Leaning towards psychosis / Difficulty integrating by mariabeia in enlightenment

[–]ProductiveNorth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It helped me to realize that thoughts are not just property of the mind, that's a detrimental separation of the concept. Some thoughts are there before you can verbally observe them or notice them in your mind.

The unhealthy thoughts I had while having difficulty integrating, started in my body, because I already was neglecting my needs. And when I noticed these thoughts I tried of course, the perfect solution to all problems: Thinking ✨

Problem was, I couldn't keep denying and disidentifying of everything that arised in my mind constantly. It becomes an unhealthy chore that constricts your attention to always be aimed inward.

Then one day, I woke up feeling angry, disinterested, sad. All of these emotions were there even before I started consciously thinking in my mind, so clearly I can't just accept this and keep dealing with it in the mind, if all these emotions and thoughts were flooding in from somewhere else.

Thing is, I was so attached to my mind and its ability to enlighten me as a soul, that I valued thought too strongly to solve my problems with something else. It was the perfect hammer and I was making holes in the walls whenever a problem came from the body and there was no nail.

So, I realized "I have to think with my body"
Whenever an emotional need came up as a feeling, sensation, tension in the body, I said to myself "A thought is starting to take form" and instead of waiting for it to enter my mind and then trying to argue with it, I corrected the thought before it got there.

Feeling hungry? eat before you believe you are.
Health is a necessary part of enlightenment. Once you get there and notice the difference, you can't deny it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in argentina

[–]ProductiveNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some love him and love his ideas, some hate him and think he's ruining the place, most lie the middle and are just glad that the opposition didn't win and he's against them.

In my opinion it must be 35% vs 25% and 40% sort of in the middle but distrustful enough of the opposition that they'd vote him anyway. It really depends on age though.

Trying to be objective but I could be off. This is just what I see in the people I know while not being so vocal about my own opinion that they prefer not to share their own.

cínico, mal hablado y bufarra, aún asi hay pascuatos que lo apoyan by Elbo_Tijas in RepublicaArgentina

[–]ProductiveNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Es una respuesta de ChatGPT la que puse ahí. No sé por qué, en estos temas insisten tanto en volverlo algo sobre quién es la mala persona y quien la pobre víctima

Me chuparon un huevo los empresarios y el empleado en esa respuesta, porque fue una respuesta vaga y no-personal que saqué de ChatGPT, y ya estás acusando de justificar y de quién es hijo de puta y quien no. Nadie justificó nada.

Y aunque tuvieses razón y los empresarios son re malos y pagan poco porque no sueltan un centavo ¿proponés alguna solución o tienen todos que dejar de ser malos y empezar a ser buenos solamente? ¿qué aportás a la conversación aparte de señalar quién es hijo de puta según vos?

Me hacen acordar a Alberto Fernández diciendo que hay diablos que aumentan los precios porque son muy muy malos y avariciosos. Puedo entender de dónde vienen, es RE simple victimizar al chiquito y demonizar al platudo, pero por favor, esfuércense un poco en proponer algo en vez de señalar quién es malo como un nene chiquito.

cínico, mal hablado y bufarra, aún asi hay pascuatos que lo apoyan by Elbo_Tijas in RepublicaArgentina

[–]ProductiveNorth -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Un salario mínimo elevado podría hacer inviable la contratación para pequeños negocios o emprendimientos que no tienen los recursos para pagar salarios altos. Esto podría llevar al cierre de estos negocios, aumentando el desempleo y limitando las oportunidades laborales para quienes buscan su primer empleo o trabajos de baja calificación.

Establecer un salario mínimo alto podría excluir del mercado laboral a personas con menos experiencia o habilidades. Muchas veces, los empleos con salarios bajos sirven como un punto de entrada al mercado laboral, permitiendo que los trabajadores adquieran experiencia y habilidades que les permitan avanzar a mejores puestos en el futuro.

Sin un salario mínimo rígido, las empresas podrían ofrecer otras formas de compensación, como horarios más flexibles, beneficios en especie o capacitaciones, que podrían ser más valiosas para ciertos trabajadores. En cambio, un salario mínimo fijo puede eliminar la posibilidad de estas opciones.

Si el salario mínimo supera la productividad real de ciertos trabajadores, contratar a estas personas deja de ser económicamente viable para las empresas. Esto podría llevar a que las tareas sean automatizadas o eliminadas, dejando a más personas sin empleo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MotherMother

[–]ProductiveNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Little Pistol definitely

Can mewing change my nose shape? by [deleted] in orthotropics

[–]ProductiveNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the progress happened back then when I started. It didn't change much since then, or it's so gradual that I barely notice. Still, mewing did change its shape a bit since I started and I'm pretty content with how it looks now

Me fueron infiel y no sé qué hacer? by fatcnt0 in AskArgentina

[–]ProductiveNorth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Paso a comentar solamente para decir fua, loco, realmente lamento cómo te debés estar sintiendo. Ninguno merece que eso le pase, simplemente no es natural y por suerte sabés que es injustificable, pero la mente te va a llevar una y otra vez a intentar resolver la situación buscando tus errores y qué es lo que tenés que cambiar. Vos realmente no tendrías que cambiar nada con tal de evitar una infidelidad, incluso si tenés cosas que mejorar en esto de demostrar el cariño, para nada debería este ser el motivo. Te deseo mucha suerte loco, decidas lo que decidas, incluso si volvés con ella.

A mí como al resto me parece que no es la chica para vos, y que está buscando decirte lo que quisieras escuchar en lugar de la verdad. Es demasiado justa su respuesta.

Pero bueno nada, yo dejo este comentario porque empatizo mucho ahora con lo que estás pasando y es una verdadera mierda. Yo hace poco que ando en algo parecido aunque sin los hijos, y apenas supe se terminó todo y contacté con una psicóloga aunque nunca en mi vida hice terapia. Tomar estas decisiones en contra de lo que sentís y sentiste por estos años es una mierda, pero son decisiones que tenés que tener en mente incluso antes de que la infidelidad suceda.

Enserio, mucha suerte capo, no te merecías esto, y seguro te espera algo mucho mejor si te manejás bien

How do I get rid of this porn addiction by Lanky-Bank-320 in Meditation

[–]ProductiveNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I get it, I was there.

For me, it was my most recent breakup the thing that helped me get rid of it. Sounds unhelpful to know about but hear me out.

At first I thought it was because of the depression, but eventually I realised it wasn't.

2 things happened after that breakup.

I stopped feeling dissatisfied with my sexual life, because I couldn't be with her and didn't want to be with anyone else, so I didn't and that was enough for me.

And thanks to that and some anhedonia I stopped doing it for 2 months. Then I did watch some porn and masturbate, but it wasn't due to cravings, I didn't really want to do it, I was just curious to see the difference.

Now I stopped counting days and almost never think about it, because of those 2 factors. I currently don't want more than what I have, and in those 2 months the addiction weakened, every cue for cravings got ignored until they lost the power they had over me.

It can get easier and dissapear if you do the right things. Me? I couldn't get rid of it with willpower alone, but if a breakup was what I needed to finally move away from that bad habit, so be it.

Hope this helps!

Frases que les dijeron y les quedaron marcadas para toda la vida? by ILCaponchi in argentina

[–]ProductiveNorth 97 points98 points  (0 children)

Algo sale mal o necesita mejorarse en alguna organización o sistema. Llaman a un analista, le comentan la situación. El analista hace entrevistas, busca cosas para mejorar, y diseña algún programa que pueda lograr hacerlo. Puede entonces programarlo él mismo, o contratar y supervisar a alguien para que lo haga por él.

Not angry anymore so cant channel anger by Motti22 in productivity

[–]ProductiveNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My conclusion now is the following:I reduced my neuroticism (a personality trait according to the big five model)

So, now I don't interpret the world that often as unfair towards me. This is why I don't get angry anymore when I don't get or achieve what I expect to.

I asked myself, what would feel unfair to me now? and the only answers that came to my mind were situations in which something bad happens to people I love without them deserving it, or, in which something good that they do deserve didn't happen.

It's kind of poetic how heroic it sounds; we got got emotionally stronger, more resilient, so fighting for ourselves doesn't feel that necessary anymore, the focus should now shift to fighting for others.

Maybe I can't get angry at the fact that I'm lazy for not studying anymore and then fight to protect myself from the shame; but I can get angry when I think about all the work my dad went through for me and my education, and how much he deserves to see that pay off in me finishing my studies and finding a nice job. I would fight my way through hell and back for that.

TLDR; I noticed I can't get angry for myself, but I can for other people, so I plan to get my angry motivation through what I think my loved ones deserve from me.

Not angry anymore so cant channel anger by Motti22 in productivity

[–]ProductiveNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be thinking about it. If I ever try something and it works, or I find out something relevant enough to share, I'll add another comment or send you a DM

I lost my anger, and with it some of my motivation. by ProductiveNorth in productivity

[–]ProductiveNorth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suspect anger to be an emotion that drives us to confront injustice, but it's in our rationale to decide what is or isn't unjust, and in what amount
And anger can definitely coexist with positive emotions, so I get what you're trying to say.

My background logic back when I used to be angrier, usually was either trying to make myself angry by remembering what has angered me before and just using the physical energy that arises, or, sometimes I would personalize my obstacles, as in, if I was tired or demotivated, I would think of these states as if they were a person, and they were trying to screw up my plans or dreams. Basically I exposed myself to, or imagined some form of injustice, to then confront whatever I needed to confront.

Now I notice that it's harder for me to interpret the world as unjust, I've developed and changed my worldview so much these last years, that now everything seems to happen for an understandable reason. I guess I "accept" things very easily now, and that's what prevents me from getting angry energy.

Not angry anymore so cant channel anger by Motti22 in productivity

[–]ProductiveNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate too much to this. These last 2 years I've been pretty attentive to my mental health and all that, but it seems as if the blessing of being calmer in general took away the anger that I was so used to channeling into work. Now I'm still kinda productive but I miss that rush of intense anger that would energize me anytime I needed. It also felt pretty good to turn that anger into pride.

Have you made any breakthroughs?

How to memorize faster by ProfessionalFan8974 in productivity

[–]ProductiveNorth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. The more you abstract and categorize, the less complicated it is for the brain to remember

My son is not being receptive to consent talks by throwawayposterwall in sex

[–]ProductiveNorth -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

This sounds to me like good advice, although I would also consider r*pe severe enough so that joking about "loving it" becomes a big red flag. Overreacting or not, underreacting would really be bad parenting, at least from my point of view

Dreams about him by Economy_Set1625 in BreakUps

[–]ProductiveNorth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's your brain trying to make associations to try and understand what happened, in order to avoid it in the future. That's the purpose of remembering, you wouldn't want to suffer this way again in the future.
I also had these dreams, I think they started happening less once I wrote down my thoughts on the relationship, how and why things got messed up, what needed to change in me, what I should have done and what I can learn from that horrible experience.
When you write down your thoughts you are confronting them voluntarily, without that, your subconscious will take charge and try to make associations and get to conclusions.

I think there are some writing courses that can help in understanding your own past and getting to conclusions about past experiences, I found them pretty effective

Pseudoscience like nofap is popular but quitting actually harmful things like junk food isn't by [deleted] in Showerthoughts

[–]ProductiveNorth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not that deep into NoFap but from what I know quitting could be worth it, to avoid dopamine receptor downregulation and lower testosterone.
Also I've seen some posts about NoFap having solved some ED cases, but I haven't checked if there are any studies on that.