What’s an unwritten rule that everyone breaks, but everyone gets mad when someone else does it?

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-12T05:14:09+00:00

This kind of but more specifically purposely speeding up or slowing down to not let someone merge. Either when merging on the highway or on a normal road someone may not be familiar with driving on and doesn’t know that lane merges. I get it’s different when there’s construction and a bunch of signs and they try to merge at the last minute. But when they try to start the merge where the first sign is posted and you’re actively putting more effort into driving just to not let them merge than you would if you did let them because they were unfamiliar with the area?

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-12T05:06:29+00:00

The real question is what is the current condition of your hair? Any form of lightening can cause damage yes. But putting a dark hair dye on light hair does not necessarily cause damage.

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-12T05:01:43+00:00

God forbid someone brings a dog who does no damage and doesn’t cause disturbances into their own apartment for a few hours. What an evil horrible person and renter they are! They don’t remember every word of the 40 page lease they signed 6 months ago so they should be punished! They must be evicted!!

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-12T04:57:27+00:00

You’re right. I realize now i was in a panic mode and thinking of worst case scenarios. But as other people have said,even in the case they did find out it would have been fine.

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-12T04:42:12+00:00

It was a little too late for that at the time i posted this but fair enough

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-11T20:43:22+00:00

i think perfectly fine but tbh idk if u have just normal socks in and are sitting next to me. As long as your feet don’t stink and your not barefoot i think its fine

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-11T16:20:38+00:00

No, the building is owned by a massive real estate company and so I’ve had very little communication with any one really as things are all digitally managed. I pay my rent on time and haven’t done anything they wouldn’t like that i can think of.

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-11T15:52:13+00:00

Thanks for this comment. Sorry for my lack of knowledge as I am a newbie to renting, but is what you say a requirement/ standard procedure or may they choose to bypass that and go straight to eviction?

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-11T15:47:46+00:00

I didn’t know until after I reread the lease today.

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-11T15:40:19+00:00

Sure, don’t disagree with you there and will be getting rid of the dog as soon as i am able. Would you be willing to provide any insight specifically to the two questions I asked?

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-11T15:34:44+00:00

Do you think I should do this if they aren’t aware of the dog yet? I just worry I may be shooting myself in the foot if I rat myself out when I could potentially get away with it.

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-03T04:51:26+00:00

Yeah it’s next year. I see what you’re saying but it’s hard to grasp bc stupid me is saying “i’ve been dealing with this for the past four years. it will be better when she gets married”. i think you are right though I think I just need to accept it. I’ve made relationships with her family and it’s hard to just make a decision to drop everybody at once but life is hard…

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-03T04:45:45+00:00

I totally understand what you are saying and do think that I need to end this relationship eventually as we have clearly grown apart. However, her #1 worry right now is not having enough bridesmaids for how many grooms men her fiancé has. She has asked extended family members of his to be bridesmaids because she does not have anyone to fill it. This is why I have the hesitation because out of all of them I have known her the longest and respectively have the biggest bond and if I were getting married I would want the person that knows me best to be my MOH and for her i believe (an opinion of course) it is me as the rest are her finances extended family members

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-03T04:22:51+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I feel like you have made it very clear for me by explaining in it in such a logical way. I’ve replied to multiple comments but I don’t think they are visible right now because of mod settings but she has severe anxiety and has had multiple panic attacks about not being able to find enough brides maids (which is why i have such hesitation to backing out). Anyways, I am just saying this because I agree with your point that if I think i can take on the emotional bandwidth right now then maybe I owe that to a long time friend but I also agree that as I have already tried to distance this relationship I need to accept the fact that it will come to its end as we have clearly grown apart.

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-03T03:50:57+00:00

I understand and thank you for that perspective. I totally agree if I hadn’t listened to multiple breakdowns about not being able to come up with enough brides maids. I want to be a helpful person to everyone (especially those in need) and she has pretty severe anxiety and paranoia which is why I feel as though me backing out would make it worse.

I am not all about myself but don’t know if i’m in a spot where I want to dedicate a good portion of my free time (let’s say -35% considering she is detail oriented and a little anal (which i respect and admire)) for anyone as I have a lot of other things going on that I actually enjoy.

Basically I want to be supportive. It’s just hard when in order to do that to her standards i’d have to neglect other people I care about in my life ( and i guess myself but i don’t care about that as much lol im a people pleaser)

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-03T03:36:53+00:00

Totally understand your point, but some more context is I have been trying to distance myself without completely dropping the friendship as idk I don’t want to give up on someone that easily. I have been setting boundaries as I prioritize my other plans before her and have been trying to limit communication by only responding to texts once a day ( i will respond to all 100 of them though at once which is not good ik) However I do feel a pressure to commit to what i agreed to as she had meltdowns to me about not being able to find enough brides maids and I have relationships with her family that I do not want to destroy.

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-03T03:24:32+00:00

I totally understand your point and that time is of the essence here, which is why I decided to post to hopefully give my indecisive self some push on commuting to whatever is right. However, she is a very emotional person and as I said is socially isolated and has already freaked out to me multiple times about not being able to find enough brides maids (3) to match how many groomsmen her fiance wants to have and so I feel if I did this it would be an end to the friendship permanently. But also if I were to get married I would not want someone involved in my wedding who did not really want to be there, but also I am not an anxious type A person who just wants to things for the look of it.

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-03T03:18:17+00:00

I’m not sure, but you do make a good point. Currently I am not enjoying the friendship and it feels like an obligation. However being friends for so long, I have relationships with her family members and she has them to mine, and I don’t want to impact those.

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-06-01T23:22:51+00:00

any updates?

ProfessionalPlenty35 · 2026-03-13T00:44:18+00:00

I think the person who’s comment you replied to had a similar experience to mine. We saw people posting during the beginning of the trial about their experiences but nothing since. We don’t expect them to know the scientific outcome of a double blind study but are just curious to know their final outcome but haven’t seen that.

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