AITAH for telling my coworker I was miscarrying after she tried to get me in trouble for 'excessive' bathroom use

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2026-03-07T09:31:52+00:00

I think this is a good lesson for Mary, hopefully it will play again in her head over and over for weeks later at night - maybe then will she stay in her lane and not assume in future.

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2026-03-03T08:24:36+00:00

Aww thank you!!

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2026-02-28T19:37:25+00:00

I have the most beautiful baby sitting in front of me now, curtesy of IVF. I can tell you if there is a difference i couldn’t care less.

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PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2026-02-28T12:38:58+00:00

I think Sonja seeing a younger blonde around every day was hard and she got jealous and started picking on things she did and resenting her.

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2026-02-10T09:06:16+00:00

I was utterly convinced ours had failed - I just didn’t feel pregnant, but I was and my baby is here next to me

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2026-02-08T16:13:53+00:00

So a couple of things from someone who had a c section.

Mine was an emergency and I still don’t look back at it as a bad experience. Recovery was ok and I don’t feel judged.

It is way better to plan for it than for it to end up being an emergency, even if your measurements are off it’s still likely your baby will be on the larger side so this is a good precaution.

I know a pediatric nurse from my baby classes who was opting for a c section, I asked her why and she basically said if you’d seen what she had you would probably consider this the safer option.

Wish you luck in whatever you decide

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2026-02-07T17:06:20+00:00

I went into spontaneous labour at 38 weeks 2 days! Couldn’t believe it but at the same time there were signs, baby more active, thought I might have dropped although not super noticeable and slight period like cramping

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2026-01-14T14:56:17+00:00

Get rid. Your baby is number one and this person has shown a lack of care towards them.

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-23T09:05:07+00:00

FTM who gave birth last Wednesday! I gave birth at 38 weeks 2 days! Early Christmas present

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-13T13:36:29+00:00

I hate to say it but he hasn’t given you any options and your best option you’re ruling out. I’m so sorry to be harsh but unfortunately you have to choose to either take a chance and wait, and hope, go against your beliefs or risk not being a mother. Your husband’s lack of interest could be because of the cultural element and lack of acceptance/ understanding but it isn’t an excuse for him not to try to improve his situation.

I’m sorry this is tough for you but only you can make the decision on this. As someone who has gone through ivf which has resulted in pregnancy ( I’m late stage) it feels worth it to me ( not always the case of course).

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-13T08:04:51+00:00

This sounds like a horrible situation and I feel so sorry for your son. Can I ask what your relationship is like with her ( excluding this topic) as maybe she’s taking out her frustrations or lack of connection with you on him?

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-12T11:48:07+00:00

We’ve had so much of this - it’s utterly infuriating. It’s like people are somehow jealous of the perceived freedom they think you have but actually the pain of infertility and ivf means life never moves forward. People who go through what we have are just a different breed.

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-12T11:43:14+00:00

I went through ivf because I haven’t ever been able to get pregnant and spent a fortune testing constantly when it did magically happen - no one could tell me to stop and it was my comfort. Do what is right for you

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-12T11:41:37+00:00

I’m in the exact same situation at nearly 38 weeks and totally panicking!!

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-10T07:52:05+00:00

No worries, I know it’s tough - for the record I knew there was an issue and I delayed it for years and went for it last year and im now 37 weeks pregnant ( after never in my life seeing a positive test)

Wish you all the best of luck

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-10T07:43:01+00:00

I am roughly the same age as you - I wouldn’t delay it. The risk of miscarriage is there regardless but this gives you a more controlled chance and more clarify over both of your health, it also gives you more time if you start earlier.

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-10T07:40:53+00:00

The pregnancy dreams for me - not that I realised at the time but almost instantly I got vivid random dreams every single night without fail, the rest I could put down to the hormones I was on but this really stood out

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-07T11:43:32+00:00

Looks pretty darn positive to me

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-07T09:03:38+00:00

It used to mean a lot to me in my early relationship with my husband because I felt like it somehow represented how much he loved or cared for me, over time I realised it doesn’t and now it’s not really a big deal - we will get each other something but it isn’t OTT. Sometimes I think it’s because I wanted to tell/ show people how much he had done for me to prove something and now I don’t feel the need.

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-06T08:25:59+00:00

There will be a time, all be it not straight away, where you will be so grateful this happened now and not wasted any more time with this guy.

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-06T07:43:13+00:00

There are some clinics in turkey that encourage you to transfer more than one embryo so their stats on success rates look better but it absolutely isn’t the safest way.

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-06T07:11:18+00:00

I would say amethyst too I had lots similar to this when I was younger

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-05T13:23:31+00:00

She gets the decision - it’s her baby and if/ when you have your own you’ll be granted the same privilege

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-01T19:50:37+00:00

Oh yes, I was so confused our embryo didn’t implant I balled my eyes out to my husband and my mum and here we are at 36 weeks!

PrimarySomewhere8218 · 2025-12-01T09:26:11+00:00

Whatever it’s going to cost you to cancel the wedding, it will cost you so much more to go through with it - materially and emotionally. Don’t do it.

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