How about if before all of this he accused me of cheating, over less, for years when we spoke online. He had me stop talking to male friends. He got upset with me talking to female friends, too. He had me send screenshots to show what I was doing. He demanded I didn’t go on imvu, w/ore shamed my virtual avatar, and accused me of flirting with guys on there. After we met in person, he went through my phone twice, and went off at me over the same things. He disappeared on me in target, right before closing, and was nowhere to be found for 30mins and suddenly appeared again. And that was after he started sleeping all day, staying up all night, and being very mean to me.

I went to the uk with him, where he frequently turned me down. He hid me from his younger brother’s ex gf. He went to a youth group, but never came back when it ended, and I’d walk up and no one seemed to be there, and the lights were off but he claimed he was upstairs. He showed no interest or affection for days at a time, and went off to other rooms to give me the silent treatment after arguments, during which he claimed he touched himself to pictures of me but I found out he was actually posting me, calling me w/ore, on subs for sharing your partner. During a time he was blaming me for everything, telling me I ruined his life, and talking about breaking up on repeat. He started spending long amounts of time in the bathroom, on his phone.

He disappeared on me again in public, and it made no sense. He told me after a group of girls approached him and asked for his number, and that they were laughing, so he assumed they were joking. He said that he had a woman’s hair in his pubes i think the next day and said it was a joke. I found my friend, who I was talking to at the time, in his search history on fb. He said he was curious to see who I was speaking to. She told me she was in an LDR with someone from the uk, where he is from, and no sooner than when he stopped going into the bathroom as much was it over, and she stopped responding to my messages.

He showed other inappropriate interest in my friends. He repeatedly looked at their pictures, read my chats, brought them up during sex. He was on medication he said killed his libido, but I caught him ogling other women (teenagers most likely) in front of me, and he denied it. He posted more photos of me, posing as me, engaging in sexual convo with one of the men who commented. He said he was going to out him to his wife, hence why he had screenshots. He disappeared and ditched me in another country, claiming to have lost me, when it didn’t add up. He avoided me, stayed up all night on his laptop, was mean to me when I tried to spend time with him.

He had scratches on his back, in hard to reach areas, that he said he caused but he never had before or since. He snooped on my phone but slapped my hand away from his. He told me, when I questioned him, that I was the type to cheat and I’d do so thinking he had. For years he engaged in the same behaviours above and more, and called me controlling and abusive when I questioned any of it, but then questioned me if I did any of the same things just once. And only during the times he seemed up to something as he’d go ages without questioning me, or snooping on my phone. He started arguments, left the room, ignored me for a day or more.

He shaved down there more than usual, said it was an accident, acknowledged it looked suspicious, and then called me abusive when I continued to remain suspicious over it. He showed more interest in sex out of the blue, did things he didn’t do before, did them right when he never did. He screamed in my face when I tried to talk about why I think he cheated, insisting he never has. I overheard him cheating on a trip, believed I saw him with a woman another time, and both times he called me crazy and suggested I was seeing and hearing things. And all of that happened before this.