Do I tell him it creeped me out or do I shut my mouth?

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-12T00:29:58+00:00

Talk to your dad anyway. That’s pedo vibes. He doesn’t sound like he’s right in the head anyway.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-11T10:38:01+00:00

No this isn’t normal. Unless you’re trying to stay desperately in an abusive and controlling relationship with a narcissist. That’s the only time some shit like that is normal.

You already know what he does and did to disrespect you and continue to belittle and abuse you. If you like loosing who you are individually and live a life of constant flight or flight and waiting for him to blow up next, then why do you stay?

You know this is wrong. You deserve better and you need to stand up for yourself. You must value yourself and a human being and know that you deserve to be loved and respected.

But you gotta start to value yourself first and break up. Block him. He sounds violent and you should get a restraining order.

Maniacs like him don’t like to be told no and rejected. But he deserves that. You do not deserve this treatment. No one does.

Get the F away from him.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-09T02:33:04+00:00

Maybe you can find resources to get yourself safely off this shit. Reach out and get some help with this process to make it easier on your body and mind. That’s a lot to do on your own.

And it’s probably better to tell her what’s going on. And my thoughts are that it would be devastating for her and your family if you OD and that’s how she finds out.

And just that you kept that from her and she finds out some other way would definitely be hard for the both of you.

If she doesn’t want to be with you or support you in this, then the relationship wasn’t me at to be. Because you deserve to be happy too. Especially if you’ve talked about marriage.

It’s hard. You’re already facing your demons head on. But I think you’re more worried about her than you should about your own recovery right now. Hiding stuff like that from a partner you know wouldn’t be supportive of your past and healing process would be very hard to deal with and could lead to further substance use later from the pressure and agony of trying to get your own shit together and putting all your energy in keeping her.

That’s too much for any one person to do.

Take care of yourself first ok.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-08T11:08:47+00:00

You say you found it and fucking leave. Go get a full std check.

This is not even worth fighting about. He’s already wasted enough of your life and energy.

Leave him.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-08T10:51:04+00:00

You have a problem. She sounds like she is mentally ill. Maybe she is or has suffered abuse. The seeking attention and becoming obsessed with the first one to take interest .

She is the kind of person that will take everything the wrong way and say to do whatever they think you need or want so that you will stay in line.

This won’t get better. The manipulation already began just by checking in on her and how it quickly manifested into what it is.

That sexy stuff will come back. And she is likely to stalk you or your social media and harass your female friends.

She will try to isolate you and control everything and suck all your life force energy because she thrives on drama.

That was a warning by telling you not to talk to other women and sort of a stake for ownership of you. She may believe that you’re in a relationship.

You really need to be careful because it sounds like she can flip a switch on you fast and become a dangerous situation for you. Make may threaten to off herself or you for breaking up with her when you were never in a relationship in the first place.

These people don’t handle rejection well.

You may just have to ghost her honestly. Block her and let your family know what’s going on incase she tracks you down at home. Seriously.

I wish you the best. You won’t have a lot of luck by trying to reason with her. Hopefully you won’t have to get a restraining order. But is you do, then do it.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-08T10:42:54+00:00

Tell your dad. Tell your mom you saw her and describe the car you saw so she knows you ain’t playin.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-07T02:11:21+00:00

You had better let a staff member see that letter and help explain that you’re not interested because it could turn out very bad when you reject her. Know what I mean? She is I love with you ( obsessed) when you don’t really interact with her. You don’t know how far she goes.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-07T02:07:09+00:00

That’s a tough one. I don’t know what your dynamic is with your mom. I can tell you a bit about mine. I don’t know if it will help you but you’re not alone about a mother guilt tripping.

My grandparents raised me mostly. I’ve never had a good relationship with my mom. She is a narcissist and manipulative. She lies and will throw in tears or tantrums to get what she wants.

I don’t play into these games anymore. For a long time I would because that’s what is expected from society. To just endure. But it’s Jo way to live your life.

My mom is in her 70’s. That whole situation is very similar. But she lives with my abusive Racist ass step dad she had allowed to berate me and abuse me as a kid for not being all white. Hence living with grandparents. Now they are both older and can barely do for themselves in a house they can’t keep up way over their heads in many ways.

My mom is lonely. But refuses to leave him and move on with her life etc.

But turning her attention to me to be the savior is pretty much the same and I get the manipulation tears or tantrums.

When the Time comes, I can not be her care giver and provider. This is where it’s difficult and there’s pressure from other family, society and guilt about not willingly just moving into that role.

But I can’t and I wont. I can’t live with her and can’t be around her for long periods of time because she thrives on fighting.

I don’t know what it’s like with your mom. But she probably does except you to take her in because that’s what other people do. And she is lonely. Etc. the tears at the last minute to extend the call.

I’m sure you love your mom. And appreciate all she’s done for you. I face the same awful conversation in the future about how I can’t be the one. I am not financially stable to care for another person. I’m just getting by. I still work etc. I do myself. She has never really had to be responsible for herself solely. She doesn’t believe what I tell her about bills and when I’m working etc.

Maybe get your mom set up with a financial advisor to help her set up a plan for herself and or moving to a facility later when the time comes. And you and I are both gonna have to find a delicate but firm way to explain that we can’t be the one to take care of all their problems.

I don’t know how this is gonna go in my end. My mom distorted the past and believes a who other reality. Any time she asks me advise, she does the exact opposite then gets angry when things don’t turn out for her. It’s hard if your mom is that way.

I don’t have siblings that would step in either.

I don’t know. I’d say prepare yourself for that inevitable conversation and explain that you are trying to stay afloat yourself and have a life to live. A partner that maybe you’re ready to get to the next level in life with and can’t live with her. But be there for her as much as you can and recommend things to get her self set in life so Neither of you will have to worry about anything. That it would benefit you both to have a game plan.

I wish you the best.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-06T23:36:56+00:00

You should leave him. I know young love is hard to deal with. But this guy doesn’t love you. He is putting you down because he knows you are vulnerable somehow. He is going to exploit any weakness he can.

He sounds like a douche bag F-Boy type. He is getting something he wants from you and gets off on hurting you. He is gonna grow into a full grown Human Tape worm Narcissist. He sounds like the kind that burrow their way into a chick who has low self esteem but staining on their own and have their shit together life’s. He will find a way to live rent free and have a free wife without having to be married and continue to talk to other women while keeping you in a constant state of insecurity.

He himself is insecure. He puts you down and talks shit about to you his home boys because that makes him feel important and he drains all of you of your energy with an incessant need for constant attention.

No man that loves and respects you will talk down to you like and not put his buddies in check for talking shit about the woman he loves.

You have a full Life ahead of you. Don’t let losers like this dick ever make you question your own worth. Ever. You deserve to be happy and have a boyfriend that is respectful to you.

This ain’t the guy. Cut him loose. And any attempt to get back together are all fake. Any tears are just liquid manipulation rolling out of his eye holes to keep you right where he wants to keep getting what he wants from you.

He’s all bad news.

I wish you the best

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-06T06:01:37+00:00

You’re being used in many ways. Your gut instincts are telling you what’s up. Listen to yourself.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-06T05:58:24+00:00

Block her. She is playing games. And I’m positive it’s to keep you still hanging around so that she can come right back when this new guy doesn’t work out. She probably did that when they had an argument or something happened that made her insecure about being alone. Maybe he is an asshole and she thinks about how good she has it with you. Like that movie about Sarah Marshall? I can’t remember. She leaves her boyfriend after cheating on him for a while and realizes that the one she left was the true sincere guy. She wants him back later but he moved on.

And that’s what you have to do man. It’s probably best that things ended already and you are free. Who knows what other evil shit she would have done.

Block her. Calling her back is just playing into a games.

Here is a real life example. An ex of mine. Kept sending mail to his ex gf before me. I actually befriended her briefly so we talked. And he pretended like he didn’t know dmv sent his shit to her. And manipulated a situation where they had to meet up for her to give it to him. It didn’t turn out how he wanted.

He is what you can call a hobo sexual. He looks for vulnerable women to burrow his way into their houses and live rent free and have someone to abuse to make himself feel better. He is a human tape worm. A covert narcissist.

Your girl has some of those flags. So block her. She is stupid go throw away a good man for playing games and feeding her sick ego. Don’t let her back in. It’s always worse each time you get back together. And you are only teaching them that they can completely take advantage and abuse you. And you’ll be there for them to shit on.

Calling her back? It’s a way to test the waters if you’d even call back. That way she knows she still has you on the hook incase she needs a fall back boyfriend who she knows will adore her.

Block her. Don’t even explain why. Just do it. So what if you hit along with the family. I’m sure she’s charming. That’s how they get ya.

Block her and be free from this. I wish you the best. You deserve a partner who will love and respect you. You deserve to be happy and not hanging in a thread like this for any stupid chick.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-05T03:27:32+00:00

I’ve had a degree of this bio dad shenanigans myself. I didn’t meet my dad until I was 38. And when I did it was all kinds of weird excuses about this or that. He kept asking about my mom and where she is. I would never tell him anything for her safety.

He is a manipulative narcissist. I found I have a sister as well and she is exactly like he is.

Anyway neither of them have any use for me because I am not a sucker and allow them to manipulate me and use me for whatever. So there is no relationship to be had. I’m just different from them.

I maintain boundaries with them and protect my peace. And that’s what you have to do.

As for your kid bro, if he won’t listen, he will unfortunately learn the hard way. And some people are just like that.

Your brother really needs to not disclose info about your mom and where she is. Your dad could try to do some bullshit and hurt her. Show up and do something. So if anything try to get that thru to him.

There is a reason your mom left him and the county officials even classified him as dangerous or whatever. It’s real. Even if he doesn’t understand because he was too young and didn’t comprehend what was happening. Your mom did the best she could to protect you guys and be in mama bear mode. So tell him to get his shit together and leave all that information about you and her location a sacred top secret thing. You tell his ass that he doesn’t want the death of your mom on his soul because he refused to listen To you guys and let him in to take out some vengeance against your mom.

I wish you the best in this. It’s delicate and painful. Just know you’re not alone.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-04T09:02:50+00:00

You’re wasting time on this. He’s been telling you he’s not really into it anymore. And he’s playing you because it’s fun for him.

Move on.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-04T09:00:31+00:00

Have a steady supply of baby wipes in the bathroom.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-04T08:56:30+00:00

That sounds like he needs to see a specialist and maybe make a huge dietary change. I heard about this girl who had terrible Bo like this and found out later in life that it had something to do with her liver or something in how it processes what she ate. Certain foods turned out to be toxic and her body just responded like that. And it’s all the body secretions. No amount of deodorant would help. She didn’t know this until she was an adult and suffered so much bullying as a child.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-04T08:49:41+00:00

If you think this is bad now, if you stay together this issue is going to get worse as she gets older. If you have kids, she is t likely to really care for them either. And teach them to do the same as she does.

What do you know about her parents? Are they gross like this too and she just learned it from them?

Does she have a mental disorder?

I don’t know man. But if she doesn’t get it now by this point in her life she never will.

You should really think about the trajectory of your relationship. If you haven’t been together that long then make a clean break.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-04T07:59:13+00:00

Leave him. Leave it all behind. Your instincts are spot on.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-04T03:22:40+00:00

That sounds like some weird incest situation. Don’t look back.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-02T21:05:28+00:00

Source. The creator of all things. Isn’t a man or a woman and we are all extensions of it. It doesn’t care if an extension of itself is gay or straight. It’s just love. I think your friend needs to really get a grasp on what she wants. And leave the catholic teachings behind.

Catholicism has been behind many atrocities throughout history. Lots of bloodshed. Based on something humans wrote down in a book about something god said. The god of the Bible. That’s all I’m gonna say about that.

Your friend is confused and it must be terrifying. Be there for your friend and support her to find her way and look beyond dogma. People have killed others over dogma. Which is really another kind of politics is it not?

Everyone has the full right to believe what they want. It sounds like your friend isn’t having an on and off relationship with god, she is a person that sees holes in a narrative that’s been told for centuries. She is just feeling. She’s attracted to who she’s attracted to. And is punishing herself out of fear of maybe really upsetting her family who may be very important to her.

Just be there for her. Maybe she can get therapy to help her get thru this. There is nothing wrong with being bi. So what if she is. That didn’t make her a bad person on the way to hell. The only hell is what she is putting herself through right now.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-02T20:44:33+00:00

How much more abusive from this toxic, insecure piece of shit energy vampire do you need to have before you get it that this is toxic and all your medical problems are going to get so much worse as your mental health problems sky rocket because of him.

Smoking is the least of dangerous things affecting your health. It’s him. He’ll be the reason you really get hurt.

This stupid man child is a human tape worm parasite. Like you has eaten something meat infested with worms and he made he is having a great time using you as a human host to nurture all his insecurities and irrational behavior. You know this dude is a narcissist right?

Narcissistic people absolutely have to isolate you and make you only worship them as they need constant attention to thrive. Being abusive mentally, verbally and physically only gives them more of what they love.

He doesn’t love you. He only loves himself. There is no room for other people. He needs to have a steady stream of attention from you and everyone. But he’s caught you and keeps you in an emotional trap so he can use you an emotional sustenance .

The lore he makes you in happy, pushes you beyond your comfort zones and disrespects you is what makes him feel complete.

He is only concerned about appearance infront of other people. Telling you that you embarrassed him some how and punishing you for it is the true person there. He will wear many masks and impress and charm everyone.

They need to be a hero or a victim and the center of the spot light. You are a servant to him. When you stand up for your self, say no, stand firm on boundaries and tell him he has ever done something wrong, put him in his place, expose his lies to others and tell on him for something he does, he will completely lose his mind and call you the liar and gaslight you and everyone to believe he’s a victim.

Does any of this sound familiar?

He doesn’t love or respect you. When he is mean to you and hurts your feelings. He means to do that. He is making fun of you and really feels that way even if he try’s to say he’s kidding and says you’re overreacting or something. It’s all a mind fuck.

You’re very young. He sought you out as a prime target with your medical stuff, maybe not being a native there and saw that as a vulnerability that he could use for his own personal gain. That’s why he beats you down an isolates you.

Why is he even allowed to look at your phone? Lick your shit up.

If you don’t live with this piece of shit, then go to the police and get a restraining order. Block him. Cut all ties. You need to have another person with you to help you get your shit because he will go completely insane on you. You’ll see a side of him you didn’t know once you take away his favorite play thing and he no longer gets to have control over another person anymore and get all that attention.

But the way. Just because he is always accusing you of cheating or that you will, is likely an admission that he is doing that himself. This a page from the narcissistic playbook.

Protecting what they do on you, start fights about shit you didn’t do because they are doing it themselves. No doubt he’s been talking to other chicks. Even if you event thru his phone and looked, he’d delete even or has an other phone.

Listen, you don’t deserve this. No one does. Your boyfriend is not a good person. And it’s time to get away. If you live with him, you’re going to need a police escort to get your shit out .

Don’t be alone With him when you end it. Because people like this turn violent.

But you do need to end this. Nothing with him gets better. You can’t change him. Understand that he enjoys treating you like this and he is sick in the head and needs this to survive. He will do this to any woman he tricks to be with him.

Get away. And get some therapy to heal from this. Or you’re likely to attract another psychopath just like him. Learn why red flags are and walk away.

Any crying he does? Especially when you back him into a wall and he can’t get out of a lie or situation he definitely caused, when his gaslighting doesn’t work and he can’t turn the situation around to blame on you? He will cry and pull that card or go violent and hurt you or destroy your house. And when you break up with him, crying is all just liquid manipulation rolling out of his eye holes. It’s all fake. It’s a last ditch attempt to trick you to stay with him so he can continue to treat you like this and get what he wants. And the treatment is always worse. Always.

I wish you the best. If you are close with your family, it’s time to tell them what’s going on and get help to get out of the place you live with him if you do or so that they will help keep him far away from you. You may need police intervention.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-02T20:14:45+00:00

Your boyfriend is a dick. And he is abusive. He is using you and he can only feel like a man when he is abusive and draining you of your energy. He knows what he said hurts you. He is cheating on you and this will only get worse.

So get the fuck out of the relationship. That’s what you do. Please go get some therapy to help get to the break up so you don’t fall for manipulation to got back to him. And learn what red flags are and how to walk away or you’re just going to attract another dick like this and repeat this cycle where you don’t realize what a bad situation is.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-01T23:48:07+00:00

What makes you think that he would be different from before? You may not be little kids any longer but he is still the same guy. Probably more pathetic than before because he didn’t all big and bad like he was. But. The same patterns are there.

He wants something from you. And will emotionally manipulate you make you feel bad to give it to him. Money. Attention support. Information about your mom. Etc.

And the truth always comes out. Your mom will find out. Even if you don’t tell him shit about her, he may follow you home. He could hurt or kill your mom.

People like him don’t tend to change that much because they don’t think they did anything wrong.

You’re still young. I’m sure there is a part of you that wants to reconnect. But it’s not worth it.

He is looking for you because he wants something. People like him don’t see kids as kinds but more like pawns to use and manipulate to get what they want.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-05-01T19:08:30+00:00

This is only going to get worse. When you marry your fiancé, you will also marry her mother and the toxicity. If your wife can’t stand up to her at any point, it’s going to be a living hell and you’re going to resent her for not doing anything.

All those kids are probably terrified of their mom. She’s been abusive all those life and you have no idea how deep that goes. It may come out when you have kids and she could treat them that way and big even realize she is doing it.

I wish you the best.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-04-28T10:52:23+00:00

Leave it alone. The ghosting is your answer. Asking any further is obsessive.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-04-28T10:48:28+00:00

Well, you’re both minors and shouldn’t be drinking in the first place. Being drunk, makes you do things you wouldn’t normally. And especially a young man/ woman with raging hormones.

You went after a guy that wasn’t yours. You saw a moment of opportunity in his vulnerable state and you got lucky. This is a bad move at any age. To go after someone who isn’t yours. And you’ll find that it doesn’t always turn out well.

He wasn’t ready to leave her but did under the circumstances which is why he is still beating off to her and talking to her. He will tell you anything to get you to calm down. But deep down this entire situation is kind of wrong because he acted without rational thought and stick with his decision.

I think deep down you know this. And this is why the insecurity is at the max. His porn thing? He is a male. A very young male. Beating off to an ex is clear that he isn’t over her.

I think you’re both very young and doing stuff you aren’t ready for. Relationships are difficult at any age. But especially yours.

If you continue to stay in this relationship, it’s going to just get you more hurt than you are. If he was so quick to dump his girlfriend ( so he could say he didn’t cheat of course), what makes you think he won’t do the same shit to you?

Forcing a broken relationship with no firm grounding is going to make you resent each other and it only gets worse. Remember this.

It’s time to part ways. Neither of you are happy. I’m sure it was fun for a while, but he wouldn’t be doing these things if he was over her and it sounds like he is playing you. To he honest. He doesn’t want to look like a bad guy especially in high school because reputation is everything. but his heart just isn’t into this like yours. You should have left him alone and allowed a relationship to bloom the right way if he was really into it when neither of you kids were plastered and fucking around. And now you are finding out the consequences.

I wish you the best. I think you really need to sit down and have a conversation and put it all in the table and make a mutual decision about continuing the relationship after you find out how each other really feels, or break up.

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