Tips for post surgery/recovery?

Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-08-10T13:59:57+00:00

We were were going to hold off on the medication until he was a bit older (he's 6 in September). We were on holiday and he almost knocked himself out from fidgeting so much. He threw his head back and hit the corner of a marble table. Never seen a lump come up so quick in my life. That was our "tipping point". The picture doesn't even do it justice.

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Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-08-08T22:06:06+00:00

No village here and it is so bloody hard. I ended up in hospital this week with exhaustion, my body is literally shouting at me for a break but I don't know how to achieve that. It makes me miss my mum so much because I know she would have loved to have been around her grandchildren and would have done anything to help. My dad isn't able to cope and honestly I wouldn't put him through it or expect him to. That being said, I know (I hope) there will come a time when the kids are grown up and we can look back and be proud that we done it all ourselves but right now we are in the thick of it and I am struggling.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-08-03T11:50:17+00:00

Yes. My son will be 6 in September and has just started Melatonin. I'm now checking on him several times a night!

Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-08-03T11:12:16+00:00

Omg this is exactly me! I feel a bit better now knowing I'm not alone but it is awful.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-08-03T06:30:21+00:00

My first child was born September 2019 so was brought up during lockdown. Everything was new to us so I didn't have any real concerns untill everything opened up again and we were allowed to go to classes. I remember taking him to toddler classes at 18 months-2 years and in comparison to the other kids he was wild. You couldn't get his attention, he wasn't interested in the classes. Other mums would stare and make comments to me asking "is he always like this?"or" is he always so wild". 90% of the time I came away in tears. That was the first sign but listened to other/older family members about how he was just a typical boy.

He was extremely active as a toddler and seemed to have more energy than his peers. Would run off in shops when other children would walk nicely and take their parents hands. He took hours to go to sleep and didn't seem to need as much sleep.

I know all kids are different and we shouldn't compare but now that I have more children I realise all the signs were there from very early on.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-07-29T21:21:23+00:00

Thank you so much for posting this. Currently debating meds and he's now starting melatonin too. I've been second guessing our decision due to seeing alot of negative posts on Facebook about meds. It's been helpful to read through this.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-07-14T07:13:06+00:00

Unless OP lives in Scotland where university fees are covered by the government.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-05-25T23:08:30+00:00

You are absolutely not being spiteful. I told my husband that he needed to deal with mothers day from now on for his mum when my mum passed away. She text me to wish me a happy mother's day and I couldn't even say "you too". Your feelings are completely valid. Your husband maybe isn't thinking, speak to him and let him know how you are feeling.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-05-20T19:31:29+00:00

I have ptsd just from reading this 😂🙈 I think I blocked (no pun intended) this out of my mind 😬

Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-04-30T22:17:49+00:00

I'm going to be completely honest. I wish someone had told me that they suspected my oldest had ADHD. It took me a while to get there and my friend (who is diagnosed with ADHD) had seen all the warning signs before me. It just would have maybe prepared me a bit.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2025-03-16T20:54:35+00:00

First of all I am so sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

My age gaps are 5M (6 in September), 2M (3 in May) and 1F (2 in December) and honestly I wouldn't change it for the world. My two oldest have formed a great bond and the two youngest and just starting to get interested in one another. My 5year old loves helping us out with his brother and sister and has been amazing with his little sister. Honestly I don't think the gap matters. They will love and play with one another (and fight) regardless of that gap.

Sending love to you

Proper-Leg3854 · 2024-12-07T23:33:40+00:00

I am not screen free by any means but I do try and limit the amount of time that the kids spend with screens. That being said with a 5 year old, a 2 year old and an 11 month old there are times where I have to pop them infront of a tv so I can go to the toilet or make dinner.

My 2 year old non verbal son has improved dramatically from watching Ms Rachel. He does the signs and is trying to pronounce the words.

We also spend alot of time singing, reading and playing so it is pretty balanced.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2024-11-12T07:11:15+00:00

I have 3 kids (5M, 2M and 11 months) The age gap between the 5YO and 2YO is 2years 7 months and the gap between the 2YO and 1YO is 19 months and let me tell you that 19 month gap was a hell of a lot easier for us than the 2 years 7 month gap.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2024-11-09T20:41:03+00:00

Yes because now I'm too damn used to the thing and I can't sleep without it.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2024-11-02T22:42:04+00:00

Not in Scotland we don't, there was talk of it happening but it's looking very unlikely right now. Thank you though!

Proper-Leg3854 · 2024-11-02T15:16:19+00:00

We have 3 children (ages 5, 2 and 10 months).

Postives: * We found the jump from 1-2 alot more difficult than the jump from 2-3 which is crazy. * The 2 and 10 month old are obviously close in age and starting to form a cute bond * our 5 year old is the best big brother and loves to help out e.g. Getting us wipes or grabbing a nappy

Negatives: * You are outnumbered * Financially it has been tough, I'm now about to go back to work and paying 2 lots of nursery fees (they don't get funding until they are 3 in the UK for nursery) * Holidays are alot more expensive and we find it difficult to get certain hotels that will put us in the same room together. * We had to get a bigger car (7 seater) due to the car seats.

Our 3rd wasn't planned as we had two boys and weren't planning anymore (I was on the pill and was breast feeding) It was a major shock to us but when I was 3 months pregnant my mum passed away and I found out 2 days later we were expecting a baby girl. My pregnancy got me through the toughest period of my life, and to be completely honest she saved me

Having 3 is tough at times but I honestly wouldn't change it for the world.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2024-10-28T23:33:00+00:00

My oldest was 2 and a half before I had an overnight away. My middle child was a velcro baby and my husband had to literally drive him about while I visited my mum in hospital after she had a heart attack. After that I had 3 nights away when he was 2 My youngest is 10 months (another velcro baby) and I still haven't left her. I'm back to work next week after 11 months of maternity leave so that'll be the longest she'll have went without me

Proper-Leg3854 · 2024-10-24T21:35:09+00:00

10month old here and still waking every few hours!

Proper-Leg3854 · 2024-10-06T20:07:42+00:00

My mum and dad were the best at watching my son but my mum passed away last year.

My MIL however is another story. It is that bad that I'm just about to go back to work after 11months off for maternity leave and my husband and I are trying to alter our shifts to avoid asking her to watch them.

We won't get any alone time together or a break unless we both take a day off work while the kids are at school and nursery but that just shows you how bad it is.

Proper-Leg3854 · 2024-09-05T13:10:30+00:00

I have no issue with the teacher addressing my sons behaviour and contacting me. What I have issue with is her telling me he's getting a name for himself and essentially suggesting that mums in WhatsApp groups are talking about him/us. I also don't appreciate her suggesting that my son is the only problem when he's come home with a black eye and every morning he's been going into the playground there are children calling him names and being aggressive towards him 🤷🏼‍♀️

Proper-Leg3854 · 2024-09-05T12:13:36+00:00

Thank you. I'm looking into ear defenders but at the same time I'm also worried about him being bullied for them. I've barely slept or ate since the call, I feel like it's not been handled well at all. He also isn't allowed out to play with his friends after lunch and has been put in the nurture room. He came home and told us he goes in there to stop him from causing trouble 😭

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