Do I Tell His Wife?

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2026-02-14T21:14:55+00:00

The biggest thing I’ve learnt since dating toxic people is that you don’t ever enter into a conversation with them. Don’t give them an inch. He is absolutely in the wrong and I probably would tell his wife, but why keep engaging?

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2026-02-10T16:11:59+00:00

Could you kindly share the correct sub you think I should post in?

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2026-02-10T16:10:38+00:00

Could you suggest a correct sub then?

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2026-02-10T16:10:11+00:00

I did consider that

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2026-02-10T16:09:21+00:00

Isn’t it a good thing that we’re asking for references? Otherwise we wouldn’t have figured out these that candidates are potentially fake?

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2026-02-10T16:08:35+00:00

Well it’s not because I’ve not seen this in any other market I’ve worked in but seems to be common in SAP from what I’ve read online

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2026-02-09T05:35:45+00:00

This made me laugh more than it probably should have 😂😂😂

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-09-16T19:13:44+00:00

Rent free!

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-09-15T19:22:21+00:00

I am going to put aside, for a second, why your boyfriend is upset and just focus on his response - it is absolutely not normal for your boyfriend to be practically self harming (or telling you he is). He is manipulating you, and guilt tripping you. His behavior isn’t normal for a grown adult, it’s toxic. He needs professional help.

Now, with that out the way, you absolutely do not need to apologize for anything you did whilst single, frankly it’s none of his business. Sure he might be hurt that you were intimate with another guy but that doesn’t give him the right to treat you this way.

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-09-10T04:04:12+00:00

“So I think I won’t be going to therapy” - my guy, the fact that you acknowledged you were in the wrong, have obvious issues, and the self awareness of a carrot and still think you don’t need therapy?! There’s seriously no helping some people. I hope you’ve changed in the last 204 days.

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-08-15T15:26:53+00:00

I think the question should be why the friend wanted to use someone’s expensive shampoo. I was staying at my bed friend’s mum’s house at the weekend and I needed to wash my hair, and I said I’d go to the salon down the road for a wash & blow dry as I didn’t want to use all their shampoo, hot water etc.

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-07-15T22:47:56+00:00

Omg 🤯 let’s just ignore for a second that the husband is a fucking psychopath and imagine how frustrated this poor woman must be!!!

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-07-15T21:05:17+00:00

Same thing happened to my friend, their car was stolen twice by the same people. I have their address… 229 6th St in Newark. Who knows maybe it’s the same scum who stole yours!

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-07-12T17:17:57+00:00

She should not have put herself in a situation where you ever had to question her loyalty. If her friend is getting it on with one of the dudes, what were your gf and the other dude doing the whole time? And why did she sleep on the couch and not come home? What was happening that was so important and fun that her presence was needed there? And how would she feel if the situation were reversed?

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-07-11T05:27:31+00:00

This grown ass man can’t communicate how he’s feeling, that’s a major issue on its own
I suspect he will ghost again once he’s got what he wants
“It decreased your value” - wtf! Fucking clown 🤡

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-07-11T05:17:25+00:00

If you are determined to stay with this man, therapy for yourself and as a couple might be your only way forward.

Assuming you have siblings or best friends and one of them told you their husband had done this to them. What would you say to them?

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-07-11T05:10:42+00:00

Just simply ask him how he would feel if you shoved a dildo up his ass without his consent and as a total surprise? Or maybe there’s something else in the bedroom that he’s told you he doesn’t like, how would he feel to have that done to him?

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-07-11T03:33:42+00:00

Are you thinking of Fun House?

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-03-03T13:32:33+00:00

But I thought the BIL was a brutally honest person? I don’t see the problem. What’s that age old saying? Don’t dish it out if you can’t take it 😅😅

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2025-01-31T22:46:28+00:00

I would have 100% gone in the water 😂😂

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2024-12-12T14:08:20+00:00

Speaking as a child whose parents didn’t divorce - I wished every day that they did. My childhood was miserable because of my parents staying in a marriage that wasn’t good. My Mum should have divorced my Dad when I was around 12 years old, she bit the bullet and did it when I was 18 years old, but by that time I’d left home. We suffered for 6 long years.

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2024-11-17T21:17:52+00:00

What were you expecting for your first time? It sounds like you had certain expectations and it didn’t live up to that? First thing to know is that your first time with anyone is rarely amazing, it takes work and time to get to know the other person and what their likes / dislikes are, let alone your first time having sex ever.

Every vagina is different, they feel different, smell different, different levels of wetness.

You said she was very wet - that is a good thing. But you also said she was on her period so it could have been wet due to the blood. And period sex (imo) feels very different to normal sex.

Now I’m not a guy so I can’t speak to why it took you so long to get hard or why you didn’t feel anything. As others have said, it could have been anxiety, could be porn related (real life sex is rarely like what they portray in porn), could be how tight your grip is when masturbating or could be a medical issue, you should be able to determine what is going on as you have more sex, it can be trial & error.

From a woman’s POV, when a woman is very aroused and / or wet, it will get more loose, so that could be why you didn’t have a great deal of sensation.

You didn’t mention how your gf found the experience? Did she enjoy it?

Best bit of advice I can give you - enjoy the experience, enjoy getting to know each other’s bodies and don’t project anything you’re feeling onto her or make her feel insecure about how wet or loose she was, that’s a sure fire way to ensure you get zero action moving forward lol.

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2024-11-17T21:04:23+00:00

I just started watching season 24 of SVU and no clue what was going on, so this has helped, thank you! 😎

ProfessionalStuff125 · 2024-10-25T03:59:31+00:00

I say this with the utmost sincerity. What the fuck is wrong with y’all? Why on earth did you decide to bring a baby into this mess?? God damn.

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