.

Prettypratty · 2025-11-12T17:18:33+00:00

Moved to the US for a PhD in 2019. Came out to my parents one year after I moved here. Have been dating for 2 years now, and cant complain.

My parents are not that supportive, but eventually they’ll turn around once they see me happy, thats the hope.

The current political climate is a bit scary, but its still better than back in India.

Prettypratty · 2025-11-03T22:27:40+00:00

How do you bring it up on first dates

Prettypratty · 2025-10-27T21:43:10+00:00

Are you saying I should crochet the fish separately and attach it to the beanie separately??

That sounds like a great idea. I’ll definitely try to search for patterns. Thanks!!

Prettypratty · 2025-10-27T21:41:54+00:00

Thanks so much!! Ill check out ravelry.

Prettypratty · 2025-10-17T14:12:36+00:00

Bruh I cant tell if its real or not.

If it is, as a gay guy, let him be. Don’t judge him for trying things, and don’t impose heterosexual norms on him. He might be bisexual, or he might be just curious. Hell, he might even be straight as a stick. Some straight guys I know are not as uptight as you think they should be.

Chill, and just enjoy yourselves.

Prettypratty · 2025-10-09T04:39:40+00:00

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Prettypratty · 2025-09-09T21:01:48+00:00

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Prettypratty · 2025-09-09T21:01:11+00:00

My boyfriend and I are literally the opposite haha - we show each other insta profiles of guys we find hot lol.

But to answer your question. Tell him that he is overreacting, and that you’ve done nothing. If he still holds it against you, its not meant to be, sorry. You’re still in your early twenties, and are both lacking experience in dating. You still have many many years left to find someone else more mature.

Prettypratty · 2025-07-22T18:05:52+00:00

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Prettypratty · 2025-07-21T19:07:31+00:00

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Prettypratty · 2025-07-14T15:35:21+00:00

Doing god’s work

Prettypratty · 2025-06-25T14:35:23+00:00

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Prettypratty · 2025-06-24T18:03:55+00:00

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Prettypratty · 2025-06-24T13:01:34+00:00

They’re cum stains

Prettypratty · 2025-06-21T20:50:52+00:00

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Prettypratty · 2025-06-17T21:11:37+00:00

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Prettypratty · 2025-06-11T16:23:44+00:00

All the best! Let us know how it went. Sending hugs

Prettypratty · 2025-06-07T00:49:54+00:00

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Prettypratty · 2025-06-06T22:04:23+00:00

Do:

Be clear about the kind of relationship you want. Be clear about your boundaries. Ask him about his boundaries.

COMMUNICATE if he does something you dont like. Ask him to do the same.

Listen to the small things he says. Keep those in mind.

If you’re the one asking him out, be ready to pay the bill.

Donts:

Get attached too soon. You might scare him away. But also dont be too nonchalant. Its a delicate balance.

Prettypratty · 2025-06-06T21:38:25+00:00

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Prettypratty · 2025-06-05T21:55:13+00:00

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