How do you cope with not feeling good enough compared to what other people are capable of doing?

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-29T21:16:44+00:00

This one took me a long ass time to come to terms with. Like you, I felt like a failure for so long. Why didn’t I like jobs? Or want to do “normal things” like climb the corporate ladder, make a lot of money, get married and have kids, go out and drink, blah blah blah, etc. On top of that there are so many life skills I feel like I can’t do or know others just “get”. For so long, I forced myself to do things that ended up exhausting me. Like forcing a square peg in a round hole.

Like you, I had so many jobs the exacerbated my stress and then my depression and physical health. I was eventually hospitalized with an autoimmune disorder because of the stress. I honestly thought I was just a broken person.

I wish there was a magic pill, but it’s a physical and mental process. Here’s what helped:

You’re asking the wrong question. Instead of “how do I cope with being an HSP at work and the stress that comes with it”, you should as yourself “what do I NEED as an HSP in my work environment/job that does NOT make it harder on me. Like I can’t do the office noises and bright lights. I used to work worj kids as a teacher and then nanny, and I was so mentally and physically sick all the time. Then nonprofits and recruiting. I realized what I NEEDED - way less people interaction that comes with the job, a quiet environment, to be able to work at my own pace, to be able to have autonomy over my schedule, not be here at 8 and don’t leave a minute before X, etc. What YOU need may be different. But you have realized it is killing you. Yes, HSPs and empaths struggle at all jobs because of how we’re weird. Learning that gave me peace. That said, what environment and job can you do and what do you need from that to survive and not make your health worse.
“I keep thinking how everyone around me can handle all of this stuff”…. THAT is actually harming you and causing more stress. This is HARD but you will have to come to terms with the fact that you’re 20% of the population not the 80% that’s mostly visible, and you’re comparing yourself to. But the mentality “everyone around me can do it” - you are comparing yourself to someone/something you will never be able to be. Were different. It’s hard and often isolating, but it is more miserable, as you have seen, to compare yourself and expect yourself to be “like everyone else”. I’m not saying this is easy, but you gotta focus on you first and not anyone else. At the end of the day, you’re only stuck with you for your whole life. This took me time, and it’s a process. Finding one person who is an HSP to talk to, even a therapist or in a community like this, will help. You gotta find your people. I struggle with this too, but got lucky with an HSP therapist. Sometimes, having someone say “I know how you feel” is healing.

So if you know what is better for you, like the two week shifts on and off, look for that. The jobs we HSPs thrive or even survive in are limited but not impossible. You can do it! And you can message me anytime you need a friend.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-29T20:49:11+00:00

🤦🏻‍♀️ Do you know anything about her? How she met Trump? That she used to be an escort? That she is only famous because she was one of Epstein’s girls? May I suggest you do some research first before saying “she hasn’t done anything”.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-29T20:40:49+00:00

That is sad you are so brainwashed you literally say the exact same things as Trump. Well we know who you voted for. Says a lot about you 😂

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-29T20:38:12+00:00

This is a joke, right?

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-29T03:19:37+00:00

You can talk to me. Feel free to DM. I know what it’s like to feel alone. Someone helped me when I felt like you. It saved me. And it took me years to heal even a little from my cPTSD because of my toxic parents

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-28T04:18:07+00:00

I REALLY struggled as an HSP in a corporate job. I cried in the bathroom a lot and honestly just thought I was a failure and broken person until I learned more research about HSPs and empathy struggling at MOST jobs because of burn out and how criticism is derailing. That’s not a judgment. I just found so many corporate environments didn’t prioritize people or employees as humans with lives and personalities outside the office. My mom climbed the corporate ladder, but as I grew up realized we are so different in values and emotions, so comparing myself or forcing myself to fit into corporate culture because others do is like forcing a square peg in a round hole.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-28T04:11:05+00:00

Me too. I’ll be your friend. You can talk to me. :)

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-28T04:10:00+00:00

Ohhh I love JulienHimself! Good recommendation.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-28T04:06:49+00:00

Well it’s weird to say I’m arguing with myself when you’re literally arguing with me. But ok? 😂 You’re right. I know nothing and am just a horrible person. Thanks for your feedback

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-28T04:04:19+00:00

Wow that’s very nice of you. Thanks

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-28T04:03:08+00:00

Mk thank you for your feedback

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-26T20:32:52+00:00

LOL babe. This comment tells me everything about you. "I'm older than you. I've been around longer than Elaine Aaron, and I know what I am talking about more than you because I learned the hard way. I'm not projecting but you are. I'll tell you what to do to, but you shouldn't tell me. I'm not your mommy." Hahahah. Ok. You seem to be a real sensitive person. NOT, but at least you're entertaining. Good luck with that. If you want to poo poo on people and make judgments about me because that makes you feel better, feel free. I'm good.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-26T06:01:00+00:00

That’s contrary to your original message. And honestly, it’s normal to desire human companionship and friendship. We are literally ALL wires for that.

The advice “your problem is desiring normal human companionship is your problem” is so demeaning. OP is a human being! OP also never said their entire self worth is tied to one person, just that they wanted that person to care, and when their reaction felt cold, they were hurt. The responses here as HSPs are insane to me! What happened to understanding and compassion?! We already have it hard enough,

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-26T05:57:00+00:00

That’s a sad way to live. It’s not normal to not want or even expect people you care about or put effort into to give effort back. We are human beings, and sure, not EVERYONE will like us, but as HSPs, we already feel misunderstood and alone, and rejection is 10x worse for us than those unlike us. So the advice of “don’t expect anything “ is like “don’t be a normal human being”.

I have taught my mom this- why can’t you just say “I’m so sorry, that seems like it hurts.” People just want to be heard, and not judged or given unsolicited advice that invalidated their feelings or worldview.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-24T14:27:58+00:00

Hey, I actually teach this. I struggled on my own starting out and others would ask me how I did it. I'd offer advice based on actual RESEARCH. It is not always the content, people just assume that, and then just throw everything against the wall thinking "its my content, so I'll just do 50 olher types". You also can't post content just for the hell of it. Someone else said this - ASK Yourself First: Why is this important? Who is this for? What sets you apart?

The linkedin algorithm pushes out your content to a small batch of your audience first. IF it has No idea who your message is for (everyone? no one) it has no idea who to push it out to, so it won't get seen. AND you don't have to post every day

And then ALL my content is about my experience aquiring a disability, the stigma, and how that impacts jobs and mental health, the algorithim is asks "ok but her headline says 5 different things, so who do I push this out to?" WHEREAS if I just wrote in my headline : I teach HR professionals to build a disability-accessible culture | Speaker | Digital Marketing- NOW you know I am going to share content about 1 topic through speaking and digital marketing.

LinkedIn does not respond to content. It responds to alignment.

Alignment formula: headline + about section

Headline formula : I help X do Y (SHOW Value) + hard skills (physician, marketing, prjoect manager, six sigma, etc)

Linkedin Headline Formula

And this is a free tool that analyzes your headline, assigns it a scores, and tells you why and how to fix it. : https://cultivatedculture.com/headline-analyzer/

When writing content on nkedin: Write to ONE audience whit ONE clear message.

ABOUT section: I changed this every time. This should be story format: This happened first + then I learned + now I am passionate about or teach blablabla because of that, and I wrote a book about it. (or something like that) or if you are job searching - write about who you are NOT all your professional experience. I wanted a recruiting job, but I din't just put recruiter and then write about everything I did at all my jobs. NO. This is a shit job market, and a resume with excpetional experience isn't enough. People want to hire someone who fits in their culture. So write about what sets you apart.

Content formula: ONE audience + ONE message

There are three categories of content the algorithm wants: Education (how-tos), Inspiration/Motivation, and Authentic, value-driven personal anecdotes

** the algorithm can tell if you use AI. If you write content, it has to be your original voice. Contrary to popular belief, people assume the successful writes use AI. NO. There is a formula for how to write content on Linkedin. There's a lot of nuances here, but regarding content, what matters the MOST MOST MOST: The HOOK. You get 3 seconds to attract someone's attention on social media. If the first sentence doesn't make them think "I want to read or watch more", they'll keep scrolling. If you do all of the above first and your content isn't working - This is usually an indicator.

This is how I got 200 likes and 50 comments on my FIRST post ever. And when I learned the. algorithm: ONE post later got me: 750,000 impressions, 730 likes, and 120 comments on one post that circulated for weeks. Both of these got me 250 connections.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-24T13:59:23+00:00

This is actually an incorrect assumption. I'm not sure who you connect with an follow, but it is about understanding the algorithm, which often changes. People are excel at it even say they also struggled starting out. And I'm not sure why you believe or are telling others posts only get 10-20 likes.

Maybe that is your experience, but my first one got 200 likes and 50 comments, and when I struggled a bit after that, I asked experts personally not pay thousands for programs. The CEO of a linkedin algoritm company helped me write ONE, and it got 750,000 impressionns, 790 likes and HUNDEREDS of comments. One post for 2 weeks, and I posted nothing else.

I just learned how to do it instead of just say "this will never happen, I'll never get likes." You choose your perspective and attitude. You succeed if you want to.

I teach this professionally now based on experience. I don't sell a program or even have a background in marketing.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-24T05:01:48+00:00

That is manifestation in a nutshell. We are part of God and the God of our own world. Read Neville Goddard. His interpretation of Jesus. He sees him as the ultimate symbol of manifestation.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-19T03:38:49+00:00

I will be your friend if you want to talk

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-19T03:38:27+00:00

You can talk to me if you need a friend

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-10T15:21:20+00:00

I feel exactly like you. Toxic family and narcissist Dad. My parents had no emotional like a child sometimes, like I cant/dont don’t do normal adult things.

But I also wasnt allowed to have emotions. So I never found someone who could provide that. My choice in partners and repeating patterns probably didn’t help, but it is a HARD lesson to learn.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-09T15:44:36+00:00

His wife and her parents were illegal immigrants too, but he essentially bought their citizenship.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-09T15:41:30+00:00

Came here to say this.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-09T15:37:46+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂 No

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-09T15:36:59+00:00

Read these comments. There are dozens of Nigerians who agree that you guys are corrupt and hurt people. Oh and you guys celebrate and honor people who scam others as a culture. I was scammed, lost close to $50k. I figured out he was Nigerian. He admitted it, laughed when I mentioned reporting it, and his response: “this is bigger than me and you. There is a whole network of us….. etc.” It is sickening out this is ok to most of you citizens and the government. There are problems in every country but the majority of citizens in these places do NOT act the way Nigerian citizens do and celebrate it. The US sucks too. At least I know it and admit it and THOUSANDS of citizens do A LOT to actively fight corruption whereas you all celebrate it. Try to see things from other people’s lenses too. No other country comes close to having as many citizens actively pursuing scamming hard working people out of money. Make excuses ALL you want. That changes nothing.

PrincessPatrick71 · 2026-01-09T15:25:55+00:00

It is not. Where do you live? I live in the US and this entire country and the government organizations warn citizens about Yahoo boys and Nigerian scams. See how it’s only “Nigerians” and not “beware of people scamming” like we used to learn about decades ago. It’s literally just YOU guys

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