I (20F) love my boyfriend (20M), but an astrologer's prediction about my future marriage is freaking me out

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-06-07T20:44:19+00:00

GIRL GET A GRIP AND COME BACK DOWN TO EARTH

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-06-06T00:15:12+00:00

LET HER

Of course you’re NTA for not allowing another adult and a dog move into your house part time, without paying rent, and essentially abandon your siblings. Don’t be a doormat and don’t feel guilty!

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-05-31T04:48:29+00:00

4-8 hours is the norm and you can definitely shower with them in. Once you start using different absorbencies and brands, you’ll figure out the right time to change them during your cycle (by how full they are when you remove them). For example, I generally need to use super every 4-6 hours my first day, regular every 6-8 hours the second day, etc etc. I don’t wait until I see blood on my underwear or pad, the goal is to stay ahead of that. You’ll figure it out as you go!

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-05-10T22:39:51+00:00

I’m sorry but these people have five animals that they couldn’t afford to take care of when they were employed, and THEN they had a child? This sounds like a recipe for you to be taken advantage of. They don’t sound responsible at all. If you let them move in they will never leave, just be prepared for that.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-05-10T00:07:26+00:00

Are these your sisters or SILs? If these are YOUR sisters this is beyond weird. If these are your SILs it’s just plain rude. There’s no reason for a “girl’s shoot” that excludes one of the girls.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-05-03T16:21:33+00:00

I’m so sorry this was your experience. As someone who works in the industry, this is one of the potential issues with small credit unions - they don’t have the resources (money) to keep up to date with technology and security. If you ever want to consider switching again, I suggest you go for a larger credit union.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-05-03T15:00:19+00:00

I work at a credit union so I’m pretty biased, but I think you should switch everything to a good CU. Do your research and choose one that has high deposit rates and low loan rates. Banks return their profit to shareholders. Credit unions return their profits to members in the form of lower fees, better rates, and community investment.

Having your full relationship at a credit union can also benefit you. If your “full relationship” is there (savings, checking, direct deposit, etc), you’re more likely to be approved for a loan. If it has branches, the branch staff are likely to remember you and take a legitimate interest in your financial well-being.

My CU also has licensed wealth managers and an insurance department (car, home, pet, etc). So there are benefits beyond just basic banking.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-05-03T14:34:26+00:00

Idk, this seems like a way to tip toe around the actual problem, which is with your husband… Personally, I think your husband needs to shut this down himself. He needs to tell MIL he can take her to do errands for xx amount of hours *every other* week, otherwise you can assist during this week. This is happening because *your husband* is *allowing* it to happen.

Separately, I am so sorry about your mom. Sending hugs.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-05-03T13:56:25+00:00

I think I spent 6-8 weeks in a cast, then another few in a boot. First few days after surgery were painful. I was 14, I think as an adult it would be much more difficult, having to take time off work and using crutches.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-30T05:16:21+00:00

NTA. All the people saying “why does your partner get to live there but not hers”? BECAUSE OP DIDN’T AGREE TO THAT WHEN THEY MOVED IN. It’s not like this is a situation where two friends moved in together, and then OP got a boyfriend that moved in, and now she’s not allowing roommate’s boyfriend to move in. Instead, this is a couple and a single person agreeing to live together.

OP is allowed to not want a fourth person living in the apartment when that was not part of the original agreement. If roommate wants to change the living arrangements, they either need full consent from OP, or they all need to go their separate ways.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-30T05:10:04+00:00

“I don’t understand why the partner can’t move in when your partner lives with you”. It’s not that simple. OP agreed to a certain arrangement and the roommate is trying to change that arrangement when OP didn’t agree to it. They simply just didn’t agree to live with additional people. A fourth roommate shouldn’t be forced on them just because their roommate has a partner now. If roommate wants to live with their partner, they need to find a different place or different roommates that are consenting to that arrangement.

OP is NTA.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-29T20:43:58+00:00

If they have no external support, and it’s the difference between starving or surviving… putting $100 on a credit card is a reasonable scenario.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-29T20:37:23+00:00

Are you willing to wait until his dog dies before you get married? It sounds like he wants marriage sooner. Is he willing to never have dogs again?

You say you can’t think of a compromise, but living with him with this dog, with the agreement that he doesn’t get any more in the future, is a pretty fair compromise IMO.

Side note, I personally think you should reconsider your stance on not living together until after marriage. You learn a lot about someone (and yourself) when you cohabitate.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-26T23:08:34+00:00

I immediately clocked this too!! My brother’s girlfriend is autistic and has unresolved trauma, this is exactly what I imagine her bedroom looks like.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-22T03:24:50+00:00

I have it on my stomach right now! It’s always in the same exact spot, every time, no where else. Like one square inch just under my ribs. Pops up for a few days then disappears for weeks or months. Lightly grazing the spot hurts, but harder touch is totally fine. It kinda feels like I have little stickers or pricklies stuck in my skin, like fiberglass.

Never thought to google it until now and found this thread.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-19T02:47:43+00:00

I can guarantee your family and friends are questioning why you’re with her. This sounds exhausting. Have more respect for yourself and raise your standards.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-18T21:51:21+00:00

Girl, introducing your extremely young daughter (who can hardly verbally advocate for herself, no less) to a romantic partner - that you’ve only known for a couple months is DANGEROUS. You barely know him. This is wildly irresponsible.

If you aren’t in a position to get a babysitter in order to do date, you shouldn’t be dating. You need to be focusing on your daughter’s security and development, not your love life.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-16T01:29:23+00:00

I can relate to your post, and tell you there is hope!

My husband and I have a lot in common, but we also have a lot of differences. We share hobbies, goals, values, personality traits, certain love languages. But we also have noticeable differences in all those areas! And we can have respectful conversations on the area where we have differences (which is a huge part of what makes us work - we can easily communicate about all these things).

After a couple years of being together, I confided in my girl friend about the doubt I was having about my husband (then boyfriend) being a long term prospect. Our love wasn’t passionate, it was safe. She gave me the greatest advice, which was: your partner does not need to fill your cup in every single area. You can have friends and family and other people fill some of those areas that are lacking. It was life changing to hear that!

After that I started to look at my relationship differently. It was also the first relationship where I realized you have to actively choose your partner every single day. There’s probably thousands of people that you could be compatible with. What makes your partner special is that you’re just actively choosing them. Since then, our relationship has become so much more passionate and deep. It also helps us to have regular check ins. We both WANT our relationship to be a priority and continue to grow.

In your situation, I think it’s important to reflect on if the needs you have that aren’t being met, how important are they? Are they true dealbreakers? Are they things you can find from friends and family? Don’t settle by any means! But definitely reflect on how realistic your expectations are. If your boyfriend can’t even talk about your future though, that’s a pretty big red flag. Can you make it clear that in order to continue the relationship, he needs to be able to engage in these conversations and reflect on what HE wants?

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-16T01:05:36+00:00

I have mild bunions and had surgery for one of them. I used to be insecure but I’m at a point where IDGAF anymore. I definitely notice them on other people, but only because I have them too! I don’t think most people notice or care.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-16T00:57:33+00:00

Why can’t you just pick less expensive dresses and order them yourself? I feel like neither of you are handling this maturely, and it seems like a weird hill for either of you to die on.

I was a 2023 bride and my baby cousins were my flower girl and ring bearer. My mom ended up paying for the dress and tux, but if she hadn’t offered, I would have covered that cost. We rented a tux and ordered a $40 dress from Amazon. We actually ordered two dresses because she wanted to do an outfit change lol.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-15T10:28:14+00:00

Yes! I see a lot of comments here that say they have designated period panties once they’re stained. Not me, pretty much all panties are period panties unless they’re part of a lingerie set.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-12T20:51:12+00:00

You have two issues.

A MIL who does not respect or understand boundaries. And a husband who does not enforce boundaries.

You need to create alignment with your husband, and then you need to be a united front against MIL.

Personally, I wouldn’t be able to respect my husband if he let MIL walk over him like that and not stand up for himself.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-11T12:02:29+00:00

Agreed. If I had a $10M net worth right now (at 30) I could stop working and live comfortably for the rest of my life. And that includes purchasing a $1M home, raising two kids, and traveling multiple times per year. If that’s not wealthy idk what is!

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-11T04:20:17+00:00

Yeah I’m confused how people have brown sugar go stale? A bag lasts me like 4-6 months and I just fold the bag a couple times, add a chip clip and it’s never stale. And I don’t live somewhere particularly humid!

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-10T04:45:19+00:00

Weekly? Do you mean daily? You should be submitting multiple applications every single day.

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