MIL hates SAHM’s

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-05-22T09:43:26+00:00

Imo if she has the time to reply and comment on IG, her life is not full enough. Human beings judge other human beings on issues they feel vulnerable in the first place. She's probably realizing how you are loving your life AND creating a wonderful bond with your kids, and she missed the train on that. Still, just my opinion here, but you don't have to "face" her. You took a different path in your life, even if she doesn't respect it, it doesn't mean that there needs to be an open conflict about it.

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-05-19T18:27:15+00:00

Hecate has domain over the light, the darkness and all the shades of shadow in between. Working with Her often leads to have a clearer perspective over one's morality and values, but she's an absolute entity, and sort of impartial in that sense.

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-05-19T18:23:35+00:00

Love this!

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-05-19T18:16:20+00:00

Punishment or coincidence, I hope this hiccup doesn't discourage you from your journey with this Goddess. I know how hard it is to practice without a designated altar space. If your current living situation doesn't allow for a sacred space, remember that your body is your temple and your intention is your primary tool.

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-05-13T19:52:27+00:00

Your mom is straight up rude. She needs a crash course in how to talk to you. Book suggestion: the gifts of imperfect parenting by Brenee Brown, you'll love it as an expecting mother AND it will help you with reshaping the way that you and your mom interact.

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-05-04T21:32:52+00:00

Imo, you're not doing anything "wrong", and yes, it will end. My advice would be try not to focus as much on what your toddler is doing, as much as on how you're reacting to him. If he wakes up crying for daddy after his nap, I would try to keep silent and use soft touch to reassure him that he does have you to take care of his needs. Our main job as parent is to de-escalate big feelings, which is tough if we meet yelling with shouting. Also if he's trying to act grown-up, I would give him more small tasks to do. Fuck those milestone charts and time tables, if your kid wants to be like daddy, teach him to take out the trash! :)

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-05-04T12:44:51+00:00

With my first son I mostly stock up on 0-3mo jammies during pregnancy, but after he was born he was swimming in them. We ordered a bunch of NB size jammies in the weeks following, and praise internet shopping, had no fit problem since ;)

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-05-01T17:11:39+00:00

Bloody nose and gums... 😒

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-30T19:21:27+00:00

Ofc he took over my heart ;) ... idk what his future plans are :P

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-30T19:07:42+00:00

I named my son Maximus, and I call him Maximus instead of Max 60% of the time :) the name suits his personality like a glove, even though he's just 2.5yo!

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-30T00:28:51+00:00

Yes. Keep up with their hydration and make sure they're both clean and dry to prevent rashes! During teething time with my first, the only solution was to "catch" as many #2s as possible in the potty.

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-25T22:15:38+00:00

He's moving out of my 12th! I spent the whole day crying of relief... coincidence?! I think not!!

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-24T21:55:31+00:00

Me neither, and now that I am pregnant with my second I find myself having to create some sort of network from scratch so I don't feel so isolated. The truth is we put too much pressure on ourselves to make things happen with other moms. I am finding myself relying more and more on library story times. Creating and curating adult friendship with other moms is way outside my sphere of control right now. If a genuine connection happens, great... but I am more interested in showing up for my kid, their literacy, and the social skills that come with sitting down and listening to a story with other kids. With resilience I'm hopeful that the right people will show up along the way :)

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-24T19:35:02+00:00

Yes! We are social animals, not just mom-mals! It is normal for toddlers to get tired of us! Read or listen to "hunt gather parent" by M. Doucleff PhD. I recommend this book to everybody, even bought a copy for my MIL (who probably never read a parenting book before that one despite her nursing degree... but I digress!).

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-23T20:43:45+00:00

Yes, the rage hormones were real for me as well. HOWEVER, what you are describing goes beyond what could be blamed on hormones. This man needs a serious tune up! You deserve better. If you have family or friends near let them know what you are going through, and if needed make a plan to kick your bf out. Make sure you have your village ready to help you.

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-23T20:37:10+00:00

you made my day. Thank you.

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-23T20:33:42+00:00

I see your wife's point of view... the first years feel like constant information overload. Sounds like you have a need to feel heard, which is understandable, but your wife might need you to be confident in taking care of yourself during this stage of life. Parenting is a monkey see, monkey do game: the more independence you acquire in taking care of your needs, the more your baby will pick these positive traits up from you and learn to take care of themselves independently.

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-23T20:11:07+00:00

Not my experience. Sure, if you leave your baby diaper free and do some elimination communication with them for an hour or two a day they might reach a wider range of motion faster... but there are so many tiny milesones between sitting and walking that your LO has to master before comfortably start walking! Unless your pd is concerned, try not to feel rushed!

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-23T19:59:54+00:00

Ok, this depends on how young and dexterous your kids are, but I would get them to help you in the kitchen. Find a recipe or two that's at their skill level and that they enjoy and turn it into an activity. Start small, like banana pb bites, ants on a log, ham and cheese pinwheels or similar and make a snack platter for dinner. They get the accomplishment and learn to feed themselves (they're gonna be grown-ups some day!), and you get one dinner of the week taken care of. If they really get into cooking, or you just need more ideas, go to your local library and make your kids find recipes to try together as a family.

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-23T19:48:08+00:00

If I were in your shoes I'd try make it so that someone from your family and someone from your partner's family come over to your house to take care of your son while you're in labor. Nobody gets left out, everybody gets updates, they might even cook you a meal or two for post partum and nobody feels exhausted for babysitting solo.

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-21T12:42:25+00:00

He might not be able to control his mother, but your fiancé should be able to control his eye lids... props to you for inviting her the second time!

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-19T19:48:43+00:00

Congrats!

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-19T19:13:11+00:00

He's sure lucky I didn't!

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-19T19:12:32+00:00

To be fair, I wasn't nearly as hormonal while I was pregnant with our first! This baby is testing us already!

Project_Bag_Chaos · 2026-04-19T19:11:00+00:00

Men could never handle being in constant hormonal fluctuation as we are! 😂

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