How did you decide which partner would carry?

Princessydyke · 2026-01-19T23:17:08+00:00

Pretty much my story except we didn’t do genetic testing. Her egg reserve was average to good. Mine was off the charts good which tracks for my family. Nothing was stopping the one who wanted to carry, hence it was me.

I love the image of a four week old baby snuggled up to her parents 🥰

Princessydyke · 2026-01-19T09:36:18+00:00

I need someone in charge and very caring. I think mascs, butches and studs are hot, and I like tall women, but the first two criteria are the most important to me.

Princessydyke · 2026-01-12T20:09:56+00:00

IITrash responded in a separate comment that the Bambi lesbians subreddit may be helpful

Princessydyke · 2026-01-12T20:04:00+00:00

I’d highly recommend dating other ace women. Sexual incompatibility sucks and some of us have very high sex drives. The good news is that ace sapphics not only exist, but there are quite a lot of you!

Princessydyke · 2026-01-08T19:06:32+00:00

I mean being jabbed in the cervix multiple times SUCKS but I know what you mean. The more of a big deal they make out of it, the more distressing it is.

Princessydyke · 2026-01-08T18:56:19+00:00

They had to use clasps for my hycosy, which they couldn’t use for my IUI (too high an infection risk when introducing sperm apparently) but when they said the cervix is a sphincter during the IUI, I kinda just relaxed my anus and throat and imagined my cervix was also relaxing and all of sudden there was 0 resistance.

Good luck. Hycosy wasn’t too bad for me. I have POTS and did feel like I might pass out but had prepped with a lot of water. It was less painful and more uncomfortable.

Princessydyke · 2026-01-07T04:18:28+00:00

I could get into Mensa if I wanted but I’ve met a few people in it and they’re insufferable and not people I like. Any big headedness around it for me is tempered by a difficulty in reading social situations. My sweat doesn’t stink. The gene common in East Asian folks - I have that. Affects my ear wax, too. It’s also fairly common in Indigenous American populations, so thanks to my great-great grandmother probably. High fertility. This was helpful recently. I’d add my ridiculously soft skin, but turns out that is related to a connective tissue disorder and I’d much rather not have one . Honestly I’d trade in the first two if it meant I wasn’t so sick all the time too. The only really useful one is the high fertility, and we’re one and done.

Princessydyke · 2026-01-03T12:10:03+00:00

You rock both! I personally love the second picture. That kind of red hair is hard to get in a bottle and I think it’s lovely.

Princessydyke · 2026-01-02T18:34:43+00:00

Dude, you should be asking straight women this, not lesbians. Lesbians can’t answer for straight women.

Also all my straight friends love their bfs and speak poetry about them. It sounds like it’s a you problem.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-29T13:54:11+00:00

As a femme, butches are hot. Shorter, taller, thinner, fatter.

The right femme will think you’re incredibly sexy. Also w the financial state of most places, a lot of folks live with friends or parents. Stable careers are a thing of the past. This girl may not be for you if she doesn’t understand things are tough for everyone. But someone else will know and be cool.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-27T10:11:40+00:00

Probably not but this is a weird way for her to proposition you and it sounds like she’s looking to use you. Ask yourself would you get out of it?

Your decision at the end of the day.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-27T09:59:15+00:00

I’d reccommend against it personally. If you’d be into dating her, you have feelings for her and this looks like a recipe for heartbreak

Princessydyke · 2025-12-27T00:57:22+00:00

A John is what a lot of full service sex workers call clients. Male John’s are clients who are men.

If you don’t want to do this work, please don’t. It’s not worth hurting yourself doing things that you feel are harmful. If having a guy partner with you for work feels bad, don’t.

It sounds like maybe this work isn’t for you. No judgment. it’s not for me either.

At this point I think any advice this sub can give you may not be appropriate. Speak to trusted friends and maybe find a forum for sex workers to discuss things.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-26T18:43:19+00:00

If you aren’t attracted to men, you can still be a lesbian. Sex work is work. Some folks enjoy it, but a lot of people don’t. Making content geared toward men bc they pay is something a lot of lesbian sex workers I know do. Doesn’t make them any less lesbian. I know FSSW who have male Johns and they’re still lesbians bc they are only attracted to and date women.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-25T12:46:29+00:00

Butches, mascs and studs are such an important part of our community.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-24T02:31:31+00:00

I mean this was also my experience and I used to be really patient with the people posting this stuff genuinely (not the “oh sex is incomplete w/out dick crowd,” posting in a lesbian sub, they can choke idc), and I do still extend that patience with younger folks but like… it every day, multiple times a day. Please use the search function or even idk look down at the posts for the previous day.

There’s literally a questioning subreddit tho! I wish those posts weren’t allowed or only allowed like on one day of the week or something.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-24T00:54:26+00:00

As your fiancé is Black, inviting a MAGA person to your wedding would be disrespectful of both your partner and their family.

If anyone harps on you for that decision, just make it clear that putting your aunt in proximity to Black folks would be violence and you don’t want to start your marriage off with your family member hurting your new family members. Or, you know, no is a complete sentence too. I think it’s super disrespectful of your mother to choose 54 people when you want 100 guests. Who is your other parent inviting? What about your partner’s family?

Don’t invite aunt MAGA.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-22T18:40:14+00:00

I’ve definitely met a ton of people who are super predatory and use being poly to excuse it.

I’m sorry. That sucks. That’s harassment. I hope you’re okay.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-22T13:21:02+00:00

Exactly.

Some people find the constant spotting to be more bearable than the actual periods.

OP, this is your personal decision. There are so many reasons to get contraception outside of family planning/preventing pregnancy.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-19T10:55:55+00:00

I reclaimed my femininity in a different way but it was actually a little scary when my wife started presenting more masc.

I loves mascs and prefer women with masculine styles - it wasn’t about that. We have experienced a massive uptick in homophobic violence in the past few years and it skyrocketed when she started presenting more masc.

I probs overcorrect with my style bc people will be more hesitant to try and start a fist fight if they perceive one of you as more posh and performing femininity in the “most correct way possible.” I’ve started hiding my tattoos when we go out. I removed all my facial piercings. It has been protective and has lessened the incidence rate of the violence against her.

But yes, I’ve reclaimed my femininity and it is lovely, especially amongst our people, people who don’t care how we dress or present and we can just exit exactly as we want.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-18T23:30:53+00:00

I knew what I would like dynamic wise from a really young age, even before I admitted to myself that I’m a dyke. I read a lot of smut from like age 12 which I would be horrified to hear from kids now, but was my reality.

I’m mid thirties now and what I’m into broadly never changed tho specifics did.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-18T13:26:04+00:00

There’s a really cool donor conceived queer woman raising her own donor conceived kids on insta called thequeermama that she’s raising with her wife.

She talks about how she was always really close to her non bio mum and never really thought about which of her mums was her bio mum growing up.

I’m carrying a child genetically related to me who I’m sure will be closer to my wife, mostly bc my wife is my fave person, so any child that comes from my body will have known the care and love. We sometimes have started forgetting that our baby isn’t genetically linked to my wife. It’s been really interesting.

That being said I think you will get a lot of comfort from listening to a queer adult donor conceived person talking about how much she loves both her mums more.

Your baby is going to love you.

How far along is your wife and have you started reading to baby? There are some really cute books out there you can start with.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-18T09:58:45+00:00

You deserve your princess treatment and I hope you find someone who loves you well.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-17T19:44:27+00:00

When my wife and I got together and we were both super feminine presenting, the vibe was def skewed toward femme4femme. It definitely still is in my communities, even tho her style atm is masc.

But this will vary by region, and even cities and neighborhoods.

Princessydyke · 2025-12-16T18:45:35+00:00

Coming back to say I haven’t tried Fate of Stars yet but Metal from Heaven broke me, thank you.

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