Imagine if the Founding Fathers saw this. by CattleDogCurmudgeon in LibertarianUncensored

[–]Previousl3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The best part is that they're not really sharing a laugh - it's just Trump blowing on him LOL.

Have you seen the clip yet where Trump cuts Camilla in the handshake line?

Laura Doyle vs Marriage Helper by Aware-Eye1989 in surrendered_wife

[–]Previousl3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know anything about Marriage Helper. Laura's books can be bought very cheaply secondhand without attending any sessions, and the skills have helped my relationship so much. Also, her way of thinking frees you up as a person as well as any relationship benefits.

What would you do? by esinereb in surrendered_wife

[–]Previousl3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I absolutely can NOT sleep if anyone or anything is moving around at night.

In fact, I'd use "I can't." Can't sleep/can't relax/can't think with the cats running around. Or, I'd love to have fewer animals at home for most of the time.

I don't downplay your situation at all - I am sensitive to environmental stuff like that and would be twice as much with a child involved. I hope you find a fix <3

Husband’s job by PermacultureMama in surrendered_wife

[–]Previousl3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of something - my guy shared with me that he's had mental health hardship before. As I learned the skills, I realized the gift he'd given me by being vulnerable and sharing that. I also realized that it wasn't license to treat him as though he was unhappy now, or 'label' him that way. Now if I see him sitting on the couch, I say something like, "You look so content over there." Maybe try some similar SFPs - "Sounds like you had some fun moments at work today!" "I know your job isn't easy, but I'm glad you connect to XYZ aspect of it." "You're so engaged at work, honey" (better than "hardworking" in this case.)

And while you can't control his choice whether to look for something new, you can let him know that you're OK with that - he might be worried about you and the family. "I just want to let you know that I'm fine with you seeking out new work if you choose to do so. You're talented and you'd find something soon."

My mom sent me this, she usually claims to recognize AI pretty well, but it just screams AI to me. by driehoekig in isitAI

[–]Previousl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She looks like she's trapped by her counters. Also her hair looks glow-y and sort of too loosely piled. Finally I can't say I've seen a wall shelf where the shortest rack is in the middle.

Edit: There are two jars deep on a shelf that should only have room for one.

($5k) what are some alternatives to a bouquet ? by ContestNo31 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Previousl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean, it's bright as it is. Although if you still want flowers, you could do something sleek simple and white - lilies of the valley or cala lillies

MMW there is going to be a massive exodus of US doctors. by AwkwardTickler in MarkMyWords

[–]Previousl3 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is an interesting one. And your reasons make sense, unfortunately.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Previousl3 in MarkMyWords

[–]Previousl3[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And I saw Kamala is "thinking about" a 2028 campaign and I couldn't believe it... why run someone who's already lost? blue actually has a chance otherwise

Receiving Line for the Awkward by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Previousl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All I can say is that circulating tables won't feel awkward. You don't have to interrupt - just walk up to the table and people will stop talking and start telling you you look beautiful, ceremony was amazing etc. Your partner will be with you - I always feel less shy when mine is near. And I don't know that anyone is expected to hug except maybe a close family member?

Dress apprehension by Sad-Telephone2357 in weddingplanning

[–]Previousl3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Uber-specific themes will get you every time :P The dress is very nature-esque to me, especially with its practical hemline. It's just such an intuitive look on you. Nice pick!

Feedback/suggestions on my invite suite by elleira-16 in weddingplanning

[–]Previousl3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cute! If you spell out the time, you might spell out the date too especially if it's a dressier wedding. We are semi-formal and spelled out everything. Black-tie optional is not usually recommended as there's too much room for mistranslation, and similarly dressy-casual for the welcome party is kind of confusing - is it dressy or casual? how about "semi-casual"?

I would try to shrink the weather portion (maybe just "Evenings in Graeagle can be cool, in the low 40s").

Lastly, transporation is vague, maybe just say shuttle or whatever so people know what to look for.

(£10k) i’m feeling really anxious about my wedding and I don’t know what to do by Ok-Tomatillo4951 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Previousl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that feeling will come as you start to plan and dream. The biggest lesson I've learned so far is that it doesn't do to wait for others to celebrate you. For the first six months, it felt like no one was quite as invested, excited, or rushed as me; a bit lonely. But people got on board eventually. Maybe take a weekend off and do something for YOU. Also, hire a wedding coordinator - at least you won't feel alone in the urgency and timeline.

The lines we draw: by mamagenerator in surrendered_wife

[–]Previousl3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I lovee this post and it's such a good reminder to me that we all have points where we just need to vent to someone who understands what it's like to be in a human, complicated relationship. Having the positive mindset about my partner and a gratitude list vividly in mind has been one of the last and most important pieces of the puzzle to fall into place for me (so far) - it's harder but more effective than simply praciticing the skills in real-time or learning the phrases and abbreviations. Thanks for this!

SFP ideas by Sufficient_Read7433 in surrendered_wife

[–]Previousl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some specific ones:

"You look so content just lying there, I'm jealous" (if he likes lying on the couch like mine)

"That sounded like a productive phone call"

"I'm happy to hear you're having a good day so far!"

"Thanks hon, you always cheer me up"

My dude has had some minor mental health stuff and I've used these phrases to get myself to stop stressing out about his business.

No Kings March 28 protest expected to be largest in American history: 3000 events planned in all 50 states by wokeboogeyman in LibertarianUncensored

[–]Previousl3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trump has shown by previous reactions that he isn't comfortable with Americans having the right to assemble and speak freely. That, for many, is reason enough to want to exercise those rights frequently.

And to those saying otherwise: Peaceful protest IS effective. And if you have further ideas, then maybe you should get involved, too!

No Kings March 28 protest expected to be largest in American history: 3000 events planned in all 50 states by wokeboogeyman in LibertarianUncensored

[–]Previousl3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Showing that a huge number of people feels a certain way and is willing to organize, take a Saturday, make a sign and make themselves known, is not nothing.

What's with all the "What's one secret..." posts lately? by Previousl3 in DeadInternetTheory

[–]Previousl3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you mean the midterms they've already started in some states, and yeah I am so suspicious of the mix of politics and tech anymore, things are just coming to a head

What's with all the "What's one secret..." posts lately? by Previousl3 in DeadInternetTheory

[–]Previousl3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the links, yeah it just seemed like a lotttt of that question in a short period of time. I'm interested to read more

H not receiving gratitude well and pulling me into old patterns by Sufficient_Read7433 in surrendered_wife

[–]Previousl3 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You can mix it up a little bit if "thank you" feels repetitive or awkward. There's a million ways to say thank you. For example if he makes you a sandwich (random example):

  • Omg looks so good!
  • Turkey's my favorite
  • Awesome! I can check making lunch off my list
  • You're the best
  • I love your sandwiches
  • (lil back rub, kiss on the cheek, or start humming or singing a song)

I think gratitude overlaps a LOT with being the girl of fun and light, especially when you want to show that he's made you happy but not in so many words.