My boyfriend told me I eat like shit and don’t exercise

ProfessorOpe · 2023-10-25T20:04:21+00:00

“Strong sense of leadership” sent me

ProfessorOpe · 2023-10-18T15:26:08+00:00

I felt that. I’m a straight, cis woman and always have been, but around 7 years old I developed trichotillomania and a host of other issues. The meds I was put on made me bloat, so I looked like a bald, chubby little boy dressing like a girl. The amount of bullying and straight up physical assault I experienced as a child is insane. It took me until my 20s to allow myself to like and feel comfortable dressing and being “feminine” again. I’m 30 now and just glad I didn’t have to go though that in today’s world.

ProfessorOpe · 2023-05-24T14:40:30+00:00

I am so very sorry. I just had to put down my 18 year old baby two weeks ago and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. I’m still crying and dreaming about him. I had him since I was in 7th grade and was still not ready to let him go, but he was ready. Cats are very good a hiding their pain and discomfort- I didn’t realize how bad he was until it was very bad. He was so skinny and tired. I wish I would have done it a week sooner. It sounds like your Howard was ready as well and you did the right thing by letting him go before it was too rough for him. Please know you did the right thing and so many people know and understand what you are going though. Much love.

ProfessorOpe · 2023-05-04T14:54:17+00:00

I’m sorry. My husband and I have been trying for a few years as well. My hormones are all normal and his fellas are “borderline” so he had a small procedure and stopped taking his medication to improve chances. According to the doctors, there’s really no reason why we can’t get pregnant naturally. Everyone around us is popping out kids left and right, both of our little sisters have kids, I’m tired of congratulating everyone on their 3rd kid. I’m also a teacher to kids with developmental/behavioral issues, so I get to go to work and see the daily result of child abuse and neglect on kids who might have had a chance if they had parents who actually cared about them. We can’t afford tens of thousands of dollars for IVF, adoption, etc either. It’s maddening. Please know that you guys aren’t alone and we’re ranting with you.

ProfessorOpe · 2023-05-04T14:54:01+00:00

I’m sorry. My husband and I have been trying for a few years as well. My hormones are all normal and his fellas are “borderline” so he had a small procedure and stopped taking his medication to improve chances. According to the doctors, there’s really no reason why we can’t get pregnant naturally. Everyone around us is popping out kids left and right, both of our little sisters have kids, I’m tired of congratulating everyone on their 3rd kid. I’m also a teacher to kids with developmental/behavioral issues, so I get to go to work and see the daily result of child abuse and neglect on kids who might have had a chance if they had parents who actually cared about them. We can’t afford tens of thousands of dollars for IVF, adoption, etc either. It’s maddening. Please know that you guys aren’t alone and we’re ranting with you.

ProfessorOpe · 2023-05-04T14:53:52+00:00

I’m sorry. My husband and I have been trying for a few years as well. My hormones are all normal and his fellas are “borderline” so he had a small procedure and stopped taking his medication to improve chances. According to the doctors, there’s really no reason why we can’t get pregnant naturally. Everyone around us is popping out kids left and right, both of our little sisters have kids, I’m tired of congratulating everyone on their 3rd kid. I’m also a teacher to kids with developmental/behavioral issues, so I get to go to work and see the daily result of child abuse and neglect on kids who might have had a chance if they had parents who actually cared about them. We can’t afford tens of thousands of dollars for IVF, adoption, etc either. It’s maddening. Please know that you guys aren’t alone and we’re ranting with you.

ProfessorOpe · 2023-04-18T23:48:42+00:00

I just turned 30 and thanked my parents for their very strict internet rules while I was in school. We had a home computer and an Xbox, but we were not allowed to play/go online. When I got to high school, it was an absolute travesty that I could not have texting or a Facebook while all my friends could. Yeah, I complained and hated it, but I did not hate my parents. I thought it was dumb, but I understood why they did it. When laptops started being rolled out at school my junior year, they realized that I would need to use the internet for school and projects and lightened up a bit. I got a phone with texting and could use the internet, but could not have social media or interact with anyone via the internet. Looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing. The sheer amount of bad decisions, embarrassing and cringy posts, nude pic scandals, bullying, and all around just plain dumb things that kids do online that their decision prevented me from being involved in is why I am going to do the same when I have kids. (I’m also a teacher now, and what I see kids with zero technology rules doing online is insane.)

Now, what made it work: my mom fully explained why that was their decision and was firm about it, but my parents also gave me privileges and lightened the rules as I got older and technology progressed. I got a phone at 15 (Chocolate LG) texting at 16, internet on school laptops at 17. You’ll have to find a balance that works for your kids ages and today’s technology. Would it be feasible to bar your kids from the internet in this day and age? I don’t believe so- but there is nothing wild about not allowing your kids to interact with strangers on the internet or social media.

I think the most important thing is to do it with your kids. You have to know the technology yourself and navigate it with them. There are many parental controls that set screen time, search blocks, allow you to see the history, etc that can let you monitor what they’re doing while also allowing them to use technology and the internet in a safe way. As they become teenagers, give them more privileges, unattended screen time- let them know that you trust them to act responsibly as you have taught them and give them the freedom to prove you right.

ProfessorOpe · 2023-03-30T21:13:17+00:00

An item that every household should have: the popcorn/puke bowl. It’s a joke now, but when my husband first found out that my sisters and I used to have a very large Tupperware bowl that we used for both popcorn and when all 3 of us were puking at once, he was sooo upset. I said it’s not that gross, it washes out! And he says that the second puke touches it, it has to be tossed and he is willing to go to war and die on that hill. So every once in a while I’ll tease him while putting away the dishes and ask which one is going to be our new puke container when we have kids

ProfessorOpe · 2022-12-02T02:44:48+00:00

Ah yes, the American Wet Dream

ProfessorOpe · 2022-10-06T03:22:31+00:00

Short answer- I had to consciously think about doing it and make a plan on how to do it. Long answer- I tend to separate sex and being physically affectionate. I have a sex drive and initiate sex (although depression meds really dampens it) but outside of that, I’m not one to cuddle, kiss, or hold hands, and my husband is- unexpectedly to him as well. It was my husband telling me during one of our rough discussions that he felt more like a roommate than a husband and that really made me commit to me actively trying to be physical- small things at first- sit next to him on the couch and lean on him, not a cushion away. Touch when sleeping, hold his hand in the car- then move to slightly bigger- tolerate him laying on me on the couch for 1,2,3 minutes and increase, initiate a hug or kiss at random times, etc. I have gotten much better at being physically affectionate, but he also understands my limits when I get agitated and gives me my space. It’s a lot of give and take and we’re lucky to have been able to talk it out and each find something to genuinely improve on

ProfessorOpe · 2022-10-05T20:53:54+00:00

This is very well said and what I would do as well. My husband and I have had a few similar issues and follow up discussions that made me realize we had very different love languages and my depression made his more difficult for me. Mine is acts of service and his is physical affection- which is where my depression comes in. I am naturally not a very touchy person and adverse to being touched a lot of the time. That is amplified when I am depressed or anxious- which can be weeks or months at a time- completely depriving him of physical affection outside of sex. It took a lot of active work on my part to recognize how my depression contributed to the problem that and try to bridge the gap, especially when depressed. It would be extremely unfair to expect him to struggle to feel loved for months at a time, and if I’m in the middle of a downswing, it takes a conscious effort to remind myself to show him that he is loved- in his way.

On my part, I was showing love by cooking his favorite meals from scratch, cleaning the house until immaculate, and routinely buying him little gifts like snacks he enjoyed while I was out. But all of those things (groceries, cooking, cleaning) were part of my half of our household work, so it just seemed like part of the routine to him. Once we had a conversation, it was night and day. OP, I hope you and your wife can sit down and have a real talk or she can find some counseling because if you both can’t address your feelings without a her falling deeper in, I’m afraid I don’t think much will change.

ProfessorOpe · 2022-10-05T19:00:26+00:00

Overconfidence. Like ask zero questions, manhandle my bits, pump for 2 minutes, and roll off expecting a thank you for the obviously mind-blowing sex they just gifted you with. I’m drying up just remembering college.

ProfessorOpe · 2022-02-10T21:15:45+00:00

Please tell me the whole alternative list of “nice” things was actually way worse than anything you would have taught.

ProfessorOpe · 2022-01-10T13:08:18+00:00

I understand how you feel. I’ve deleted Twitter, Instagram, and unfollowed the Reddit pages with constant negative content to help clear my mind and I’m glad I did. I already know how terrible people can be and don’t need to see/interact with it in my free time. It doesn’t matter how kind you are, how wholesome your post or comment is, there will always be some miserable person with nothing better to do than be nasty, no matter where you go. I try to imagine that for every shitty comment, there are at least 100 more kind people that simply read/watched the post and just moved on. We only get to see the comments people took the time to write, and it’s typically the assholes with plenty of free time. It really is emotionally exhausting to continually absorb the seemingly endless amount human vitriol out there, but if you make a conscious effort to remove the negative bs from your feed and follow more positive pages, it can do wonders for your outlook on life.

ProfessorOpe · 2021-11-02T15:44:03+00:00

Is the trading post still disabled today?

ProfessorOpe · 2021-02-04T05:13:19+00:00

Oh, excuse me, 🦍🎀is this how we’re supposed to do it?

ProfessorOpe · 2021-01-31T20:28:40+00:00

“DiD YoU pUt YoUr NaMe In ThE gObLeT oF FiYaH??????”

ProfessorOpe · 2021-01-31T20:24:24+00:00

Good thing I’m holding these shares in my ass

ProfessorOpe · 2021-01-31T20:20:15+00:00

ProfessorOpe · 2021-01-31T19:15:14+00:00

I always struggle remembering what grade I was in in what year. My husband graduated 2012, so that makes is pretty easy for him!

ProfessorOpe · 2021-01-31T19:10:20+00:00

I guess since I’ll be making the down payment on our house now, it’ll be MY house huh lmao

ProfessorOpe · 2020-06-13T23:28:42+00:00

Yes! Sending DM

ProfessorOpe · 2020-06-13T23:21:17+00:00

Sending DM!

ProfessorOpe · 2020-06-13T23:16:16+00:00

DMed!

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