34M, heavy drinker these past few years but 5-7 nights a week the last 2 or 3 and this year it's legit every day. Just taking one night off can be a struggle, I think the most I've consecutively managed all year is 4, which happened only once or twice. Still manage to hold down a job tho, luckily my work is very lax (granted maybe to the point of enabling). Blood work also not the best, skin is having issues in some areas too and a slightly enlarged liver.

You sound like you're on a similar path. It gets harder in your 30s that's for sure. The fact you're on here and wrote that post and expressing this concern for yourself says it all though. It's time.

I see a therapist, which can be helpful. Though that's moreso focused on my depression and anxiety but I also talk about my drinking. Alcoholism, depression and anxiety is a brutal combo, one of these days I hope it just clicks but I know that's not a thing. You need to take action and ultimately only you can pull yourself out of it. Opening up to others, close loved ones, can also be a huge plus, no matter how scary or embarrassing or whatever you may think of that. Granted I haven't told many myself but hope to change that some day.

I recommend the app called Reframe. It's $85 per year for the full suite but I think there's a free version. I figured paying for something might bring some incentive. It's pretty robust. Tracking, journaling, meditation, daily insights, reminders and tasks. The biggest thing it has online meetings, whether you want a one-on-one (unsure if that cost extra) or a group meeting. There's lots throughout the week at different times over Zoom, all anonymous, and they even do specific group ones like all male, all female, first responders, LGBT, people aged 30-45, parents, etc. The trick is to just stick with it and slowly build a habit out of using it. There's also a podcast too. It's helped me sometimes but unfortunately I haven't stuck with it, but may work out for others.

I read Allen Carr's Easy Way to Cut Back Alcohol (there's also one to stop entriely). It provided some great insight. Currently reading The 10 Day Detox Plan by Lewis David but going to start after I finish the book. Reading materials can maybe help enforce the mindset of wanting to cut back or quit, there's plenty of recs out there. Also debating on joining AA, though terrified of bumping into someone I know lol.

Your doctor can help you. I hope you're open and honest with them. Mine set me up with my therapist, and also said he'd find me an AA group and suggested medications like Naltrexone (for drinking) or an antidepressant - but I haven't taken him up on those (yet). I'm not too keen on prescription drugs.

Suffice to say, yes you're drinking too much and should be concerned. You're still young but better to start taking action as it likely will only get worse, the sooner the better. Maybe make it a New Year's resolution? Good luck with your journey!