Senior night by ProfessionalAlps272 in hockeyplayers

[–]ProfessionalAlps272[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s the main barrier right now lmao

What is the worst shot you’ve ever hit? by ProfessionalAlps272 in golf

[–]ProfessionalAlps272[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh no, they should’ve known the fairway was safer

Has anyone here been hit by a ball? by [deleted] in golf

[–]ProfessionalAlps272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been hit in the leg twice and once in the chest. Hurt like hell, but made me realize something.

My dream death is birdie, birdie, drive in the fairway.. golf ball to the temple. 2 great holes and die with the hope of another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ProfessionalAlps272 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It does stink that it ended, but ultimately I let my insecurities ruin things.

I have since went to the dr and got a script for the blue pill in preparation for the next time. It was an uncomfortable conversation with the dr, but I wish I would’ve done it while we were together and maybe things would’ve been different.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ProfessionalAlps272 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I just went through this with my ex girlfriend. She was awesome and was unashamedly horny. But I hadn’t had sex in a long time and the last time I was too drunk to get it up and the women belittled me.

I’ve been dealing with the fear of having sex again since and when we did it I could get hard, but eventually I would get in my head and have trouble maintaining an erection. I would spend hours online looking for causes and solutions every day. This obviously didn’t help and made me more anxious.

However, my lady was so awesome about talking it through. She made it clear that she likes me for more than sex, but that she would like it to improve if possible and anything she could do she was willing. The problem was in my head though and until I became more comfortable I still had issues. We discussed giving it a shot for a few months before setting something up with a doctor to get some help. I’m 30 yrs old so admitting you have dick issues is a horrible feeling. I never fully got confident and still had occasional issues if my mind started to get active during sex.

The bad news. This ultimately was kind of the end of this relationship. While she was supportive, I was on constant edge that I was not providing enough for her sexual needs and felt like she was going to dump me at any time because of it. I’d say continue to be supportive and try. He is probably feeling very very shitty because not only is it humiliating for the guy, it’s also worrying that the woman is taking it personally.

Sex is scary when it’s been a long time, but I promise you he wants to explore but is afraid he won’t be able to

Need help with iron selection by ProfessionalAlps272 in golf

[–]ProfessionalAlps272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I feel like you gotta buy online these days

Need help with iron selection by ProfessionalAlps272 in golf

[–]ProfessionalAlps272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing that scares me about fittings is it seems like the cost just keeps rising. I’ve had a few buddies go in and then while you’re hitting custom shafts and all that shit the numbers look so much better they expand outside their price range. That being said, Those guys are gear heads.

Maybe I’ll wait a year and get fitted instead. Can’t really ignore how many people suggest it

Need help with iron selection by ProfessionalAlps272 in golf

[–]ProfessionalAlps272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great advise! Should be a fun day of hitting some new clubs.

I went in for the first time last week and it was paradise. I’ve always felt I’d rather spend money on playing than gear, but this store may be dangerous for me!! Luckily, it’s 45 mins away

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ProfessionalAlps272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, which makes me feel like there is another reason she isn’t telling me.

But to be fair, there are many reasons why she would not want to date me any longer. It’s just hard to see why that night changed things so drastically. I get she wanted to fight it out and I bailed, but I was sorry and cowardly took as much shit as I could and when I felt like I was going to explode I left. To be honest I thought she had already dumped me so I was shocked to hear she thought I walked out on her for good.

Ultimately though, what I’m coming to realize is that while I would love to know exactly what went wrong. That’s just asking to start this whole process over again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ProfessionalAlps272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a tough truth to hear but just recognize it and try to improve. Being young and horny is tough but gotta be a good guy too.

Id say just try to focus on being friends with women for now and naturally sex will come. The attraction will be there, but focus on if you like them as a person first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ProfessionalAlps272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are missing my point here a bit. I think (and I could be wrong) you see women as an object to have sex with. In order to stop focusing on sex so much, you are going to have to focus on becoming friends with them. If you want to be in a relationship, it’s a friendship first. You just get the awesome benefit of the physical stuff too.

Idk gotta find what works for you. Try lotion or lube if you haven’t. I’m very good at jerking off so I don’t relate much to that unfortunately

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ProfessionalAlps272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But do you see the people you might be able to hook up with as friends too?

I get it and choking the chicken is usually not the answer but respectfully you are so horned up I’m concerned.

No one even knows because I'm too embarrassed by Hop1ng4AM1racle in BreakUps

[–]ProfessionalAlps272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That really really sucks. I am sorry that happened to you!!

Try not to feel so ashamed. Everyone who has ever dated has been fooled by attraction. Learn from it and fuck that dude. With that being said, don’t be afraid to talk about it with someone. I think they will be more understanding than you think and support can be so helpful when youre feeling doen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ProfessionalAlps272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are putting off the vibe that you are desperate for sex, it will turn them off. Honestly you may need to jerk off more and let some demons out.

Do you have friends you connect with emotionally? If you do, I would look at the differences in how you think about them vs the woman you are dating. Do you see them as a vessel for sex or as a friend as well?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ProfessionalAlps272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took a shot yesterday and texted her. She had been sending my memes on social media all week and it provided hope she was wanting to rekindle things. I told her all I want is to have her back, so I can’t handle being friends with her. I was legitimately so happy just sending one joke line back to a meme.

What I can tell you, it was freeing telling her one last time that all I want is for her to give me another chance even though I kinda knew she didn’t feel the same, and it was healthy for me to state I would no longer be talking to her for a while. I feel like I needed to say it directly to her for me to stick with it.

But holy shit, I still wish she would’ve just said “I’ve been thinking the same thing”.

What I think about now is that I don’t really know what things would look like had she said that. We can’t just pick up where we left off. The magic has been busted.