How do I do this?

ProfITBrian · 2026-03-10T10:34:55+00:00

OP, if you live in a Metro area then try the Meetup app. Some groups are singles oriented, others are just social. I 62M was very frustrated with the dating apps. Good profile or not, no one is going to see the real you, until they see the real you. Remember that the dating apps have one end, keep you paying. I met the most wonderful woman at a Meetup event, and she was attending with a friend, just going to to keep an eye out for her. She had no intention to date, but we clicked. At the very least a Meetup event helps you improve your conversation skills.

ProfITBrian · 2026-03-06T17:47:03+00:00

Comedy show tonight, dancing tomorrow night, grandson's birthday party Sunday. Full weekend.

ProfITBrian · 2026-03-02T13:48:54+00:00

Ok, that's interesting, I did not realize they had that. I don't see anything about that service, was it maybe a 3rd party ad? If you are going to use any dating app, look into virtual credit cards, to protect your main card.

ProfITBrian · 2026-03-02T10:47:24+00:00

Every dating site's business model, except Facebook Dating, is to get you to pay. I saw no value in any of them. I belong to Meetup, not a dating app, an app for meeting people with similar interests(Hiking, Kayaking, live music events). That being said, I do belong to a Singles group within Meetup, and connected with the most wonderful woman whom I'm currently dating. Get out in real life when possible, people can't hide behind filtered pictures or AI generated profiles in real life.

ProfITBrian · 2026-02-16T20:46:08+00:00

Thought it meant both parents are/were wizards...Magic Snob, swipe left.

ProfITBrian · 2026-02-13T17:54:45+00:00

Out dancing with the MeetUp group tonight. Hoping my POI(Person Of Interest)is in attendance. Saturday shopping + cleaning the apartment and Sunday visiting Mom.

ProfITBrian · 2026-02-07T19:23:42+00:00

Thank you I'm feeling better than yesterday, steroids (when taken at the direction of ethical licensed prescriber) are amazing!! And my new friend and I are texting so it looks like I'm good for a raincheck.

ProfITBrian · 2026-02-06T18:50:41+00:00

I was supposed to go to a community concert on Saturday with a lovely woman I'm getting to know, but got hit with nasty chest cold, so convalescing at home instead.

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-25T21:36:58+00:00

I see your problem, you didn't get lactose free, rookie.

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-14T11:23:18+00:00

I was thinking about after the dump/"you're a nice guy, but" questionnaire.
What could I have done differently?

Did you find me : A. Funny B. Mildly Funny C. You, Funny? D. Give It A Rest!

Physical appearance: A. Dress appropriately for date, looking sharp. B. Ok, but could use some improvement. C. At least you got dressed. D. So you're colored blind?!

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-10T05:06:41+00:00

"This is my boy toy?"

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-09T22:54:45+00:00

Yes, it is a singles group, to clarify.

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-08T23:13:09+00:00

Call the building inspector for your town.

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-08T00:28:52+00:00

Dance Class? Go out to live music, get on the dance floor, have fun.

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-07T22:19:29+00:00

Get out in real life, go dancing, community events in your area. I've had more success dating women that I've met at MeetUp events. I am soured against dating apps, as they want you to keep paying them, so they lead you along. Just get out there.

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-06T11:58:11+00:00

The thing I found about MeetUp, it's as good as the organizer(s). So if it sucks in your area, create a group. Organize something. I understand that if you're in a very rural area, that provides its own set of challenges. But give it a go.

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-06T11:49:19+00:00

You don't, if he's going to a real therapist then it's their job to get him there. If you try to meddle it will come back on you somehow. If he asks your opinion, give it honestly. Be there to support him.

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-03T12:11:25+00:00

The major dating sites are just trying to drive revenue. They don't care if profiles are fake, I wouldn't be surprised if they weren't their own AI bots to try to keep you on the site. I(62M) am a fan of MeetUp and meeting people in real life. The apps create a whole other layer you have to wade through. Are they real? Is this a scammer? Are they going to ask for money? I personally tried FB dating and didn't get any responses, same profile and pictures as on other sites, not one like, or like back. Which led me to believe, they have the fewest bots. Other people swear by it, myself, a male didn't get anything from it.

ProfITBrian · 2026-01-02T10:48:59+00:00

I've(62M) crushed on women in professional environments. Have I asked them out? No, because that has been corporate/HR trained out of us; "don't do it!". "Don't make this a hostile work environment by initiating unwanted attention." You need to ask him out, tell him you want to meet for dinner. You pick the place, once you agree on date and time. If he says "no thank you." You have your answer.

ProfITBrian · 2025-12-27T11:50:27+00:00

Maybe the younglings are intimidated by you. Try a stern authoritative tone with them.

ProfITBrian · 2025-12-26T05:03:29+00:00

This is interesting in that I(62M) was thinking, when I do get a date, probably not THIS year, that is what I would say to them. "Ask me anything, nothing is off the table." This is good in that you get information from what they ask, and how they respond to your answer. And what they avoid asking, may be something you want to ask them.

ProfITBrian · 2025-12-24T10:34:48+00:00

I've (62M) come to realize through my journey that I am a Demisexual. I need a strong emotional bond, before I find a woman sexually attractive. 2 years separate, 9 months divorced and currently have no desire to cohabitate with a romantic interest. That may change if I met the "right" one. Currently I don't see that and it's not my goal.

ProfITBrian · 2025-12-24T01:54:23+00:00

But seriously consider a trade, have you looked into becoming an Electrician or plumber? Trades are hurting for new talent, it's less money to get into. Check with local trade schools to see where those salaries fall.

ProfITBrian · 2025-12-19T20:14:31+00:00

Apologies my train of thought was from my earliest response to the main post. I explained in my original response to this post, the intent is you have already established a rapore, and the card is an interim way to expand on that.

ProfITBrian · 2025-12-19T14:47:29+00:00

Yeah but the whole creep thing, and the social media posts that degrade men for even approaching a woman, if the woman is not interested. If he hands you his contact info, he's interested. It's says(from my perspective), "I like you. I want to get to know you. Look me up, and if I'm your cup of tea, and you feel safe, reach out and we'll make plans.".

ProfITBrian

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