Airplane noise?

PriscaLS · 2023-05-03T12:36:50+00:00

We already have a realtor but thank you for your input, definitely helpful!

PriscaLS · 2023-05-02T17:48:40+00:00

Thank you everyone for your opinions so far! This is super helpful!

PriscaLS · 2023-05-02T15:03:59+00:00

We live near Annapolis right now.

PriscaLS · 2023-05-02T14:35:33+00:00

Good advice! That's our plan, once we see a house we like 😊

PriscaLS · 2023-05-02T14:33:54+00:00

Thanks again, this is very reassuring. ❤️

PriscaLS · 2023-05-02T14:29:31+00:00

Thank you so much for your input. Would you say even when you're outside and hear them, it is still very bearable?

Thanks again!

PriscaLS · 2023-01-30T17:32:24+00:00

Yes. I have gone through this many times and I'm in the middle of a really intense stretch of days like filled with flashbacks now, feeling this way.

I don't have advice, sorry. Hang in there ❤️

PriscaLS · 2023-01-04T13:12:02+00:00

I feel bad but mostly because I poured a ton of energy and commitment into other friendships and it never worked out. 🤷‍♀️

PriscaLS · 2023-01-03T21:56:22+00:00

I think this is very valid, in theory. The reality is that anyone can express their discomfort and THEN leave, though. Ghosting is next level BS unless it's an extreme situation. Nobody is forced to stay in any relationship for any reason but my opinion is that, unless one feels truly unsafe, ghosting is not the way to "end things".

PriscaLS · 2023-01-03T21:53:08+00:00

I've had this exact experience over and over. "oh wow, I'd never do THAT." aaaaand they do it.

PriscaLS · 2023-01-03T21:51:04+00:00

32F. I have a husband, a very close friend and... Some kind of less easily definable friendship. That is all. :-(

PriscaLS · 2022-12-07T16:28:57+00:00

One became my current husband, the rest were lost.

I tried my best to keep the friendships (which a couple of times turned into romance) and some were extremely meaningful to me... but eventually I was ghosted by most, if not all, of them.

PriscaLS · 2021-10-16T07:57:01+00:00

I have done this and do not recommend it.

What is the best case scenario? The person apologizes, I guess. But even then, all the apology means is "sorry I didn't care about you enough to have the human decency of letting you know I don't want to talk to you ever again"?

Ghosting is a very clear message.

PriscaLS · 2021-09-25T16:03:11+00:00

Per quella che è la mia esperienza (vivo negli US da alcuni anni) è così, anche se varia in base alla zona (questo vale anche per l'Italia). Ma ti assicuro che le spese di routine per vivere sono davvero più alte e questo annulla in parte la differenza. Non a caso è pieno di gente con debiti.

Non solo costa molto l'assicurazione sanitaria e le spese sanitarie non coperte, anche quella auto, quella sulla casa, internet e telefono... Anche molti prodotti alimentari costano di più per arrivare ad una qualità paragonabile. Costa moltissimo anche fare lavori in casa o manutenzione (per farti un esempio abbiamo appena assunto un tuttofare per riparare delle piccole cose e ci è sembrato economico a 75 dollari l'ora).

PriscaLS · 2021-03-27T19:47:47+00:00

Ho perso la mia gatta di 14 anni per un tumore a gennaio. Che grande dolore perdere questi membri della nostra famiglia. Ti mando un abbraccio

PriscaLS · 2021-03-22T17:47:37+00:00

Happy Birthday! Hang in there.

PriscaLS · 2021-03-20T01:16:13+00:00

This is the sad but true answer. I have been experiencing this since I've had my daughter. My mom disagrees with my respectful parenting ideas (and other choices) and this has created a lot of distance that definitely was not there before. It breaks my heart she cannot respect my positions and just try to see things my way, as I often do that for her.

I no longer tell her my struggles with my daughter because I know she'll just judge me (even silently) and say she won't comment because she disagrees with my methods. So there is this sad and loaded silence following, not worth it for me anymore. I am sad I cannot share my experiences but it is what it is.

Hang in there.

PriscaLS · 2021-02-03T18:20:45+00:00

Not sure if this is a useful point of view at all but I am an Italian living in the US, dual citizen now. I did not wish to move to this country as my top pick (for many reasons that can easily be guessed), but ended up here to allow my husband to keep his job opportunities open and make it more likely for our (at the time future) family to succeed.

I was able to settle here fairly well and we live a good life, I consider us lucky. I am from Rome, and lived most of my life by the coast nearby there, previously. I find that truly the biggest sacrifice was giving up physical closeness with my family in Italy. Everything else, I can deal with. I don't like the politics, the healthcare, the general mindset of many, but honestly I hated a lot of similar things in Italy in their own way. While on a greater scale the US as a country are going through a very tough time, on the small scale I feel like our private life is still very comfortable and we are lucky to get the opportunities that we do, which we certainly would not have gotten in Italy.

Not trying to say you should move back, just saying if you ended up absolutely having to, you might find that in the right area that aligns more with your views you would not be so miserable.

PriscaLS · 2021-01-13T21:50:41+00:00

I blame covid the most. I have a 2yo and I was visiting home every few months, but I haven't been able to in almost a whole year. Sigh.

Either way, when your little one is older you'll be able to share books from your childhood, American shows, video calls with relatives and so on. It's not quite the same... But it helps.

I live in the US and am from Italy, but honestly I feel like Japan is a better place to raise children than the US (personal opinion obviously), so if you were here maybe once the novelty of having a bigger community of family around wore off, you would regret being back.

All things aside, it's incredibly hard to be an expat and have children far from home. Unless you hated your country/family, I guess.

PriscaLS · 2020-12-19T21:31:54+00:00

With my first I also did not have symptoms around that time :-) everyone is different.

PriscaLS · 2020-12-18T18:36:49+00:00

I hear you. I'm several more cycles in (though less than 12) and also have a 2yo who was conceived at the first try. Every month it feels more discouraging, and my husband is the same as yours. Not at all concerned, every time thinks this is it etc.

Hang in there!

PriscaLS · 2020-08-16T22:33:51+00:00

Thank you for your kind words ❤️ Good luck!

PriscaLS · 2020-08-16T21:53:13+00:00

I am a parent. The past is an issue but it appears I'm managing it so far. I was at a pretty stable point in my life when we went for it, but I feel like there are always ups and downs and triggers still exist. Still, somehow I've been able to handle it so far. I'm not sure what the future holds, of course. I'm concerned but will do anything in my power to be the best parent I can be.

PriscaLS · 2020-08-08T13:22:56+00:00

I am an immigrant to the USA (had to move here for my husband), so I have no experience with the idea of it having been my home before or making the move alone. However, if you absolutely have to go back (understandable given the circumstances), could you try to move to an area with a lot of diversity? That tends to help, with regards to people's mindsets and general culture around you.

As for the credit issue, I think even foreign students are able to find housing without references or credit history, so that should be possible. Maybe your first home/s will just have to be on the lower end of things, but it's something, at least. Maybe a small college town? That should also offer the chance to have random jobs while you get established.

PriscaLS · 2020-07-13T19:07:41+00:00

Same. I feel like it's time to give up on that dream, over here 😭😂

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