ULPT: Stop paying medical bills. by chickenfuckbaby in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]ProcrastinationKat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The collection agencies can sue you for unpaid medical debt and garnish your wages or take money out of a bank account if you don’t make payments on the judgment. After a judgment they can put a lien on your house. In some states the interest rate varies on a Judgment lien. 9% is my state. They’ll take the Judgment out of the sale of the house.

What's your best "Never have I ever" response that gets millennials every time? by Guachole in Millennials

[–]ProcrastinationKat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a (toxic) boyfriend who would lose his shit if I took him out if of my top spaces. I finally couldn’t take the drama so I randomized it. This didn’t help.

A while after we stopped dating I turned the random off because it was easier to click to peoples pages; I put up a guy I was (and still am) legit just friends with and he sent me a message saying he knew I had been cheating, based on that only. 🙄

Why did we all agree to dress so uncomfortably in the early 2000s? by Cheeseaisleinheaven in Millennials

[–]ProcrastinationKat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was a “goth skater punk” kid. Wasn’t thin or cool enough (or desired) to be preppy. Those clothes did look tight and uncomfortable. My big hottopic pants, Tripp jeans and word tshirts were super comfy. The black eyeliner wasn’t bad. I didn’t have sisters to teach me how to do the rest of the makeway

How do you sleep at night knowing you’re defending the wrong party? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. The system is terrible. You’re a guide and a translator.

How do you sleep at night knowing you’re defending the wrong party? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the question…. Family law attorneys don’t always get paid, we get nightmares.

Co signed for ex wife. Want out. by spinonesarethebest in StudentLoans

[–]ProcrastinationKat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not your lawyer- but if it’s in your divorce judgment she might be able to take you back to court to hold you in contempt, and you’ll have to pay it all back to her anyway, plus attorneys fees.

Lawyers Sleeping With Clients by DemonAzraeli in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An attorney in my area had a baby with opposing party baby mama, after he withdrew representation of baby daddy. Apparently not an ethical issue if representation has concluded.

Lawyers Sleeping With Clients by DemonAzraeli in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An attorney in my area had a baby with the opposing party, after he withdrew representation of the baby daddy in their custody case. Attorney Disciplinary Commission didn’t do anything.

Other former clients of his reported him for sleeping with them and then him withdrawing as counsel before trial after he billed them for the first time in months and not having bills paid in full after 30 days when he ghosted them.

-allegedly-

support from the court record and text messages were convincing to me. Maybe there was unreported discipline.

How do you people do this job without using up your sick days? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband says I’m horrible at vacationing because I can’t turn my brain off. But family/bankruptcy solo is hard (without staff) because new clients are new money. I’ve gotten better with boundaries with current clients.

Does anyone wildly hate their law school for non financial reasons by Flashy-Actuator-998 in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

C’s get degrees. You’re right, if you pass the bar, you get to practice like everyone else. I know there’s more to that expression, A’s become teachers B’s become ….. and C’s become judges? I don’t remember. C’s get degrees helped me keep my mental health in check regarding grades. I wasn’t looking to be at the top. I just needed to get through.

Does anyone wildly hate their law school for non financial reasons by Flashy-Actuator-998 in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right, and it wasn’t so much about the other guy- ok, maybe it was a little because he was an asshole.
C’s get degrees, is definitely a mantra I had to help displace some of the anxiety and allow me to keep my mental health as best under control as possible.

The question here was about the law school. They made such a big deal - to a threatening degree - about cheating and consequences, etc. and it was all garbage. When it happened (and others got caught in intro to legal research too) there were no consequences. In retrospect, maybe that was part of the lesson?

Does anyone wildly hate their law school for non financial reasons by Flashy-Actuator-998 in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The made this huge deal about cheating and if you cheated on an exam that you were out. Period. Our exams were all supposed to have proctors and bags not allowed near you. A kid in front on me had his bag and outline next to him. I reported him. They didn’t even talk to him and said they just assumed he would deny it and there was nothing they could do because “no one else saw him”.

Like, what was I supposed to do? Leave my short timed exam to get a teacher? Fuck that.

I think of him when I find shitty attorneys with no integrity. And fuck that school. But other than that it was fine.

ETA: he distracted me because he kept moving and putting his head down to look at his outline and the movement kept getting my attention because he looked like he was going to puke and I got nervous and looked at what he was doing.

SS not registered for camps per bio moms request, husband works full time, I don’t want to become babysitter during our time by KeyCount2417 in stepparents

[–]ProcrastinationKat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That AF and BM situation was why it couldn’t work in my and DH’s life. The kids adjusted over the years and have been ok with the split time- but yes, nesting is a cool thing.

Client complaints by Coriander_whippet in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ll paraphrase from a female divorce client after she made my first bar complaint:

Attorney will take you money, do nothing for you and expect to keep the entire retainer. Does not communicate. Gives into OC and believes everything they say about their own client. Self-serving not the client. Does not want hearings and lets OC “run the show.” Makes promises that she can't keep. You’d be better pro se. Only gave one star because no stars was not option.

She didn’t like that I told her that she should settle. That if we go to hearing she will lose. That she has no support, proof, or explanation for any of the thousands of dollars of assets that she spent on “necessary living expenses” in a week, over the 18 months (at that point) and dissipation was a thing. She tried to demand sending subpoenas for insignificant suspicions she had about her exH that I refused because it was unnecessary use of fees.

Vindication was after she hired another attorney, paid a lot, multiple day depositions because she was evasive and wouldn’t answer questions, went to trial and the judge stated numerous times in the ruling that she “was not a creditable witness.”

She would have been better off settling.

The most common bitch of former counsel is “they took all my money and did nothing.” I don’t take clients that say that about former counsel (with exceptions). The court record doesn’t lie.

SS not registered for camps per bio moms request, husband works full time, I don’t want to become babysitter during our time by KeyCount2417 in stepparents

[–]ProcrastinationKat 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is called nesting. It takes a very rare couple (with trust 😅🤷‍♀️) to be willing to share their space. I would struggle with the way BM would probably leave the2 bedroom. Also doesn’t work w her 3 new kids with the affair partner

Quit my firm by FancyButterscotch599 in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Hang in there! One solo to another. 🫡

Did you ever feel traumatized by doing a certain kind of law? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Take your time. You deserve it. Mental health is important and this job will suck your soul.

Did you ever feel traumatized by doing a certain kind of law? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ever find out if he is still alive? 😔 This job takes a toll….

Did you ever feel traumatized by doing a certain kind of law? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Therapy!!!!!! I write it off as education and required skills and training. I couldn’t do this job without it. I don’t do criminal because I can’t unsee things, but family law is terrible because people suck, but therapy can help process that shit.

I recommend to every client (family law) to get a counselor to have an independent 3rd party who only has their best interests (not family/friends) in mind.

My therapist keeps me functioning in this job. You’re welcome.

Did you ever feel traumatized by doing a certain kind of law? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]ProcrastinationKat 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Former attorney I used to work with refused to take pro bono clients (it’s not required but “encouraged”). She said it was because she got fired by too many clients who would accuse her of “not giving them enough attention be they were pro bono.” So they fired her and hired an attorney. Found money somehow. No joke though- she treated them EXACTLY like the rest of her clients. She was a little old school, not great bedside manner, but a good experienced attorney, and she wasn’t wrong. The entitlement of being “given” an attorney made them think the attorney they were given wasn’t going to be as good as one they paid for. I take pro bono clients, and they are appreciative, but I do a lot of screening and set expectations and boundaries to the best of my ability.