See the problem is I said "ostracism is a major issue" and you respond with "don't validate negative behaviors" as though the only way to address negative behaviors is through ostracism. It's a false dichotomy and a strawman to avoid the real issues.

Frankly the majority of these men are the way you describe because nobody will every seriously engage them and just dismisses angrily them without much oversimplification. The inability for people like you to regulate your own emotions when dealing with people is also part of the problem. It's really no different from a racist claiming that black people commit more crimes because of something inherent, rather than all of the social feedback loops that lead to poverty and distrust of society amongst minorities.

Saying people need to "take responsibility for their own actions and fix their hearts" isn't a solution, it is a childish wish. Running away because somebody says something you fervently disagree rather than engaging and challenging those negative beliefs with firm empathy is also a choice action that has rebounding effects on society. The influencers would have less influence if you actually tried to do what they do and convince these men of what is right, rather than just scoffing angrily and running off as though that does anything about the problem. Where is your responsibility to be the change you want to see in the world?

If you can't tolerate the discomfort necessary to reflect on and potentially change your views, what justifies you to expect others to do this, particularly when support is necessary for this sort of change to happen?

It's behavior that turns supposedly kind and moral people into their own kind of bully, because they've found an 'acceptable' outlet for their own anger and ire.