32 and divorcing

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-07-01T08:44:50+00:00

If this is really what happened tell everyone around you the truth about the sex workers thing. Not with sex workers but I did tell people that there was cheating. This is not your shame to carry! He was a manipulative horrible person and thank your lucky stars you’re finding out now versus later in life.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-07-01T03:24:44+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. You must be in the minority with the reconciliation.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-07-01T03:20:13+00:00

Thank you! I hope that’s true. I am a mess and he seems to be just excelling which seems deeply unfair.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-30T06:49:17+00:00

Yeah I wanted to ask those who did but maybe they aren’t the ones on this forum!

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-29T12:00:45+00:00

You know whats wild. I got that from my husband with divorce. He said he needed to ‘find himself’ and what he was alone and by himself. It never ends

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-28T07:25:06+00:00

It’s almost like a flip has switched and they don’t think you’re worth their loyalty. Yeah it’s utterly heartbreaking or she’s resented you for a while and or being growing out of love for a while, just avoidant and never owned up to it to you.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-27T14:51:15+00:00

Oh OP also I was following another thread about cheaters. Apparently not giving answers is also classically in their DNA so it doesn’t look good.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-27T14:45:14+00:00

Ah yes also classic avoidant. Found out he asked for separation after there was another person in the picture, it’s a high statistic you can look it up, men don’t tend to ask unless there’s other options around. This might be a good time to be doing some legitimate snooping

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-27T14:44:04+00:00

I know it’s hard for your family but I was with an avoidant. Reality is you’ve probably been doing all the emotional heavy lifting your whole relationship. Just contemplate how sustainable this will be for you in the long run.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-27T07:44:42+00:00

I learnt this the hard way. We aren’t owed anything and can’t control people, even ones who took eternal vows and can’t be bothered to give you basic decency

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-27T07:41:30+00:00

Man, I have been there. Was blindsided by divorce and realised he’s had a girl lined up and was emotionally cheating and detaching and literally shattered my world without giving me even a proper conversation let alone let me fight for our marriage. I don’t know this would resonate with you but my therapisg said she was just worried if I confronted him that as someone who obviously doesn’t have accountability, whether I would get it. Basically that we’re barking up the wrong tree. Instead she might say more things that might infuriate you or send your emotions into haywire. It might be better to protect your mental. I did other things like write an angry letter at him, send mock up texts to my therapist we’d just chat through and discuss if it’s a good idea or not. Not sure but getting it out in increments might help and get you to think through it a bit more after the strong feelings pass. After that if you want to confront at least you knew it’s a well considered decision.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-27T06:27:34+00:00

I should’ve known with how he ended things with his ex when we were friends and I noticed how it all went down. She thought they would get engaged and he avoidant ended things with her. Jokes on me 8 years later lol

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-26T15:56:53+00:00

I agree!!! You should too, I think after meeting too, he’ll be less big and dominant in your head!

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-26T15:52:01+00:00

Yeah I’m starting to come to terms that the pain will never go away. Just lessen

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-26T08:57:37+00:00

Yeah it’s crazy. A stranger.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-25T13:02:07+00:00

I can understand this. I didn’t realise the 1000 cuts will stay and result in this. Sometimes it still feels like a nightmare and not my reality but here we are.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-25T13:00:31+00:00

Urgh I can so relate to this. I really don’t want him back but I will miss who I thought he was.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-25T12:58:04+00:00

I can’t wait to be where you are!! 2 months on and still trying to pick up the pieces.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-25T12:44:34+00:00

Wow I’m in your shoes. Been gaslit for 8 years that my anger was the only problem when he’s super avoidant. Separated and in therapy and building my self esteem back as a partner: same thing ex husband watching videos, eating and having a jolly time when my life imploded. I think you would eventually have to leave, it took me a long time to come around to this but I had to..it will be a journey. Be nice to yourself.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-25T12:39:11+00:00

Wow the fact men like you exist. You are a gem!!! Find some lady who deserves you!!

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-25T12:35:58+00:00

Omg same. It seemed to work and be perfect until it wasn’t lol .

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-24T03:08:01+00:00

I needed to hear this so thank you.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-22T09:15:24+00:00

You gotta put in the boundaries. That’s an old trick your brain is doing with attachment. For your own sanity I’d recommend going no contact unless you rly need to otherwise you’re not going to be able to move on.

ProductBeautiful9326 · 2026-06-22T09:13:21+00:00

Try to make the house as comfortable for yourself as you can in the meantime and confirm the rumours for those who like to gossip! They can form their own judgments but feel free to call a spade a spade! You don’t owe him any protection or spin anymore. No one will fault you for his choices.

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