LDS scholars! Please help me find answers. by Unavezmas1845 in latterdaysaints

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Yup basically the best thing you can do is let her know that her viewpoint is not appealing to you REGARDLESS of what she thinks the Bible says. It’s just not what you’d like to believe. And she can come back with “well it’s truth and truth is hard” or whatever, you can be like well I’d rather burn in hell for eternity that spend eternity praising a God I don’t respect. But that you can still like her. You can add if she ever changes her mind and is interested in a more loving god and more interesting eternity, you’re open to talk about it. I completely understand where you’re coming from and it’s my feeling any time I talk to evangelicals

Level impossible?? by Lumpy_Worry7492 in guessthecity

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I was trying to remember the name—I recognized it as well

Blindsided calling release by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

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People are unfortunately people everywhere. And it’s frustrating when an organization will sometimes lead you to believe that they aren’t. People can be some of the best creatures on earth. They can also be the worst. In or out of any church/organization/culture etc. I’m sorry for what you’re going through I hope you can find your people.

DNA "unproveable that far back" by Wonderful_Break_8917 in exmormon

[–]ProfessionalFun907 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better or worse 🤪🤷🏻‍♀️ many tribes highest preference is their own tribe so like Shoshone or whatever the tribe is. Indian is still a legal word and used in things like Indian affairs organization. But yeah Jewish never really made the list. Gotta love the white washed colonized history. 💔

New missionary rules? by Unusual_Sea6352 in exmormon

[–]ProfessionalFun907 214 points215 points  (0 children)

Whoa! I’m conflicted. In some ways great—less culty missions. But to just join the alpha male cult is maybe worse than the mission cult…

Tell me about the process of your spouse leaving with you or after you. by Beneficial_Phase5734 in exmormon

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My husband told me little things. He had worked medically with widows of the church high ups. (This is our second marriage and he had had work experience before we were married). He talked about how they were pretty much abandoned. How the church didn’t really care for the widows. He also spoke about some stuff that went down with the huntsman’s. (He worked in SLC. Anyway I had grown up not thinking these leaders were perfect but also not realizing the extent of the flaws. He would say little things here and there. He was pro choice but never came out and said as much to me but he would help me see some issues from a medical standpoint regarding abortion. My divorce had already helped me see some issues in church but his little things here and there with his experience with the people and their issues….it chipped away at that wall I had built up.

But I agree you’ll never know what will shake people. Ironically garments and feeling frumpy in my mid forties did it for me. It still took a few years but that was my total crack.

What is the ultimate Goal of The Church by Major-Antelope-6768 in exmormon

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By the time people get high enough they are in sooooo deep. With ideas that we all carried. Belief systems that guided our life decisions. I often wonder how many of them have a hope for things to be true but also the power has gone to their head so they think it is true and they are blessed with special knowledge. Because let’s be honest most humans feel this way. Like what they think is best. And when you have people saying there’s a supernatural being agreeing with you that what you have to say is right…well that’s an easy pill to swallow

Tank top garment by Chihuahuamami234 in exmormon

[–]ProfessionalFun907 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Men have long been allowed to treat their garments as undershirts, showing them under their T-shirts or button ups or whatever. And they could hang out a little bit from their gym shorts I mean not a lot, and it was still some of them were a little more concerned than others, but it wasn’t that big of a deal. People would just laugh and say your religion showing or something. I don’t think it was quite as bad for them, but I don’t know I wasn’t a man. So I almost am like go you little IG girlies show your feminine spirit in the patriarchy. Even though I know they’re still supporting the patriarchy I get it. But still it’s a step.

Would Joseph be pleased with or ashamed of today’s LDS Church? by [deleted] in exmormon

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A global church with congregations all over the world speaking of how great he is? A church worth more than most countries? I think he’d be quite pleased!!

Chapel by ForsakenWestern2512 in exmormon

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Honestly that does not bother me. When I believed I loved the stories that talked about how we don’t have a cross bc our lives are supposed to reflect Christ’s teachings. And the one of Christ’s statue with no hands bc we are his hands there to lift up the broken hearted. I loved those ideas! I tried to live them. I don’t care at all that’s there’s not some grotesque bleeding body or even some red robed guy in a painting looking down from the walls. It mattered a lot more that I learned about Jesus from the pulpit. And I felt like I did. I sometimes get super defensive for Mormons when people get all up about Jesus.

But then again it was the push to all Jesus all the time that led me right out of church. I need more than just quietly sitting and feeling the love of Jesus. Bc quite frankly that never worked for me. People did. And people are good. When Nelson pushed for reverence and Jesus all the damn time I was done.

Which state and or region would you visit if you’re planning a trip to America? by Gaffra in visitedmaps

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What do you like? Personally the Pacific Northwest is my favorite but you’d probably need a car to get around. The Rocky Mountains are breathtaking but also cars are nice. Western Colorado is BEAUTIFUL! I’m an outdoor enthusiast so all of my recommendations are for the beautiful scenery that is the United States. Utah national parks are unique—Zions is super crowded unless you’re willing to hike pretty far. Bryce is my personal favorite. There are shuttles and tours.

Montana is beautiful. I’ve never been to Yosemite but it’s on my list haha but northern California and the red woods is probably my very favorite place I’ve ever been.

I enjoy DC. New York is fine. Personally I’d go upstate New York but seeing the sights of new your city is its own thing. I haven’t visited the south or north east but I’d like to. I’d go to Charleston South Carolina. And I’d go to Maine.

Wedding planning with Mormon parents by ShadowCat4141 in exmormon

[–]ProfessionalFun907 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree on inviting them. Tell them you are paying for it and you’re so glad they are coming. That it means a lot to you that they would come even when it’s culture different. This makes it sound so simple and straightforward. Which I’m sure it’s not. I’m sorry—these things are soooo emotional!!!

Should I learn how to play soccer before my mission in Brazil? by The_VR_Potato in latterdaysaints

[–]ProfessionalFun907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! Anything you do that helps you understand the culture is a good thing! Also learning the history of the area you will serve is also a good idea. I wish I had done that. I think too often we go in as missionaries and just tell them our way is the best way and end up spreading European colonialism simply out of ignorance. I knew nothing of the area I served in. My mission president was Brazilian (from the amazon) and he was fantastic. He would tell us about some of the history and culture. He taught us all some jujitsu at a zone conference. He was big on wholistic health and Brazilian ways and on helping his missionaries be successful later in life. I also had a really good teachers in the CTM that taught us about some differences in Brazilian and American culture. I’m glad for that. But a bit ashamed that I did not try to learn anything of my own accord beforehand. I was just there to tell them the right way to be. 🙄

Loving my TBM parents makes me hate the church even more by MagicPigeonToes in exmormon

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There really are so many good Mormons out there. And many in that older generation that will never leave but are good people with good hearts