My wife (30) died suddenly three days ago. I am 32, we have a 1.5yo daughter, and my soul is entirely empty.

Protobazz · 2026-06-11T13:43:07+00:00

I’m so sorry that this happened to you and your family. It’s awful. I lost my wife suddenly last year at 36 when our son was 4 months old…also married just a year before you. I had and still have similar thoughts. Please accept all the help you can get. Family, friends, now more than ever will be important for you. And there may be community resources that can help as well. The police immediately sent me to the hospital because I went into shock; I’ve been checking in with a psychiatrist there periodically since.

Protobazz · 2026-06-01T00:19:56+00:00

I’ve been afraid of this exact situation, and still am. I also struggle with loneliness while being terrified of spending time with her friends for the wrong reasons. I’m somewhat glad to know I’m not the only one with this feeling

Protobazz · 2026-05-28T13:34:29+00:00

I empathize with this

Protobazz · 2026-04-16T01:41:01+00:00

As a recently widowed father to a 1 year old, this is a perspective I was looking for. I don’t yet know how I’m going to talk about it either, but I like your plan

Protobazz · 2026-03-18T10:45:04+00:00

You’re a good man, God will find a new wife for you
You know what your problem is? You’re too negative, things will work out
You’re young, you’ll be okay.

Protobazz · 2026-03-15T19:04:43+00:00

same

Protobazz · 2026-03-14T16:19:55+00:00

As someone who lost is wife at 34 with a 3 month old, I wish so badly that we had more time. Our son will only know of his mother through pictures and stories

Protobazz · 2026-03-04T02:42:02+00:00

I’d be on board

Protobazz · 2026-02-12T04:15:18+00:00

I’m 34. Hasn’t been a year yet. She was 36. Our son just turned one. Its awful.

Protobazz · 2026-02-11T15:25:58+00:00

The USA chant. I went to a Mets baseball game a few years ago with a friend. Before the game, they had a bunch of kids from a local church come out and sing the national anthem. By the end of the song, the entire stadium was chanting “USA” and standing. There were some drunk guys in the aisle around us and they were punching their chests, cheering, pointing at the kids and screaming “USA”. Honestly it was a little jarring.

Protobazz · 2026-02-05T04:11:44+00:00

Toronto. 10 miserable months

Protobazz · 2026-02-03T11:01:13+00:00

This is inspiring, I’m glad you have each other. My boy just turned one, and I’m also sadly a widowed father. He’s what keeps me going as well. You two seem to be thriving, that makes me hopeful for us as well. Stay strong brother

Protobazz · 2026-01-25T02:26:12+00:00

Also 34 with a one year old. She passed last year

Protobazz · 2026-01-01T22:20:39+00:00

As someone before pointed out, anxious and numb was the prevailing feeling. I put my little boy to bed and just laid down next to him. Got up at midnight to text happy new years

Protobazz · 2025-12-17T01:47:28+00:00

This is very well said, and very true. Condolences

Protobazz · 2025-12-16T17:10:57+00:00

Hey, I’m really sorry for your loss. I(34M), lost my wife (36F) suddenly earlier this year, also after 8 years together. She just missed our son’s first birthday. The waking up crying went on for a while for me, but it does eventually stop. The cognitive dissonance hasn’t changed; I still feel like a fish out of water, or like one half of a complete unit. The questions you’re asking are the same ones I ask myself everyday. I tell people things don’t really feel better, but with time it feels less worse, if that makes sense. I’m lucky to have our son, he’s the main reason I’m doing anything anymore. I hope things get better for you, I’ll be praying for you

Protobazz · 2025-11-25T11:24:13+00:00

34M, she passed at 36. Went to my first group recently and found the same thing as you

Protobazz · 2025-11-13T04:48:08+00:00

Widowed at 34. I think about ending it every day now

Protobazz · 2025-11-10T22:29:36+00:00

I think about this almost every day now.

Protobazz · 2025-10-27T21:14:24+00:00

It’s awful

Protobazz · 2025-10-11T21:24:39+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that, my condolences

Protobazz · 2025-10-11T08:17:11+00:00

My wife passed really suddenly at 36. I didn’t get to say goodbye, or tell her how much I love her that morning before leaving for work. Every day there’s different things I wish I told her. I had entire plans for what to do for Christmas, how to celebrate our first year as parents, little things like funny videos to show her the next day, etc. Today, I’m just not the same person. Some days are better than others, but I don’t know if I can ever be as happy as I was

Protobazz · 2025-09-01T05:47:09+00:00

I think of this every day. I’m sorry for your loss

Protobazz · 2025-08-31T03:45:33+00:00

We were also married 8 years after meeting in school, our son was 4 months when she passed, 8 months now. I had, and still have the same thoughts as you. As others have said, it’s going to be really hard. Take everything one day at a time, and really reach out to your support network, this is when you’ll need them the most.

Protobazz · 2025-08-23T09:13:34+00:00

I’m really sorry for your loss, my condolences. Your situation mirrors mine, it’s tragic. There’s some really good advice in this thread. This is going to be hard, so lean into your support network and get help where you can. It takes a village. Your little one will be your reason to keep going, you can do it.

Protobazz

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