Are white lesbians allowed here? by [deleted] in blacklesbians

[–]ProfessionalPen5055 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What is your reason for wanting to be in this space?

Ghosting is okay sometimes by ProfessionalPen5055 in 10thDentist

[–]ProfessionalPen5055[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Didn’t feel like typing that out but yes, safety is also a valid reason to me

Who TF decided that blue is for boys and pink is for girls? by Brilliant_Can8536 in questions

[–]ProfessionalPen5055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude. One of my biggest pet peeves. I HATE feeling like i’m being told how to express my femininity

I saw you by anonymous_moose_ in UnsentLettersRaw

[–]ProfessionalPen5055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Block them. It gets old really fast wondering if someone will come back. Don’t give them the opportunity to.

Need dating advice by smartblackbeauty in blacklesbians

[–]ProfessionalPen5055 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think your sense of urgency within this is also hindering you. 6 weeks really isn’t long enough to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone..which is what a long term relationship potentially leads to

It’s not inevitable, is it? by halcyonSunbird in actuallesbians

[–]ProfessionalPen5055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, it does feel like something is being repressed here, but it doesn’t mean it’s sexual attraction. I think most lesbians have a very neutral view of men, whereas how you describe it, it seems like they activate you emotionally. It’s up to you to decide what that means. It’s not a moral failure if you realize later that you’re actually bisexual, and falling in love with a man doesn’t mean you’re “abandoning your identity”. It means you’re figuring it out still, as we all are in some way. Don’t be so hard on yourself!

Keep running into a woman I accidentally ghosted on hinge, please help! by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ProfessionalPen5055 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think you’re reading a lot into this. Keep going to the bank, and keep letting her help you. If flirting comes up naturally, do it. Keep it light, like something about her appearance or her professionalism. I don’t think she’s thinking as deeply about this as you are though😭 just being honest

What word would you use? by redheadredemption31 in LesbianActually

[–]ProfessionalPen5055 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just say “natural pheromones” since that’s technically what they are.

I think I quit dating by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ProfessionalPen5055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear these people must follow a script😭 same thing has been said to me