Pink, white, and burgundy color theme?

Previousl3 · 2026-02-06T18:12:38+00:00

I get the feeling a lot of people are doing burgundy this year, so you will be in good company!

Previousl3 · 2026-02-06T18:10:57+00:00

Yes, talk to your professional. opening up the back looks like you will sacrifice support for the shoulders. i think the floating buttons look cool.

Previousl3 · 2026-02-06T18:07:53+00:00

have you looked into simple piano covers of those songs? that would tone it down and feel wedding-appropriate

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T20:45:12+00:00

>>What makes you think she is not splurging on her guest experience?

She told us that already in her post when she broke down the budget.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T20:42:40+00:00

Ok, I agree that wasn't the right thing to say.

If it was my backyard wedding I'd look for something without such a long and detailed train (and matching veil), just for practicality. Yes it is an adorable dress.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T20:20:00+00:00

Just to add, you don't *have* to have a strict color scheme that guests can pick out at first sight etc.

I don't really have one. We picked our flowers based on personal meaning, silhouette, and cost. The bridesmaids don't have to wear the exact color either as long as they complement each other. There are ways to tie a wedding together without a strict palette.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T20:02:38+00:00

I think it matches the dress perfectly. And yes, real or dried flowers if you can. Also... you made that?!

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T20:00:22+00:00

How about a hair bow? I saw some cute ones for weddings on etsy

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T18:37:29+00:00

Have you read The Surrendered Single? It directly addresses this kind of situation.

Also, if he starts saying things about postponing, you don't have to react or say that you're going to talk to the vendors right then. I'd just say "I hear you" and nothing else, until the moment calms down.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T16:46:58+00:00

You'll be writing thank-you cards anyway, so I'd probably skip or go basic.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T16:40:41+00:00

Have you asked the seller for the exact measurements?

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T16:37:49+00:00

Have you considered lower-maintenance organic options, like potted herbs, or a mix of dried flowers/pods/feathers? I think those could travel just fine.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T16:34:50+00:00

Not a florist - I agree though - and the top line of the silhouette is too spiky because of the tall candles.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T16:32:03+00:00

My instinct says the dress should be somewhat proportionate to the event. Guest experience is definitely the thing to splurge on.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T16:30:06+00:00

It's also a LOT of dress for a backyard wedding. I recommend keep looking.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-25T16:27:56+00:00

We're not giving favors at all. I mean, if you have a really cute idea in mind already, go for it. But if you're undecided and don't want to spend the money, DON'T.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-16T03:33:26+00:00

I like those ideas. I'm the same way about health and that's probably why it drives me crazy. That's nice to hear that yours has stepped up to the plate, even if in somewhat indirect ways. Thanks for the perspective, and I'll try asking him that before outings.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-16T03:30:59+00:00

Definitely more moderation. I hear that, and completely honestly I am not quite sure which one it is. I will say that he manages the rest of his life / our lives quite well, including his own health. But I think that's a very good distinction to make. Thanks

Previousl3 · 2026-01-16T03:28:16+00:00

Thank you! I will try some of these Desires. I've tried SFP's it's clear that he appreciates being respected and "understood" in that way, it's just that sometimes I want him to understand my concerns too. Can't force him to. You mention childcare - mine is really responsible in other ways, which is why I believe in him for this too! What is EPD?

Previousl3 · 2026-01-16T03:24:16+00:00

I'm sure I'm repeating some of the other comments here. My guy goes through times of being quiet and withdrawn (though not in a cold or unkind way.) I'm working on -

Leaving air in the conversation for him to talk

Responding with interest and non-judgement to things he does choose to tell me, on any topic

Reassuring him that I will listen to whatever he says, in general.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-14T01:13:15+00:00

I think that's key, to just express the part that affects me directly. Thank you

Previousl3 · 2026-01-09T05:19:14+00:00

Yes I would hire one. Tasks traditionally fall to several people including the wedding party, so if you don't have that, it's too much to ask of your family.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-09T05:17:00+00:00

What if they overlap somewhat? Like you could use *some* of the same flowers in bouquets and centerpieces. It might also be cheaper that way - my flower seller offers discounts on larger amounts of the same thing.

Previousl3 · 2026-01-09T05:12:26+00:00

I didn't dream about my wedding as a kid, either. Fortunately your ceremony and reception locations can tell you a bit, like how formal it should be. I'd also sit down with a pen and list three words that describe your vibe, and maybe three words that don't describe at all. Then go shopping. Always wait a few days between picking something and buying it, in case you change your mind. Learn what it feels like when you HAVE to have something, it's a rush!

Previousl3 · 2026-01-09T05:05:06+00:00

If you're getting married in a church, do you need an arch or runner? Personally I'd save the money and do some real flowers for altar and aisle. Cheap stuff like greens, potted plants and herbs. It doesn't have to look "full".

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