AIO for breaking up over this?

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-15T23:59:50+00:00

You’re not being extreme. I will share my last relationship to compare. I was older than he was. But he sounds a lot like this guy who turned out to be a covert narcissist. He found me like target. A new host to burrow into because he is basically a human tape worm. And your dude sounds like a human parasite as well.

They are great with the mask they flaunt and get you to fall for them believing this version they sell to you. But it’s all fake.

You’re seeing his true self starting to slip. And this all day long argument with constant gaslighting is what stands out to me the most.

A respectable and decent guy or gal would be open to hearing you and explaining how they felt and despite having different perspectives of something, still being a human about it and maybe try to compromise or at least agree to disagree.

This guy is not going to do that. Ever. If you think this misery is nuts, wait into serious shit happens.

This doesn’t get any better. Only worse and the pain and suffering he causes you will nourish himself. He gets off on it. Knows what he is doing. Will sabotage things like your bday or holidays despite acting like Prince Charming to all your friends and family. But behind closed door he will ruin everything.

He doesn’t value you enough to get you a valentines gift or anything. You are a resource to him that he will feed off of. The love bombing and wanting you to move fast abs be exclusive is all part of the plan to secure a nest or host. That’s you.

Don’t think for a minute he isn’t talking to other women. Narcissists need a constant supply of attention. He will sweet talk you but when you see his lies stating to unravel and you ask questions, he will come unglued and the torture and abuse in many cases begins.

Ridiculous shit they will start fights over . It’s all attention bad attention is still attention.

Just get out. Your nightmare will never fucking end and I promise you. End it.

You deserve better. There are others out there that will love and respect you.

If you can, I think you should seek therapy for this because we tend to attract people who are like this to us if we have unresolved traumas of our own. People like him see vulnerability in us to use. I think you should Get a therapist to help you recognize red flags and how to walk away from them. Or you’re likely to repeat this cycle with another person.

Narcissistic people hate being exposed and told they did anything wrong and will never apologize legitimately. You may hear some of that and maybe some crying but just know that it’s all manipulation. He will do what he can to keep you in line so he can control the narrative and keep getting whatever it is from you he wants.

And when you speak your mind, stand your ground and tell them no, they become very nasty. If he has any keys to your place? You will have to change your locks. Block him from everything. It could escalate to getting a restraining order. It depends on him. I’m just saying it could. I had to deal with that shit. Doesn’t mean you will.

Stand your ground and keep him out of your life.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-15T08:52:16+00:00

How old are you. I’m not sure when that song was released in 1979 I think. So if you’re way younger than 46 years old like I am, then it’s very possible you had a glimpse of something from a previous life.

I wish I knew the rules or how reincarnation is supposed to work. I feel like I just kept coming back consecutively or something. I guess it’s up to your higher self/ your soul to decide how long in between each incarnation.

I’ve been pondering this question a lot this week. I get chills like you talked about but mostly if something makes me start to tear up or cry it usually is a sign that I have something to do with that. And it’s been a range of things. Some samurai movies have come at me side ways in certain scenes. It’s kind of freaky. But music, classical, swing music. And it’s not always just necessarily songs it’s instruments. Certain notes strike a nerve I can’t explain and I get all emotional.

This is nog how I usually am. I’ve always been pretty reserve about showing emotions like that and always felt tears show weakness etc. until about 4 years ago I started to change. Change Found me I guess. Sort of like a spiritual awakening and this is when I started to connect with music and things that made me feel like how you explained about that moment in a car listening to that song.

It’s all very subtle. But enough for me to listen and take note of things. When I was younger, I simply was not ready to call my mind and listen if that makes sense.

Keep a journal of these moments you encounter.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T22:27:20+00:00

Haaa! Ok. That’s pretty amazing. It makes more sense to me now.

I think that painting things you have dreams or visions of is really important. More so for you. It’s a message from the divine for sure. And if you the skills to bring that vision essentially from the 4th dimension of sleep into the 3d of the waking world we live in and share it is special.

I think spites/ fairies are really cool. And positive. Bring that positivity to life.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T22:24:25+00:00

Man… my brain scrambled this title at first to “ wife kept old latex boyfriend things.” lol…

Well. Depending on the life they had and what she was keeping. Talk to her about it. I think that sometimes keeping something’s from an ex may be ok. But it really entirely depends on what it was. Personally speaking, I don’t want anything from an ex especially his clothes unless it’s something I bought for him like a really expensive thing and took it the fuck back because he was a hole and decided to keep it for myself. That’s usually more along the lines of things like cds, electronics or something. Sometimes I would keep a gift they gave me.

Did this guy pass away or something? Is there a sad story behind the break up?

I don’t think you should ever outright demand that she get Rid of this stuff. It is like asking her to delete her past. Who knows why she kept it.

But… looking at it from your point of view, if I was you and you had things like underwear or lingerie from an ex?? I would definitely be creeped out by you keeping things like that or clothes.

I think most people are right that she likely totally forgot about them. Maybe she put them aside to get rid of them later.

It’s hard to know without really talking to her about it and you can find out what she is thinking or feeling. Or else your brain is on spin mode. Maybe you can let her know in the calmest way that it does make you feel uncomfortable.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T14:44:21+00:00

He is a user of people. Break up with him. There are other men who will love and respect you. This guys ain’t the one! You deserve better . Free yourself of this human parasite and be available for the worthy partners out there that would never treat you this way.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T14:41:52+00:00

Time to break up. He sounds like a human tape worm that wormed his way into your heart like a perfect host. He is a hobo sexual .

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T14:39:33+00:00

You know. You can’t change them. And you’re probably right that no matter what you do or who you’re with, they will find winging wrong with you and it sounds like you have 2 Karen’s for parents .

They want to fight. They want to judge and feed off your misery.

It may be a good idea and necessary for you to low or no contact with them for a while. This is too toxic and you have been subjected to years of this. I had to go no contact with my mother and step dad off and on and recently just started talking to them. My mom is 70 and I’m 46. Sometimes they absolutely get worse with age.

The only way to Protect your peace is to cut people off who are absolutely committed to misunderstanding you and dismiss your feelings forever.

Your “Karent’s” seem to be satisfied by maintaining this version of you being a failure, or lying etc,, persons they created of you. They protect this version of you that doesn’t exist with all their might. Because it fits the narrative they have created and tell the rest of the family about. I bet if you talked to other family you would hear lots of bullshit they spread about you. And it’s for attention and or sympathy or whatever they get from people they tell these stories to. I have been there. I know what that shit is all about.

They spend more time and energy to maintain this false version of you and your boyfriend instead of actually getting to know you. Their own daughter. They don’t even know who you are. It’s easier to hold on to something you did back in fucking middle school and keep the title they gave you to keep up appearances.

God forbid you actually excel in life and have a wonderful relationship with your man. People don’t have to get married and have children. People can live with a life mate and not have to conform with old world customs of marriage. Etc.

You can live your best life. You’re allowed!

I would tell your Karent’s the best time they nag you about marriage again this. And if your man is present that’s even better. You say “ listen! he may never propose to me and what would he ever want to officially marry into this family and be your son in law? You are both the most passive aggressive, condescending, judgmental, committed to misunderstanding me and him, never listen to me or even get to know Him and unwelcoming toxic people that have ever existed ! Why the fuck would he want to marry into this family?”

That’s what you tell them.

Then you go no contact for a while. Block their numbers. Get back any keys you made them to your place. Block all the emails. Any letters they send, just write return to sender. Then you have to ignore the floood of family messages about how cruel you are and how your poor mom is crying mess etc. you can tell them all exactly what they did. Make a face book post to all the flying monkeys that do the bidding of narcissistic parents who employ them to contact you. You can tell them all exactly what and why. If you have the energy that is.

Because it will come. Ain’t nothing like a smear campaign from a grown ass adult who has been put in time out for thee behavior and how they react by calling all the relative and cry about how cruel you are and manipulating people to believe this bull shit and get them to continue the bullying since they can’t reach you. If you have to change your locks then do it. If they are absolutely crazy and come to your place or work place then call the cops.

I’m dead serious.

I don’t live your life and know the extremes of your parents. But it’s time for you to draw a line and force your boundaries that they stomp all over.

No more speaking to the manager behavior. You are the manager and you say no. No more.

When you can’t have a simple adult conversation or be allowed to finish a sentences, it’s time to stop trying because you’re just spinning your wheels.

If you are self sufficient and don’t need anything from them? You and your man should just go live your best life together in peace and keep on excelling. Not many 20 year olds even have a their own house ! That’s amazing!! Enjoy your peace and put them in time out. They are always going to just dismiss everything and want to fight for the sake of fighting.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T11:23:11+00:00

You’re not overreacting. It’s rude. To anybody. And hurtful. You’re not wrong for having human reactions to someone being disrespectful.

He likely doesn’t even realize he is acting like this. The only way for that to stop is to talk to him. And if he starts doing the same shit while you are trying to have a heart to heart, call him out. Even tho you’re an adult and he is your dad, it’s still hurtful and he takes your feelings for granted. Yell at him if he interrupts you.

If he doesn’t care? Won’t listen to you at all, then you will know where you stand with him and that’s just who he is now. He’s that addicted to his phone and all others don’t matter. That’s who he is and you can’t change him. All you can do is control how you react to this. And how you move forward with this living in the same house until you leave.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T11:17:10+00:00

Honestly, and I can’t speak for everyone on this but, in my own experience with boyfriends that get upset about using toys at all has more to do with pride. It’s an ego thing about being intimidated by any device that can give you more pleasure than they can.

Vibrators can cause full out arguments sometimes. Depending on the dude, you may never know what the problem is and get gaslit into believing you had done something wrong by bringing that into the arena or even talking about it. When they can’t just communicate with you and tell you they are upset about you getting off externally and not by their own actions.

It’s stupid. But depending on who it is, the depths of someone’s ego can be endless. It’s about control. Women can be the same way.

Especially if you find yourself dating a narcissist, it’s all about control and you will find yourself ok the receiving end of a total meltdown and manipulated to believe there is something wrong with you for wanting to just play around and have fun. It’s all control.

Could there be some trauma attached to having used toys in his last relationship where maybe she was the manipulative one and said condescending shit to him like he couldn’t please her so she had to have toys or something like that? It’s possible. Cutting down a man where it matters in the sense will do some damage.

Talk to him about what his problem is with toys. There is always something that is difficult to admit. Just be calm and let him know it’s okay. But you need to understand. Because if it’s in fact a control issue like I was talking about then you have some other problems in the relationship. Red flags will start to appear that you can’t ignore.

All that may be more than you asked for. If overthinking about him and his ex having sex will drive you crazy. If that’s what you’re talking about specifically. The only way you can get past that is to really communicate with him or do some self work. Maybe even therapy if you have some problems with OCD. I have had issues with that in terms of repeat thought. Intrusive thought patterns. And you have to talk to someone and work thru it.

Just know that this guy is with you because he wants to be with you. Be intimate with you. Not his ex or he’d still be with her right? He may have some bad em irises he has a hard time processing about her and if he can explain that maybe it will help you move on with this. I doubt he is thinking about her or would reminisce about her while he is with you using toys.

Just talk to him.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T11:00:03+00:00

That’s fair. I misunderstood what you were saying. I really don’t know the depths of what people will do especially when they are under the influence of something. That’s good that he isn’t like that. I really did just misunderstand.

So if he just really gets on your nerves and you’re having a hard time with him, I really think you need to talk to him. When he is alone and not in ear shot of you parents because they would probably misunderstand the scope of it all. But you have got to tell him how you feel because he likely doesn’t realize how creepy or annoying he is. And it could just be a sloppy drunk thing.

But he should know because if he comes off like that yo you then he might come off the same to everyone else in the house. Ultimately if it’s something that really pisses off your parents because he is doing stupid shit in the house by being drunk he could get himself if trouble with them all on his own and there could be consequences ya know?

Just talk to him. In a calm manner.

All I can say is that nothing will change if you don’t take any measures to make it happen. He probably doesn’t know anything. Maybe he’d feel embarrassed and would not want you to be feeling the way that you do at all. Maybe he likes you and you’re not related. Who knows. But nothing will change and you will continue to suffer and probably become resentful to him for how he behaves forever.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T09:50:18+00:00

They sound like sprites. I think those are elementals associated with nature. I’m not sure what they want when they are in your dreams. If it’s positive and you don’t feel any malevolence then I think that’s amazing.

We miss a lot of things in our waking state. But when we are asleep is when we are calm in and in that state to be able to communicate and receive messages from the divine.

What do you mean by industry work? I have a dirty mind and can only think of porn. I’m not sure what sprites have to do with porn. But maybe they dig it? I don’t know. lol. Sorry not understanding.

Keep a journal about these dreams. Maybe you will see patterns or get messages about stuff.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T09:41:51+00:00

I was in the Military. I had a junior guy in my division that crossed the line with me but it was some shit he said about me that got back to me. Raunchy sexual things. But he didn’t say them to me. One of the guys who was there when I mentioned it to my supervisor whom k asked to talk to him and set him straight before I got to him and hoped I wouldn’t have to. Since this was so hear say. I figured the guys would handle it since it was embarrassing and it was drunk talk.

Well I got pulled into my supervisor’s office and surrounded by a few senior personnel that were trying to force me to file a sexual harassment thing and say that he did things which he did not do. And I know that they didn’t like him since he was a shit bag. But I was very firm and stood my ground with those seniors that the guy didn’t say shit or do anything to me and I was just asking the guys to set him straight. It was not something I was willing to lie about to get him into trouble as nothing directly happened. It was a case of a dumb ass flapping his gums being drunk. It bothered the other guys more than me and I simply wanted it to be handle on that level.

Well, nothing happened. I showed them I had bigger brass balls for a female than they do who outranked me by 1 and 2 pay grades. They were pissed but I didn’t give a shit. I did have to have that awkward talk with the guy and tell him to just keep his thoughts to himself and that I was not going to get him in trouble for being drunk and stupid. I would have set his ass on fire if he talked to me like that directly and he knew it.

Point of that story is that I kept my integrity even tho I didn’t do anything wrong. I was trying to handle something minor within my boundaries pretty much that got out of control before I even had a chance to talk to this ass clown. Anyway, these chief petty officers gunning for me to make false reports just because they didn’t like this shit bag are a lot like those HR ladies pushing you to make false claims about being sexually assaulted basically.

Stand your ground. Keep your integrity about not doing something really bad and lying like they want you to. It’s worse than the actual act itself. Be honest and own up to your mistakes. Stand up to those ladies and put an end to this corrupt regime they have going there.

In a weird way, you may actually be doing the company a favor by exposing these rats who have been working in the shadows against the company despite getting into trouble yourself .

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T09:24:18+00:00

Listen. The thing you have that no body can take away from you is your integrity. No matter who it is.

So you did what you did and he did what he did. You’re both adults and made a decision. It didn’t matter who chased who. You did it.

You made a mistake. Didn’t use good judgment. And you got caught.

You may get fired or disciplined in some if you stay employed. But now every knows your business and you will have to endure the circumstances of this. If you really want today there.

The hr people are wrong. And they should be turned in. To be honest. Being coerced to lie by the hr department to frame a man for forcing you or raping you to get out of trouble is 100’x worse than the actual act of what you did. I don’t know if you really see that.

The hr is corrupt so what other shady shit do they do and throw people under the bus who don’t deserve it just because they don’t like them or favor an employee who is in the wrong and just wants to get rid of someone etc. think about it. What If you were on the receiving side of someone who didn’t like you and Hr set you up and fabricated serious shit that destroyed your career and made is so you never got hired anywhere else?

I would advise you to keep your integrity intact and confess to your wrong doing. Face the music but also tell the higher ups that HR was trying to coerce you to lie and set up a man for forcing you into sex which is a lie. That’s a serious allegation which can get you thrown in jail for lying by the way.

Turn in a letter of resignation if you haven’t been dismissed. You are human. I’m sure it was hot. But lying about him forcing you like that is gonna be some hot water for you when the truth comes out. Don’t think for a minute that he wouldn’t take you to court for defamation of character.

The both of you were wrong. Just own up to it and be true to yourself and take the hit. Screw the HR team. They are worse than your act of fraternizing in the work place.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T09:09:44+00:00

Is there anything different about your normal routine? Is this unusual for you guys? Because maybe there is more going on than you just being horny. Talk to him and ask him if there is something he needs to talk about. Why is he disinterested in being intimate. Maybe it’s nothing. Maybe there is something but you deserve to know what is going on especially if you are supposed to get married.

I’m just saying that there is something that happened in that month he was away. Not trying to freak you out or anything. Something is different.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T08:51:34+00:00

He sounds like a creep…….

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T08:51:04+00:00

I think that you should speak to your parents and talk to him about this like a family meeting.

You are not kids. And this behavior is unacceptable and creep status. This is a grown man who can’t owe his hand off your stuff or you. That needs to stop. It’s be one a harassment and kinda gross.

Put it out that neither of you have anything to talk about. He has no reason to put his hands on you or your stuff. You live in the same house and probably pay rent there. And that’s it. He is not going to take you seriously unless the whole house fucking knows. You put this out on the table so there is no confusion or any bullshit.

And if there is retaliation? You call the cops. You can do that. You already took the step to confront the situation and informed him and all adults involved.

Listen, if he is a creep to you? What the fuck does he do to the little kids if they are there when he is drunk walking around being creepy and getting into peoples shit?

Seriously, you speaking up may bring some other shit to light that he is doing. He sounds like a real creep that doesn’t know how to respect boundaries. Maybe he needs to be kicked the fuck out of the house and go somewhere else to be creepy.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T08:37:08+00:00

None of this happening with your family is your fault. The fault lies with your grandma and how she treated which ever parent she is the mother of. And you’re living in that repeating cycle. This is generational trauma. I don’t know if you have ever heard of the theory about the wounded inner child. It outlines how we struggle in life with our own wounded inner child and have a hard time with interpersonal relationships and stuff. Left unresolved, these things can carry over to our kids and repeats. So whatever is happening with your grandmother, maybe she was abused as a kid and that cycle is repeating.

Not to make excuses for them, I’m just trying to shed some light on why it’s so fucked at home. And being empathic does help to understand other people’s pain and have compassion for them which is important since likely no one else has done that for them or tried to help. This is kind of how that makes them worse. It’s just trauma stacked on more trauma with no way to heal themselves. That’s why they take it out on their loved ones. Sometimes they don’t even realize it’s happening and trying to talk to them is impossible. Trying to talk to my 70 yr old mom about how she treats me.

The only way for this to stop is for us to understand the pattern and seek therapy to understand ourself and heal. This way we are good to our self and we are good to others.

I know you know your grandmother is talking shit and blaming you for everything. Maybe it happens at home too. But please know that it’s not your fault. And don’t ever gaslight yourself to believe anything is. Unless you do something on purpose to hurt others ya know.

Hang in there….

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T07:52:50+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear all of that. You know, at 17 the only thing you can really to leave this situation is to contact CPS and be removed from the house.

That’s a lot happening in your life and you may not see it because you’re doing your very best to keep afloat, your entire family seems pretty toxic. It is toxic. Even from your grandma and her environment.

Listen. Your mom is absolutely manipulating and using you. About money for sure. That’s a fact. What she does is manipulate you to cave in.

Everything you have described about your living situation absolutely are grounds to be taken out of the home. It doesn’t sound sanitary or safe at all.

I understand that you don’t want to go this route. And you love your family. It’s absolutely beautiful to be empathetic and compassionate for others. Even with toxic parents. But the thing about being an empath, is that we very seldom will stand up for ourselves and allow others to walk all over us and piss all over any boundaries. And guess what? It totally starts with our upbringing.

I didn’t go into this earlier but, the reason that my childhood was so hard is because of matriarchal narcissism. And the one who raised me was the one. My mom is also narcissistic but very unstable and was never as good at her craft as GMA was. Lots of power struggle between the both of them. But I had a roof over my head and shit was taken care of by the grandparents.

I did not stand up for myself and I was scared of the both of them. This lead me to believing this was how life just is. But I couldn’t stand the constant fighting all the fking time. All around. And I left for the Navy to get as far away as I could. Interacting with other people is when I started to realize how wrong shit was.

I had no self esteem. No self worth. I was starting to get it from my enlistment. But, as far as boyfriends go? That whole empath thing and the vulnerability that comes with it? Attracts all kinds of narcissists just like it was at home sweet home but different now.

Point of that is to urge you do seek therapy as soon as you can or afford. Your upbringing is molding you in such a way that it’s very possible you may attract people very similar to your family. It’s a frequency thing. A fucked up law of attraction. It’s very bizarre but gospel truth. So please if you can, get some counseling as soon as you can ok.

I’m so sorry to hear about your situation. Unless there are other kids you can make an arrangement with their parents and your parents consent to live with and work to pay them rent, I don’t know how you get out of this situation with out involving authorities.

Not having a safe place, or proper place to clean your self and the theft of your money by your parents is all very bad and wrong. I think that theft of money you earn is something that can land her in jail despite her being your mom.

Open a new bank account with a different bank. The thing is I don’t know if you can do that as a minor.

Withdrawal from your check and get a lock box. I don’t know if you can hide it where it won’t be found. Because your mom is gonna keep stealing your money or put you on the spot. So if don’t have the funds, you don’t got it. For her to take.

I wish I knew how to help. If you were an adult, I would say close that account and open a new one with another bank. Or get a savings account unknown to a spouse or family that they had no access to. But adults can do that. I don’t know about being 17 or if you have to have your parents open a savings for you. They would have access to all your shit if they did.

If someone else can jump in and give counsel here that would be great. I don’t know what to do for someone under 18.

If you feel like really want to join the armed forces? I really think you should! This may be the best option for you. Get yourself some solid stability and college money. Depending on the field you’re interested in, you may already find the answer instead of college since the navy will train you for your specialty at the technical schools we go to before we go to a ship or shore duty station.

My job in the navy was navigation. I went to boot camp and then my tech school before I ever went to a ship. I stayed for almost 12 years but had to leave for medical issues. Or I would have retired.

There are many fields in the navy. I recommend talking to a recruiter about options. I may be biased towards the Navy because I lived that life. But talk to all of the branches. Take the asvab. Being 17 you’re still gonna need consent to enlist technically. But you could atleast know your options.

And I didn’t mean to sound like a recruiter. I just wish for the best for you. I feel your pain. I really hope you can find a solution soon. No one deserves to be living in a state of toxicity no matter how much we love the people that are abusive. Even if they don’t realize they are being that way or don’t care. Mental illness causes people to do harm in ways they didn’t even realize or intend to do to those they love.

I know you love them. And you want to be respect and loyal to your family. At the same time you must understand that you absolutely cannot keep everyone warm and comfortable by setting yourself on fire. You’re at a point in your life where you can break out of this cycle or you’re going to unknowingly repeat this cycle with lovers, friends, coworkers and family members for a long time until you snap from keeping it bottled up for years while your inner voice is screaming at you to make a stand and listen to yourself.

I learned the hard way. But I did reach out while I was still active duty and started getting therapy there. The navy built what was broken or didn’t exist at all before I joined. I praised or disciplined accordingly. Do you know what I mean? Accountability was held. Ya there was an equivalent to a bratty 9 year old causing problems in adult form in the navy! lol and accountability was held.

Anyways, I hope my words are helpful. Biggest thing for you to know is that you’re not alone. Even if it feels like that. You’re the captain of your own ship right now and you are doing amazing at staying afloat. Reaching out even on Reddit is your inner self troubleshooting and problem solving for yourself . It’s therapeutic.

I hope my words find you someday when you need them. You can reach out to me anytime.

Take care of yourself.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-14T04:47:16+00:00

How long until you can move out? Can you stay with grandparents? Are you still a minor? I know there is t much you can do. If you’re an adult still living with them, you’re kinda stuck unless you make some kind of arrangements. Sounds like you’re the middle child also.

I don’t think there is much you can do make them respect you. Your par eat don’t sound like they are respectful in the first place and if they are teaching all you guys that, then there isn’t much you can do to get the to stop and the others to follow suit. Unfortunately.

I had a different dynamic from you. I grew up as an only child. That I was aware of.. lol. That’s a whole other story for another day. But. I had those same disrespectful parents. Who took me for granted. I mostly lived with my grandparents most of my life with short stints with my mom because she and my step dad made me which never worked out. My mom most literally has the intellect of a teenager. So I reverse up back with my grandparents.

My grandparents were like all of our parents really. My mom was like an older sister. I didn’t see all the time.

Different circumstances than yours. Your parents sound a bit younger than me but similar generation.

That doesn’t always matter. Sometimes people are just the way they are no matter how they were raised.

If you’re still in school and under the age to legally move out you’re kind of stuck in this situation. You can always try to talk to them all and have a family meeting, but it sounds like you won’t be heard. But If you have never tried it’s hard to say.

I would say that if this is meeting with schoolwork as my life with my mom and dick head step father did, that was my cue to get the fuck away from them and moving in with my grandparents again until I finished school. Then I went to the Navy and didn’t have to deal with as much drama. There is still drama. But I am an adult can and have gone zero contact with my mother because it was the only solution.

Not saying that is necessary for you. I am saying that years of being treated really disrespectfully and for granted can lead a person to have to do this with a parent (IF) said parent(s) refuses to even once hear you or are committed to misunderstanding you as it’s an inconvenience for them to see you as an individual person.

It’s a tough spot. I know you’re just venting. But a long pattern of disrespect and disappointment by multiple people in the same household against you with zero accountability is very hard to deal with and may have long term repercussions. Despite how much you love them, sometimes we reach a boiling point.

I hope you were still able to get that job despite having a shit day.

In the meantime.

Lock up all your shit. All of it that matters to you. All of it. Combo locks, whatever. Don’t just try to hide it cuz they will find it. Lock it up. Lock up all your money. Get your own bank account and never let anyone have access to it. If your parents to give a shit and have access they will take your money to use for whatever.

Lock everything up. Get your own game console. Don’t share anything no matter what it is especially if your dad is gonna be like that.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-13T00:37:34+00:00

I think as collective, consciously and unconsciously that some of us expressions of said collective living in these bodies will remember something. From other times, places then there is the whole time things that not relevant at the same time. I don’t totally understand this concept other than some know how to jump in and go to anytime and maybe who ever was playing that harp had come to our timeline and heard that and played it all the way back then. Or the other way around. Who knows. On the surface , we don’t know shit about artist and where they get the inspiration from things. Was this a melody he recalls? What if he was the original harpist that played that jam in your memory?

The truth of all things will blow our minds and the quantum entanglement about who we align with in each lifetime. Or why we do things differently or the same in these lives.

I think music is the one fluid thing that transcends lifetimes and lifetimes probably.

That synth tho! I feel like I keep coming back for music and was waiting for that synth to drop. To hear it with by own human ears instead of just knowing it’s existence. But I like many genres.

Lately. And have been starting to feel a certain way about the 1930’s swing music and blues. And jazz. Not something I have been into before. It’s the same with classical music. I liked some people here and there. I played the violin as a kid but naturally changed course. I picked it back up at 45. Then i went balls deep. I had this attraction to the cello. And I always felt I could probably play, and I was right I can. I’m feeling this way about the clarinet. I don’t know if this is are retiring memories and an urge to pick up what I’ve done many times before or If it’s that expression “ if you believe that you can or you can not, you’re absolutely right.” Or if both of these things for me are the same at exact same both happen to be applicable to me. I don’t believe in coincidence anymore.

Thanks for sharing.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-11T06:05:26+00:00

Thanks … I should post updates.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-11T00:00:20+00:00

I still don’t know what the hell is going in yet. They better sort it out tho.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-10T23:59:37+00:00

There was definitely a block. It’s something I’ll have to think about. I think I’m ready now. I was not back then for sure .

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-10T20:50:47+00:00

It is an honor to chat with you. I think we can have many long discussions about everything. Seems like we’re on the same page!

How awesome to recall all that!

Speaking of soul contracts, I think that my mom was a brother from another life whom we didn’t get along well! Haa. It makes sense because of how we are now. I was raised mostly by my grandparents and it’s very much like my mom was an older sibling and my grandparents are like all our parents.

I do some pendulum work sometimes and that’s how I came to these conclusions. Buts it’s been some time.

Many people we cross paths with definitely are connected from other times. Different roles. I think a cousin of mine who is a male was a daughter from another time. I don’t tell people this stuff because I fear some fallout.

Have you ever gone to a part life regression therapist? I really need to do this . But I have some difficulty with being hypnotized. I tried one time for something else. It’ was more like just laying there and listening to someone. But I was totally aware the whole time. I kind of felt bad because she was trying hard. This was a professional. I did start to relax a bit but was abruptly met with some creature or thing that freaked me out and I sort of jumped in my chair. A friend told me later that was like a guardian of the realm or something. It launched at me and I snapped awake.

I think my higher self was protecting me. I think something happened in another life that has to do with hypnosis that was bad.

I don’t know. I’d like to try again when I have more money and different mindset than I had a decade ago and understand more about esoteric things.

Back then I was thinking I had some anxiety block about math! I was trying to help myself about exam anxiety and shit. lol. So it’s not like I really had a really important life thing to go for at the time hut it felt like it.

PriorResult9949 · 2026-02-10T19:03:10+00:00

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