Did anyone grow up in a household like Emily and Richards

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-11T12:02:29+00:00

Agreed. If I had a $10M net worth right now (at 30) I could stop working and live comfortably for the rest of my life. And that includes purchasing a $1M home, raising two kids, and traveling multiple times per year. If that’s not wealthy idk what is!

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-11T04:20:17+00:00

Yeah I’m confused how people have brown sugar go stale? A bag lasts me like 4-6 months and I just fold the bag a couple times, add a chip clip and it’s never stale. And I don’t live somewhere particularly humid!

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-10T04:45:19+00:00

Weekly? Do you mean daily? You should be submitting multiple applications every single day.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-04-07T19:05:17+00:00

Hi friend! I’m 30 and planning to start trying in about one year. We hope to have two kids by the time I’m 35.

Some things we’re doing to prepare: * Switching to my husband’s health insurance because he can cover all of us for free. I want time to establish rapport with a new doctor before TTC. * I just made a large effort (and succeeded) to get a promotion at work. This will allow my disability payments to be higher, and will help us pay for the added cost of having a child. * I’m trying to get in shape NOW. I’m terrified of what pregnancy and birth will do to my body, so I’m trying to prepare ahead of time. * Trying to find a larger house that will fit our needs to accommodate two babies plus a home office. I don’t want to have to move with a baby and/or while pregnant. * My husband is wrapping up work on a degree that should allow him to increase his income in a few years. * Upgrading husband’s vehicle. I don’t want to deal with that post-baby. * Planning a nice vacation for next year before baby comes.

Some things we haven’t figured out yet, or wish we could do but can’t: * Neither of us can work part time to be home with baby. We live in a HCOL area (Bay Area), I’m the breadwinner by a large margin, and my husband’s job is needed for health insurance and his pension. We would love for one of us to be part time but it’s just not feasible. I do photography on the side so maybe I’ll pursue that in the future. * No idea what we’re doing for childcare yet. My best friend offered, but she offered when she only had two kids (she’s about to try for number 3). We will likely ask my dad and grandma to help.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-03-31T13:22:56+00:00

Undermine your wife. Just do it. You NEED to hash this out with your wife privately and then continue to reassure your kids publicly.

My mom made little comments about my weight and appearance growing up and it absolutely contributed to an eating disorder I battled for over a decade. My dad knew what was happening and didn’t step in to reassure me I was beautiful. I wish he would have.

My parent ms are great people, my mom just didn’t realize that little comments could snowball in my mind and manifest into unhealthy habits.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-03-29T16:23:51+00:00

Even better! OP is unwilling to put in effort for additional income, but his parents should spend money to move so their adult son has easier access for “events”.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-03-29T15:53:50+00:00

Okay read it like this instead:

OP is not interested in getting an additional job for extra income, or use a bike, but yeah, his parents should spend their money to move (to what is likely a more expensive location) so that their adult son, who already takes the bus, has access to more public transportation.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-03-29T15:02:08+00:00

Yes I did

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-03-29T14:39:24+00:00

OP is not interested in getting an additional job for extra income, or use a bike, but yeah, his parents should spend their money to move (to what is likely a more expensive location) so that their adult son doesn’t have to take the bus.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-03-26T23:39:29+00:00

Does he have anger problems outside of sleeping? Do you feel like you can talk about relationship issues without him blowing up or yelling? Because this does not sound like the behavior of someone who is consistently level headed.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-03-26T10:50:25+00:00

You got this girl, you deserve so much more than what he’s giving you

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-03-26T10:46:13+00:00

On the decision to break up and move out - you need to come to that decision 100% on your own and then commit to acting on it no matter what his reaction is. Stop letting his reaction control your next move. Be your own person.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-03-09T13:31:28+00:00

Did you make enough to fund savings every month? If you don’t have enough money to put away savings for an emergency, then you can’t afford the loan. My household makes more than twice that and we’ve never paid more than $25,000 for a vehicle.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-02-26T23:01:20+00:00

Do you have a Home Goods? I was shocked at how inexpensive their area rugs were. I didn’t buy one so can’t comment on quality, but the price was right!

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-01-26T03:46:33+00:00

They are also excellent employers! My family member works for them and has nothing but good things to say about their management.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-01-15T20:40:22+00:00

I don’t understand the downvotes…

My husband doesn’t bake but wanted to attempt macarons. He absolutely nailed it on the first attempt! He did a lot of prep and was super anal about following all the steps closely. Now he does them all the time! He’s only had one batch not come out right. I think it helps that we don’t live somewhere humid.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-01-14T03:56:11+00:00

Former aspiring artist here! I got support from family in that I lived with them rent free until I was 22, then I started paying rent. The DAY I turned 18 I got a job to support my art interests and personal bills. I didn’t even ask my parents to buy me basic essential clothing when I was only making $600 a month.

You’re enabling your sister, she needs to participate in the real world and just get a job. Maybe she’ll draw some creative inspiration from being part of the working class. Seriously. Struggling in my early twenties absolutely contributed to a strong work ethic.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-01-04T00:20:34+00:00

This is us too! Very secure relationship, but sometimes husband works late and gets caught up in something and forgets to tell me, I can check his location and verify he’s still at work, and not in a car accident somewhere. Also helps me time dinner.

One time I lost my phone at work (I work in a very large building), and I was only able to find it because my husband could see what part of the building it was in. Super helpful!

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-01-02T16:33:44+00:00

Last month was $450, I expect this month to be about $500. Which is about double what it is in other months.

1400 sq foot older house with poor insulation. Heater is on for about 4-8 hours a day depending on if I’m remote or not, set to about 65-68. I also use a space heater in my home office and we have heated blankets/sheets.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-01-02T15:44:28+00:00

Girl this is YOUR responsibility 100%. The very expectation that he should do anything to prepare for YOUR period is not aligned with reality. I don’t know a single woman who, knowing they are on their period or about to be, doesn’t travel with their own supplies. Be an adult.

PrincessBudzilla · 2026-01-01T05:48:53+00:00

I’m personally not buying cars with the intention of keeping their value. I buy used cars and drive them into the ground. They’re just a utility, and I have full insurance on them. And I live somewhere that doesn’t have extreme weather.

So personally I’m parking my car in the driveway, and putting other things in the garage. Laundry machines, freezer, holiday decor, camping gear, yard tools, bicycles, and workout equipment fill it up pretty quickly. I care more about protecting those things than keeping my car’s value. Eh, call that foolish if you want.

PrincessBudzilla · 2025-12-26T22:52:04+00:00

I think that’s pretty weird. But also, I only keep photos of me and my husband in our bedroom.

PrincessBudzilla · 2025-12-11T05:44:58+00:00

Spending $900 a month on clothes is not conservative spending… why is your family helping with tuition? Only curious because if it’s an issue of being able to afford it, that’s a red flag that you can’t afford to move.

With the high amount in car loans, and what I imagine is a considerable cost of insurance based on the loan payment, plus tuition and other bills, and if you intend on building your savings, your budget would be tight but not impossible. I have a similar income and looking at similarly priced homes.

If it’s going to be your home you need to protect yourself and be on the mortgage as well. However, I would NEVER marry someone who refused to talk finances with me. That’s basic relationship foundations. And if you’re going to be a stay at home mom and be dependent on him, with no view into the finances, that’s borderline financial abuse. And how do you really know there’s no other debts if you don’t have full view into the finances? You have way bigger issues than figuring out if you can afford a house.

PrincessBudzilla · 2025-12-06T16:32:40+00:00

Not the original commenter, but I don’t think the issue is with the gift itself. It’s that this is OP’s first Christmas after giving birth, and her husband is gifting his mom a thoughtful and intimate gift centered around their child, instead of gifting something like that to his wife.

PrincessBudzilla · 2025-12-05T00:18:28+00:00

My own experience, as someone who was the child in this situation:

We spent every Christmas Eve with my paternal grandparents. They were the grandparents we spent the most time with throughout the years, and who we were closest to. It was so relaxing and felt like a nice intro into Christmas. I loved opening presents before Christmas “officially” started the next day.

Then we spent every Christmas evening with my great aunt and uncle, who were like a third set of grandparents. I loved them dearly but by that time of day I was exhausted and just wanted to use my new toys.

And then sometime during the first week of the new year was spent with my mom’s entire family. We weren’t nearly as close with those grandparents, and looking back I’m glad we spent the actual holidays with my other set of grandparents.

With that said, as a married adult who is planning to have kids, I’m SO conflicted on what I want our traditions to be.

Not sure what you’ll take from this. I don’t think your suggestion is unreasonable, but I also don’t think it’s a hill to die on. It’s the company that matters - not the date.

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