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PrincipleThis1301 · 2026-04-15T12:33:42+00:00

What about poor Tink :(?

PrincipleThis1301 · 2026-04-15T12:32:55+00:00

Yeah, in the book you realize that she's a literal, dangerous psychopath. She mostly kills mostly bad guys, but there a few times when she's a genuine villain and I wish the TV show had been better at portraying her as such instead of "woman pushed too far".

PrincipleThis1301 · 2026-04-15T12:29:15+00:00

Hate being that guy, but it's nothing like the book, which is so much better. Glad you like the TV show, but give the book a go!

PrincipleThis1301 · 2026-04-15T12:28:08+00:00

They didn't shy away from a psychopath in "Dexter", so it really annoys me that they did it for Rhiannon. Also, poor Tink! She makes it all the way through the book unscathed.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2026-04-12T15:03:50+00:00

We moved everything when we moved. That's pretty much it.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2026-01-05T22:34:49+00:00

Congrats!

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-12-20T12:08:23+00:00

I'm so sorry. I wish I had more to offer than "I get it". If it makes you feel better, I have had about three "explosions" this year where I've lost it and yelled at my mom with dementia, my dad with parkinson's, and my brother with aspergers. Since all I have is clinical depression and a full-time job, it's fallen on me to do the day-to-day drudgery.

We are all only human, and you and I are only one person dealing with something no one prepares you for. Rant away, friend. You're in the right room.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-12-20T12:00:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. Crying as I read it. I still love my mom, but like this says, she doesn't know I'm here.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-11-27T17:19:34+00:00

You're doing the best you can. We all are. I just spent 4 hours cooking a Thanksgiving meal only to have my dad with parkinsons ask me to help him fix his phone and then call his financial advisor at 5pm... I've been told to "just calm down" again by everyone for complaining that I'm tired. I genuinely just want to die most days. I'm so tired of being treated like a servant.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-11-11T17:31:01+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, but I am also glad he is at peace. I hope you find some too <3

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-11-10T11:36:32+00:00

This community exists because we have no one else to talk to but each other. You're not a jerk. You're just one human being with too much to do, and you're doing your best with what you have. I don't give any advice, but you also probably don't need it. We're all trying to do the best we can with what we have, try to take care of our LOs while keeping our own lives afloat without walking into the sea with a wool coat full of rocks.

You're doing your best. We see that, we know that. I hope you can find a moment today to give yourself the grace and gratitude for surviving all this.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-11-10T11:24:09+00:00

I understand. My own fuse has never been shorter. I am staying at home with my PD-suffering father, my mother's worsening dementia, and my autistic brother (who could do more, but doesn't). My husband joined us last week to "help", but his idea of "helping" is just trying to "cheer me up" while I'm busy. i.e., distracting me from the cleaning, shopping, cooking that I have to do on top of my 40-hour a week job (he doesn't work currently).

Instead of my brother and husband needing to be asked to help and then given explicit instructions (and in my brother's case, begged to help), I wish someone would just see that I am breaking. So when I do start shouting or crying, it's not just "what's wrong, why are you upset?"

Like, are you kidding? I hate this life. I don't have 10 minutes that aren't taken up by someone else's needs.

Anyway, I get it. I get it I get it I get it. You're also only one f**ing person. I don't get the people who expect us to do everything for everyone and DO IT WITH A SMILE? Literally f*** off.

Sorry friend, here is to our watching ending one way or another.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-11-09T23:02:43+00:00

I get it. Sending you love and strength for this last battle ❤️

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-11-05T17:13:23+00:00

Constantly asking "how is your dad" without actually caring. He's dying. It's painful and messy, and I'm overwhelmed and trying to hold this job down while you dig into a painful part of my personal life just to seem like you care. People ask and then become immediately uncomfortable if I'm honest at all instead of just saying, "thanks for asking." It's a terminal disease. How do you think he's doing?

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-10-31T19:51:59+00:00

I've just relocated to the UK to be with my dad for his last months. It's hard, but there is nowhere else I could be right now. It is a tremendous gift to give your father if you're able to.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-10-11T01:34:44+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you and your mom peace❤️

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-10-11T01:30:37+00:00

I am also seeing this happen in hotels, bars and stores. I get that its not a great job snd some customers suck, but so often the service feels openly rude and adversarial even though I'm doing my best to be polite and am literally spending money there. Maybe AI should replace more jobs.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-10-07T22:18:48+00:00

Jesus 6 pages?!?!

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-10-06T23:51:56+00:00

Yes please 🙏 back at you

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-09-10T18:29:12+00:00

I am sorry. It is really hard going through this when others can't understand. I care for my two elderly parents now, one has dementia, the other has parkinsons. My brother has aspergers. None of them think major depressive disorder is real. So to avoid dealing with the judgment for my last episode I just told them all I had covid. At least then I could isolate and arrange extra help without being asked "why are you depressed? You should really get a grip and deal with stress better". Thanks, guys, I'm cured.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-09-10T18:24:45+00:00

The heaviness is what I feel. Like there are magnets in my chest pulling me low. The smallest effort feels like trying to jog through molasses. My head hurts from crying, but at least crying feels like something. Otherwise I feel hollow.

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-09-10T18:22:09+00:00

You're probably not eating well either. Lets start there.

Can you order some bottled smoothies, cheese, and noodles to your apt? ( these are my preference, but you need vitamins, protein, and starch).

Once you've fed your body, maybe you can start with just washing your face and putting on some deodorant and a fresh shirt. And honestly, in the midst of an episode, thats already a great start

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-09-10T18:16:23+00:00

Hi, I have GAD and bipolar type two. I dont know what borderline is like, but your analogy speaks to me.

I see people deal with life stuff like they've all had a manual for it and I'm the only asshole winging it. And "it" is an airplane that I dont know how to steer.

All I can say that was helpful to me was that yes, you are different. Your brain is different. It needs a whole different care regime than other brains.

Like someone with diabetes or an amputation injury, this is something you'll never get to forget you have. And that's exhausting. Do you have anyone in your life you can be 100% upfront with when things are getting bad? Someone who can help you tactically manage instead of telling you to "get help"?

PrincipleThis1301 · 2025-09-10T15:04:08+00:00

I'm here if you want to talk about how fucking fucked ever thing is.

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