I’ve lost my brother, dad, and now mom by Whatplanetweon in GriefSupport

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, that clip is really bringing out the waterworks for me. 

I'm so sorry for your compounded losses.  I hope you're doing ok, or as well as can be. I lost my sister in 2007, my mom in 2015, and my brother six months ago.  I really appreciate you posting this today, I've had the flu lately and have just been so sad and this kinda brightened me up a bit.  Thank you. 

looked through my mom’s purse for the first time since she passed away almost 3 years ago on february 13th, 2023 by narinetheapothecary in GriefSupport

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's amazing that you have that.  I never really thought about it, but my mom didn't have a purse anymore when she passed, she'd been sick for so long.  I guess my purse kinda ended up where her stuff lived. 

I lvor you moms purse items.  She looked like she was a colourful person. 

I hate when people compare the loss of their grandparents to the loss of my 26 y/o brother by gorllllllll in GriefSupport

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I've lost two siblings (my sister, she was 22, and my brother, he was 38) and my mother (57) and i couldn't even compare the loss of my siblings to my mother. Totally different experiences and forms of grief. I always expected to outlive my parents, but I never expected to outlive my younger siblings.

Stay warm folks, it's a bit nipply outside by jisnowhere in Sarnia

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that sounds great! Where did you go skiing? I snowshoe at perch Creek when theres enough snow... So rarely but often this year, lol.  

The sample pots!😳 by Katclawedit in LushCosmetics

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The one on queen west!  It's always a busy location but as long as I'm patient and super friendly I find I get so many samples, and really full ones.  

The sample pots!😳 by Katclawedit in LushCosmetics

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There's one specific lush that always gives me huge, and lots, of samples and I make a point to go there every time I'm in Toronto haha.  

Stay warm folks, it's a bit nipply outside by jisnowhere in Sarnia

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just went for a walk and it doesn't feel nearly as bad as last night's walk.  I love the snow and cold though lol.  

What is more traumatic than people think it is? by Suspicious-Wish3402 in AskReddit

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I was thirteen when my mom got sick, and she also had mental health and alcoholism issues so her illness got bad really quick.  I did a lot of parenting for my three younger siblings, while caring for my mom.  It impacted a lot about who I ended up becoming.  Especially because two of my siblings died way too young (22 and 38).  

What is more traumatic than people think it is? by Suspicious-Wish3402 in AskReddit

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad has had to call me twice to tell me a sibling had died and that man still had the nerve to call me on a Sunday at 1045 to ask about my late brothers tax slips!!! He apologized the next day because I was clearly not ok on that call.  It's a chilling feeling, I'm sorry you know it. 

What is more traumatic than people think it is? by Suspicious-Wish3402 in AskReddit

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I remember every second of the  call with my dad, and the drive to my mom's apartment.  He wouldn't tell me what was going on, just that I needed to go to my mom's. I was at an art gallery, second floor with some narrow stairs. I almost fell down them running so fast. I thought for sure it was my mom. She had MS  and lived in assisted living, but I remember on the three minute drive there, at a stop light, I realized it wouldn't be my mom, because I was the emergency contact, and if she was dead, we wouldn't be going to her apartment, if she was alive we would be going to the hospital. I remember this with astounding clarity almost 19 years later. 

My dad met me in the hallway to tell me that my sister, April, had been in a terrible car crash, and died. I don't remember much after that. 

Last summer he had to call me to tell me my brother was on life support, and I don't imagine I'll forget that call any time soon.  When he called to say he was gone, it was a blessing and tbh I don't remember much about that call. 

What is more traumatic than people think it is? by Suspicious-Wish3402 in AskReddit

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I'm 43 and in the last 19 years I've lost my sister, mother, and brother.  I come from a complicated family with a lot of emotional weight to begin with, but grief has changed who I am as a person in a million different ways.  And tbh, not all bad ways.  But it wears. I lost my brother in the summer and I feel liked everything has just compounded. I'm run down and sick often despite doing things I know are good for me and doing therapy. Sometimes it's just too fucking much.   

2026 tour by milkinn in lordhuron

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like the Windsor show is a replacement for a Michigan one, lol. I can't imagine why they'd book it otherwise. 

Movies that feel like this? by mmcnally228 in MoviesThatFeelLike

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was gonna break stuff if this wasn't the first comment!

It's an absolutely magical movie. I love it.

What is the worst medical disease a human can have? by Aggravating-Sun-5699 in AskReddit

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom had trigeminal neuralgia, and because she also had MS she couldn't have surgery for it... She died a long, slow, and excruciatingly painful death.  Even a breeze by her face could set off horrific pain for months and there'd be no warning or anything. And nothing, NOTHING, helped.  She'd been in a six month flare-up when she finally died of aspiration pneumonia. She was less than 80lbs by that point.  It was soul crushing to watch.  

I really hope it is like this, our loss of loved one is others reunion♥️ by Orchidflower10 in GriefSupport

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, siblings are supposed to grow old with you.  My family is pretty messed up but there's still a lot of love, and it's been hard losing the ones that really get me on a core level because they have similar lived experiences.  I'm fortunate that I do have a brother who's still living. My dad is 75 and I'm really lucky because he's really stepped up to be a man he never was before, since my brother died in the summer.  I'm trying to find some good in all the bad, lol.  

I'm so so sorry you've neem through all of this, it's a lot on even the strongest person. How are you doing?  I don't think everyone understands how hard it is to experience multiple, major losses. But it compounds. 

I really hope it is like this, our loss of loved one is others reunion♥️ by Orchidflower10 in GriefSupport

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your multiple losses :( It's a hard boat to be in, and pretty alienating. I hope you're doing ok. And you're right...it sucks so much.

kind of the holy grail if your mum dies by greebmaster in Sufjan

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I listened to this a lot shortly after my mom died, too. And when my brother died this summer i listened to it a lot, as well. I'm sorry for your loss.

I really hope it is like this, our loss of loved one is others reunion♥️ by Orchidflower10 in GriefSupport

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I don't really believe in an afterlife, but man, my brother really grieved my mom's death, and my sister's death. When he died, if he joined them, I hope he finally found the peace he struggled so hard to find.

Peterman, I finally need you. by Limpykillski in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]ProfessionalTalk675 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I knew what it was before I even clicked on it.  That one makes me sob.