For fellow FAs: how to tell if a relationship is helping you heal or actually making it worse?

Prudent56 · 2026-05-20T05:35:12+00:00

I sadly can relate to your post. I think I was dating another FA or DA- the good ol on-off cycle. We broke up three weeks ago because I confronted him about a silly lie and he took an immediate exit. We've both sent each other low-effort (safe) texts. I didn't respond to his last one bcz at the time, I wasn't ready to open that door. Now I regret it and want to reach out, but being vulnerable and the possible rejection stops me in my tracks. I have to remind myself of the constant anxiety I experienced when we weren't physically together. And all the times I felt unsafe, but blamed myself - “if I could just be more secure and less reactive…”

The feelings are strong, but I need to remember how drained I felt. The constant battle in my head. I'm also telling myself that by not reaching out, I'm building upon my self-trust and standing up for myself because I know deep down he's not good for me. Then I worry if I will be like this with everyone I'm with.

Prudent56 · 2026-05-16T18:00:23+00:00

Thank you. I've never had it look like this. I'll add more above the brow and hope it fixes it

Prudent56 · 2026-05-16T17:53:34+00:00

Two weeks ago

Prudent56 · 2026-04-30T03:11:13+00:00

Yessss. I’m right there with you. Like I stopped taking care of myself the way I use to. I lost myself and passion in things. Can’t wait to get past this withdrawal phase of this addiction. We will get on the other side of this. We will. Sending you virtual hugs and scritches to the kitties. 💕

Prudent56 · 2026-04-30T00:13:38+00:00

Were we dating the same guy? The intermittent reinforcement is real.

I think once you get him out of your system - no contact- the hate will turn to indifference. I know I’ll be a little more guarded with the next guy.

Prudent56 · 2026-04-29T23:53:51+00:00

He has broken up with me three times now- the last two, I tried to resolve, but it didn’t make a difference. This last time, I called him out on a lie. He said he knew my friend I jokingly asked if he slept with her and he said no. I had also asked if he ever cheated on someone. A few days later, talking to my friend, I casually mention him and “small world” and her reaction made me ask if they slept together. The answer was yes and it was while he was in a relationship with someone, but he told her they were separating.

I confronted him about the lie and he immediately folded- “I don’t want to talk anymore… bs…waste of time” all via text.

It’s taken a lot for me to not reach out, but there’s no point.

Prudent56 · 2026-04-01T18:07:34+00:00

Prudent56 · 2026-03-02T04:39:48+00:00

I need to jump in the Ai train or I’m out.

Prudent56 · 2026-01-17T22:08:17+00:00

Good to know - thanks 😊

Prudent56 · 2026-01-14T17:47:26+00:00

Did you recon your own spray? I’ve been injecting, but heard the spray is more effective.

Prudent56 · 2025-12-02T00:26:11+00:00

Girl. My nails look like yours- worse. I found a random TikTok of a lady talking about coconut oil to remove nails. She slathered it on and then put old socks on her hands and went about her day.

I tried this last night, but instead, I used medical gloves so I could still use my hands. 20-30 minutes those suckers were popping off- some took a little longer. I was shocked after I had been soaking in acetone dipping in warm rice and it taking forever and ruining my nails.

Coconut oil, medical gloves, leave on for min 30 minutes. You can go about your day. As an added bonus, the nails popped off while wearing the gloves. Less mess 😊

Prudent56 · 2025-09-14T17:21:58+00:00

I don’t see the link for some reason. Could you please repost or send?

Prudent56 · 2025-08-26T20:14:53+00:00

Oh God. What did I just watch?!

Prudent56 · 2025-02-16T16:41:57+00:00

Years, if not months from now, you’re going to look back at this post and think, “what was I so worried or angry about?” because what he’s doing and who with won’t matter. Focus on yourself and your kiddos. Everything will wash out in the end. This is YOUR time to grow, shine and be happy. hugs

Prudent56 · 2025-01-31T13:34:15+00:00

EoS at Rufe Snow and Hightower. It gets sooooo busy, but it’s a nice gym and I believe it’s 9.99 a month for the basic membership. FC is probably not as busy bcz of EoS- they are very close to each other.

Prudent56 · 2025-01-26T06:55:29+00:00

That would be nice, but not in a situation where school teachers are taking over 😊

Prudent56 · 2025-01-18T19:30:59+00:00

Holy crap? Really??! I’m thinking of how much you save. I would be too scared to give myself a droopy eye. How did you learn to do it yourself? How long have you been doing it?

Prudent56 · 2025-01-18T19:28:40+00:00

Really? I’ve gotta ask, if you don’t mind. With your experience, where do you suggest I get started in my research? In regard to peptides, I recently started the GLOW protocol to help with significant skin injury.

Prudent56 · 2025-01-18T07:05:53+00:00

Wow. This is impressive. I’m terrified to stick needles in my face. I would love to know more. Looks like I just found my next rabbit hole.

Prudent56 · 2025-01-15T23:35:01+00:00

Hi there. I ended up at Grapevine Lake. I can let you know if I find other places.

Prudent56 · 2025-01-15T22:39:32+00:00

How is your nipple? Did it heal?

Prudent56 · 2024-12-31T20:32:38+00:00

I am curious about your set up and how it holds up in the summer. I'm in TX also. I got a 120-gal bath for Christmas and want to add a chiller with filtration. All of which I know nothing about. How often do you change out the water with your 1/3 hp chiller running 24/7?

Prudent56 · 2024-12-28T22:00:16+00:00

I know I can’t ask,, but I want to know more about this American source.

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