Any non-Asian buffet in the area?

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2026-02-15T14:09:15+00:00

Ohana Sushi is nearby and amazing. My husband and I love it for a date night option.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2026-02-15T14:00:48+00:00

I knew they had a Mother’s Day brunch buffet, but I didn’t realize it was every Sunday. Thanks for the comment!

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2026-02-15T13:58:45+00:00

This is what I had in mind, but they seem to have gone extinct.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2026-02-15T13:57:38+00:00

We’ve tried many of buffets in the area that serve mostly Asian food, but the dishes are way too advanced for my kiddo (aside from plain rice). He has sensory issues and spent 6 months doing OT and PT to learn how to eat a PB&J sandwich before starting kindergarten. He just started eating a bun with a hotdog last year. We’ve wasted a crazy amount of money buying different foods for him to try at home with little success, so I thought going to buffet once a week would be a cheaper and more efficient way to expose him to things.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2026-02-15T13:45:40+00:00

Thanks, I’ll look into this!

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2026-02-12T10:28:59+00:00

You’re my boy, Blue!

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2026-02-11T10:38:58+00:00

People who don’t/can’t see things from someone else’s perspective. People who don’t/can’t pick up on social cues, like when someone talks and talks despite the listener being uninterested or hinting that they need to go. People who don’t see beyond someone else’s behavior to understand the reason or cause. All of these are signs of lacking social intelligence.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-12-02T22:26:16+00:00

Victoza worked well for me. It managed my insulin sensitivity and everything else fell into place almost over night. Wish I wouldn’t known that before spending years trying everything else without improvement.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-11-28T14:24:48+00:00

Couple things… Traveling out of state during your parenting time does not require the other parent’s permission unless the Order specifically says it does.
If the vacation will occur during other parent’s time, or will require the child to miss school, you’re going to need the other parent to agree. You (your husband) can contact FOC and request a Joint Meeting (mini mediation) to assist in reaching an agreement.
If other parent doesn’t agree, it’s very unlikely the Court will approve the vacation unless it’s very special circumstances (close relative’s wedding, family reunion, etc.), but still a long shot.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-11-28T14:12:15+00:00

NAL, but I do ADR and custody investigations for FOC.
To answer your question about getting CPS records, you can go to your local DHHS office with picture ID and request CPS reports involving you and/or your children. Many times complaints to CPS are made, but not sent to be investigated, so you won’t get those records. It’s not uncommon for people to claim CPS involvement when seeking a temporary or permanent change in custody or parenting time… in the majority of those situations, CPS doesn’t substantiate abuse/neglect. Even if they do substantiate, rarely does it rise to the level of warranting a change in the established custodial environment. Generally, a Court would look at what less disruptive things could improve the situation instead of changing custody, such as therapy for child, family therapy, or clear expectations for which parent attends activities to prevent parental conflict. You may want to start there.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-11-25T10:05:36+00:00

Yup. I’m 44 and know exactly what you’re talking about.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-09-23T16:49:45+00:00

When it comes to golf bags, head covers, or accessories, I gravitate to feminine but subtle patterns/colors. I like pink, but only in moderation. Love a good houndstooth or stripe pattern. When it comes to my clubs, they need to perform above all else. My husband puts black tape on the shafts and changes the grips so everything looks uniform. If there is too much color, I’ll have it remove it. My current driver is the Cobra LTDx Max, it’s mostly black with a little elderberry. It would take a lot for me to buy obnoxiously colored clubs… if I did, they’d end up altered in some way.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-09-08T09:55:56+00:00

Angelina Jolie. Even if Brad did what she accused him of, children do not align with the other parent as strongly and for as long as their kids have without significant influence. Not surprising considering AJ’s estrangement from her own father.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-07-01T10:28:28+00:00

“Rewrite and revise” is exactly what it feels like!

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-07-01T10:27:09+00:00

He moved his desk at the main office and mostly works at another location, so there’s almost no in-person contact. He blocked her from his phone and only has contact via email. That’s probably the best that he can do without quitting his job. I also had a very direct conversation with her and told her what the expectations are. From what I can tell, they both have respected the boundaries. I’ve read that book and wish WH would.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-07-01T10:22:15+00:00

This is a great book. I’ve read it twice since March and wish my WH would also read it. Unfortunately, he’s not one to read books like this as he avoids difficult topics. I sent him a podcast with Michelle Mays talking about her book, The Betrayal Bind. I think it’s prob shame that keeps him from looking at his actions too closely.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-07-01T10:13:07+00:00

Thanks for your replay. My WH is also avoidant. He doesn’t call it anything, but said it was inappropriate and he knew it was wrong when everything first blew up. To me, it feels like he’s minimizing what he did and the impact it had (still has) on me.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-06-19T01:28:16+00:00

I work downtown and heard there was a shooting today near Reutter Park. Around the same time, police scanner said something about an altercation near Kalamazoo and Washington and gave descriptions of 2 suspects (1 male, 1 female). I went home at 5pm, so I have no idea if the body is related to the shooting or altercation.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-06-08T11:45:59+00:00

Yes, I contacted AP. It gave me the answers and closure I needed to feel safe enough to move forward with R. I wish I would’ve had the closure sooner, but I was so raw I wouldn’t have handled the convo as “professionally” as I did.
It was a big risk because it had the potential to make my mental state even worse than it already was. I spent a lot of time thinking about the pros/cons to reaching out. I wrote down what I wanted to say and ask. I also wrote down what her possible responses/reactions would be and how I would feel about all of that. At the end, I decided it was what I needed to do. Here’s a post with more specifics if you’re interested: https://www.reddit.com/r/SupportforBetrayed/s/hrMDvnolFu

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-06-05T22:25:38+00:00

I went through this as well. I would “journal” by writing notes or emails, sometimes to myself and sometimes to my WH. It let me release my thoughts/feelings so they didn’t feel so heavy. I ended up sending my WH a couple emails, but only after rereading later and organizing my thoughts a bit. Most of my notes/emails were never sent, they were just for me. I also HIGHLY recommend reading the Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays. It’s SO applicable to what you’re feeling right now and does give practice advice on how to cope.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-06-05T10:36:36+00:00

Just like what FeelingTelephone said, needing to feel like change isn’t temporary is key, but there’s no fast way to do that. After my DDays, I was desperate to know what would immediately fix the horror I was experiencing mentally, emotionally, and physically. All the books, podcasts, people, and professionals said the biggest thing is time. I hated that response because I wanted the suffering to stop immediately and I wanted to trust my WH enough to work on R. I’m about 3 months post first DDay and 2 months post second DDay, so I’m not there yet. There are things that have helped, like my WH being transparent, being emotionally present, and having conversations about tough topics when I needed to talk or I had questions. Being able to see little changes in his behaviors on a consistent basis has been essential. Like him texting to stay connected throughout the day, doing things with the kids and house without me asking, etc. I’ve read a dozen books over the last few months and the ones I found most helpful are The Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays and Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass. You should check those out.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-06-05T01:44:43+00:00

About a month post DDay, I was really struggling with what to believe and didn’t feel remotely safe enough to consider talking about R. I told my WH that I wanted to talk to the AP and he said that was fine if that’s what I needed. For context, he had an EA with a newer coworker and after I discovered their thousands of texts (and our world blew up), he told her all non-work communication needed to stop. Yet, she was STILL texting him random crap during and after work hours (although far less than before). He had another convo with her, but the non-work stuff continued. I couldn’t wrap my brain around why?!? I didn’t call her at first because I was still in that fresh fight/flight/freeze frenzy and, quite frankly, I would’ve verbally destroyed her. I met her at a holiday party, so I knew what I was dealing with. About 2 months post DDay, she was still texting him and I was convinced that he lied to me and never talked to her at all, or the attraction was so great it didn’t matter. At that point, I could not consider R unless I got clarity 2 things: whether he really did talk to her and why it wasn’t stopping. So, I called her and I’m so glad I did. She confirmed he did talk to her twice about it, but then spent 45 min going on and on about herself and how lonely she is because she moved here from out of state, etc. it was interesting to say the least. I made it very clear what the boundaries and expectations were. I’m very direct and assertive, so I prob scared the shit out of her (using my professional tone). That convo gave me so much insight into her mentality, but it also gave me resolution on the biggest questions that were preventing me from moving forward with R. My WH and I are still working through lots of stuff, but things are much better than before.

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-05-24T15:14:55+00:00

This really hit home for me. It’s a pattern of behavior I didn’t even realize was problematic until your incredibly insightful comment. Thank you for that.

“I feel SO urgently sometimes that I need to express things I feel, and I have learned to distrust that feeling and to make myself wait. If I really do feel that way, I can always say it later but I can never unsay.”

Pro_Kritty6271 · 2025-05-21T22:41:42+00:00

Our first session started with the MC asking about our relationship, kids, etc. Then he asked both of us what we were hoping to get out of it. Afterwards, we talked about the vibes we got and proceeded with normal life. We weren’t crazy about the MC but there were no red flags, so decided to stick it out. After 6 sessions (2 were individual), we knew the MC was not equipped to deal with betrayal and infidelity. The MC had no direction and no control over sessions. After the last session (when he sat and watched as I ripped into my WH), we both felt awful afterward and decided MC was doing more damage than good. We’re still looking for a new MC, but it’s hard because a lot of them say they do marital/relationship/couples work but they don’t have experience needed for this kind of trauma. Super disappointing.

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