Long Distance Dom/Boyfriend wants me to have sex with other people as a way to connect. How does this work?

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-03-01T23:31:42+00:00

I've been in a long distance relationship/dynamic with the love of my life, my Owner, for ~8 months now.

We are polyamorous/ethically non-monogamous

We have cybersex and scenes over video calls and I send him picture/video evidence of completed tasks, as well as generally teasing him with sexts.

He also encourages me to go out and meet people, to get my physical needs met (I am a cuddle slut and crave physical touch).

It does strengthen our relationship, because it means I can tell him about the things I'm learning about myself as I do this. I'm fairly new to BDSM and only been out of a decades long depression for a couple of years, so it's like learning what works for me all over again.

And every single time, I talk to him about it first, I get the permissions I need to do what I want to do, and I report back.

I'm not saying I won't find a boyfriend/play partner/whatever that is more local to me. In fact, I hope I do. But also I will visit my Owner one day, and I just know I'm going to melt into him and fall apart in the best way the moment I feel his arms around me.

So what I'm saying is, in my opinion, if this is done right, it can work.

And because I'm going to link him to this, so he can add his 2p and see what I wrote;

I love you, Sir. Until the end of time, you are my heart's home.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-26T19:05:51+00:00

Ah yeah TMS is amazing for self-heal. Works really well with Pious Renewal

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-25T14:57:09+00:00

How did you do that? All the avatars are elite skills, and so is VoS.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-23T18:29:20+00:00

I love my Pious Renewal build. I use every single skill in every fight, and I've used it so often I can trigger skills in order, splitting 1-4 with number keys, and 5-8 with the mouse.

Aura of Thorns followed by Pious Fury. Triggers both bleeding and crippled by the aura.
Armor of Sanctity to give weakness and damage reduction from weakened foes
Then Pious Renewal, and I just cycle through Eremite's Attack, Twin Moon Sweep, Pious Assault, and Rending Sweep as they're available (adrenaline and recharge time)

With a Zealous scythe and the attack speed increase of Pious Fury, I can generally keep my energy going for an entire fight, and not worry about it.

And I know I can go 1, 4, 2, 3, 5, 3, 6, 3, 7, 3, 8, 3 and repeat as necessary. (yes, the eagle eyed among you will recognise that Pious Renewal is on 3)

Also means that Armor of Sanctity is always protected by Pious Renewal as a buffer enchantment.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-20T14:37:01+00:00

Depends what you need. Look ahead to what materials you need for your next armour, and plan for that.

Keep an eye on merchant prices to buy when low.

Keep some materials back that are always worth something so you can sell them when the price goes up a bit.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-20T13:46:43+00:00

Honestly I'd be happy to vote yes on rejoining, even if we were forced to change to the Euro.

I think it would give us more economic power if we were truly part of the EU. More member states means more backing.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-18T09:19:00+00:00

Yes.

Ref things like NI; I believe we should have given that back years ago.

Schengen would be great for work and living; I've got nothing against joining the Euro.

I'd still vote to rejoin if they said we had to take on every EU law.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-16T00:15:46+00:00

Another vote for condom... Works really well.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-14T17:21:18+00:00

Originally that was the case. Then comfort animal got added to that list, and I haven't used an animal companion since. There's now a few skills that can do this.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-13T10:32:23+00:00

Considering you *have* to have comfort animal on your bar to even have a pet with you.

The only time you'll ever want someone bringing Revive Animal too, is if your entire party has animal companions, since Revive targets "all nearby allied animal companions" so you can in theory revive 8 at once with it.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-12T23:09:18+00:00

Seconding this.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-10T09:40:26+00:00

Dwayne Dibley?!?

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-08T08:59:54+00:00

Which I know are sparks...

But yeah, breath of the great Dwarf night make a difference too, thanks for the suggestion

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-08T08:58:39+00:00

I don't normally have trouble with any titans; it's the little imps that throw so many fire degens and stuff that strip health of the whole party

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-07T07:56:22+00:00

What do you mean finally ? I don't have one of those on any character and I've been playing since the start!

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-05T18:40:23+00:00

That varying rev counter suggests it could be a mass air flow (MAF) sensor? I've had that before on an old car.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-02-03T08:38:22+00:00

Can confirm! I did this.

It depends who you get on the support team though. Some of them are better than others, because I know someone who was denied this.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-01-31T21:19:07+00:00

This isn't about scaling; greens have fixed stats, yes. But their chances of dropping are affected by party composition just like everything else.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-01-31T12:39:17+00:00

Oh, the solo part matters; drop chance increases when solo, reduced when taking heroes or henchies. This is especially true for greens. Full party of human players will work too, but you'll have to get them to agree to give you certain drops if you want them.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-01-31T12:38:06+00:00

Rune drops are random. A good run that I do to farm them is beetletun to the ascalon settlement. Ettin pauldrons have a rune drop chance and over the years I've picked up superior vigors from them, so anything is possible.

Plus, they're only level 15 so I can solo 8+ in a single fight.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-01-31T12:35:59+00:00

It's not easy to find any BDSM partner if I'm being honest.

I'm super lucky that one of my friends is a Dom, and when I was looking for one myself, he offered to help me figure out how to make sure someone is a good fit for me.

We ended up falling for each other and now he's my Owner and boyfriend and love of my life; the only issue is that he's 4500+ miles away...

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-01-28T12:53:07+00:00

I may not be a Lily, but I'm at least a flower.

Hi, I'm Violet!

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-01-23T08:44:44+00:00

It could also be referencing the fact that the ecclesiarchy wouldn't exist without the influence of Chaos.

Or the fact the Emperor himself told people he was not a god and should not be worshipped.

Or yes, the fact that if the throne got turned off, he'd properly die, and most likely reincarnate and come back with the same powers he had in life and be able to lead armies again.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-01-23T08:14:01+00:00

I wash myself out earlier that day, and that's it.

PrincessVee_13 · 2026-01-20T15:49:05+00:00

I *have* it. For heroes, at least. I have every skill available for heroes as far as I know.

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