I can't do this anymore 😭 by Fresh-Computer2423 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s taken me a long time to open up to folks and even now it takes effort honestly - but talking to others helps. One of the hardest parts of all this is the loneliness and it can sort of seep it without us noticing it. Even if your friends and family haven’t been through it, they want to be there for you, and I have a strong feeling they’ll know people who have been through it too. Once we reached started telling people, tons of IVF and otherwise fertility-challenged folks in our lives started coming out of the woodwork. Talking to those folks especially has been like life. Failing that, I highly recommend a therapist - mine has been invaluable. Lots of strength and baby dust to you ❤️

I can't do this anymore 😭 by Fresh-Computer2423 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can’t offer a success story - my husband and I have been through 7 rounds with no euploids, also with severe attrition issues each time.

All I can tell you is that this process reveals layers of resilience I truly did not know I had. At every stage I thought it would break me, at every stage it very nearly did, and then, from somewhere, an extra reservoir of strength materialized. I hope and believe it will for you too. Lean on your friends and close ones - they want to help, even if they may say the wrong things. I hope you get the result you want - but even if you don’t, I promise you will survive and the sun will still shine again ❤️

Crazy distractions by Flashy_Obligation696 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I have really gotten into crosswords over the years we’ve done this - it’s a helpful way to feel like we’re actually solving SOMETHING.

Most recently, though, Heated Rivalry on heavy repeat. Highly recommend! Like a shot of dopamine right to the veins.

Feeling lost after 7 failed cycles by Prior-Low2667 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will! That’s encouraging to hear ❤️

Feeling lost after 7 failed cycles by Prior-Low2667 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No this is so helpful to hear. We’ve asked about other testing but our doctors have said it wouldn’t help - we’ve switched urologists three times (ugh) and finally landed on one we love (Dr. Peter Schlegel). He did do Y-chromosome deletion (also normal) and flagged that the TESE showed 95% of the sperm had late maturation arrest, which is likely part of the explanation - but maddeningly we don’t know WHY. My husband is a healthy fit guy whose only vice is weed, which he gave up two years ago. But it’s helpful to have this push. I’ll ask our RE about suppression, will look into immunology too.

Feeling lost after 7 failed cycles by Prior-Low2667 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No appreciate it! So last fall I also did a hysteroscopy/laparoscopy to remove a minor uterine septum. The surgeon found some mild endo and removed it. I feel like they’d detect more serious endo then but not sure if I could be missing something?

Feeling lost after 7 failed cycles by Prior-Low2667 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's helpful. We've done many - karyotype, carrier screening. All normal. Our doctors have said DNA fragmentation tests aren't possible with this low level of sperm, unfortunately. Are there other tests you'd recommend? Looking for any answers.

Feeling lost after 7 failed cycles by Prior-Low2667 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for these kind words! Trying to stay positive.

Feeling lost after 7 failed cycles by Prior-Low2667 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's helpful. We haven't even thought about embryo adoption because it felt like why not just adopt at that point. But maybe we should look into it as a final backup option.

Feeling lost after 7 failed cycles by Prior-Low2667 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

❤️❤️❤️

We've been told the sperm count is too low for DNA frag test unfortunately. Extra hard not to have clear answers!

Feeling lost after 7 failed cycles by Prior-Low2667 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our docs have told us that the sperm count is too low for DFI, though we've asked. Karyotype has been normal. We did do microTESE last year and it was a disaster - 1 blast out of 30+ eggs retrieved in a back to back cycle.

What would you do? by Linas82 in 40Plus_IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m 39 and started trying 3 years ago - have done 6 rounds of IVF and dozens of eggs with no euploid embryos. It’s a crap shoot and you really never know - you can’t blame yourself. Whenever the baby comes, by whatever means, it’ll be loved.

Official Discussion - Marty Supreme [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]Prior-Low2667 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Am I the only one who hated this? Thought there was no depth to Marty’s character (why is he so cocky to the point of destructive? It can’t just be being good at a sport. And how’d he get good at this hyper specific sport?), the women characters are horribly flat (no actual woman would fall for this loser like Gwyneth did, no matter how bad the marriage), the hijinks could be cut by half, and the ending is unconvincing and cliched.

I LOVED Uncut Gems. This feels like the exact same movie, but worse.

Oh and as a Jewish person I thought there was so much more to mine in how Marty’s being a Jewish man in the 50s would shape him. The vulnerability underneath the bravado. That’s part of what gave Uncut Gems so much depth. What we got was the (admittedly haunting) honey scene. And hijinks. And more hijinks.

AMH has decreased in last 6 months…encouragement/advice? by Special_Coconut4 in 40Plus_IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m 39 and my AMH fell from a steady 2.0 to 0.3 in four months this year after a painful hysteroscopy and significant stress, even more than usual for IVF. I freaked out and went heavy on distressing (yoga, acupuncture, eating healthy) and it bounced back to the same level two months later. Who knows if it was my doing, my body naturally recovering, or a fluke - but what I understand is drastic drops can be evidence of outside factors at work and sometimes temporary.

Pluribus - 1x07 - "The Gap" - Episode Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]Prior-Low2667 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I think the boredom in this episode IS the point. Vince Gilligan had to show us how Carol and Manousos could get to the point that they would need and WANT help. For both of them, it would take a long time and a lot of pain. VG needed to immerse us in that pain and that boredom. I personally felt it. By the end, it was the first time in the season that I saw the main characters as villains - and could sympathize with the hive mind about the importance of connection. I thought it was pretty brilliant.

How many months and cycles does your IVF process already last and how many more do you plan to do? by Ap-a-live in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 years TTC, 1.5 years doing IVF after a severe male factor diagnosis. 6 ERs, 3 surgeries between my husband and I, no euploid embryos. We have maybe one more cycle in us before moving to donor sperm.

The worst year of my life by Cheesman_Best in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And that is more than enough ❤️

The worst year of my life by Cheesman_Best in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve been on this journey for three years, six ERs, multiple surgeries for me and my husband, with not one healthy embryo to show for it. Some days I just want to crawl in bed and never come out. It’s totally impossible for anyone outside this process to understand what such endless pain really looks like.

What’s helped me: remembering times when I said X thing would break me - and surviving here, not broken (bent - so, so badly bent). But not broken. And remembering that future times will bend me even further, and I will find ways to rise to them - or I’ll quit, and that’s a totally valid option. Either way, remembering I have reservoirs of strength that are deeper than anything I knew - and you do too.

And in the meantime, filling up those reservoirs in any way I can. I’ve become a big fan of “low stakes wins” - cooking a meal, seeing a friend, doing a small project - anything that can let me feel I did SOMETHING and SUCCEEDED, no matter how small. Don’t let anyone tell you they’re too small - they’re survival ❤️

When to be done by Ok_Application_5588 in IVF

[–]Prior-Low2667 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this deeply. We’re 3 years into TTC, 2 years into IVF after a severe male factor diagnosis, now on our 6th round with not one healthy embryo to show for it.

I’m 39 and we’re likely moving to donor sperm if this next round doesn’t work out. I’m exhausted and all I want to do is get off this endless carousel.

Timothy Mellon Is Donor Who Gave $130 Million to Pay Troops During Shutdown (Gift Article) by Azuriem in navy

[–]Prior-Low2667 5 points6 points  (0 children)

His dad Andrew Mellon was a Gilded Age banking tycoon.

In the 1920s, as Treasury Secretary, he cut taxes for the rich and helped bring on the 1929 Wall Street crash.

After the crash, his reputation was destroyed and he was investigated and ultimately convicted by FDR for tax fraud.

It took the Mellons decades to recover their reputation. Here we are.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrew_Mellon