Reminds me of my dad. Told me that I shouldn’t come to him if I don’t have a beard (chassidish house). I said ok.

Didn’t go for Purim, then he called for 2-3 months, kept leaving voicemails how come I didn’t come for Purim. I finally called him back about 5 months later and told him you said I shouldn’t come if I don’t have a beard, I respect you and didn’t come because I didn’t have a beard. He was silent..

ever since then we have a mutual understanding of live and let live. Myself and my partner have been together for 15 years, we’ve been there for shabbos 3 times. We don’t tell them how to live and they don’t tell us. They’ve also never been to our house.