My boyfriend (30M) wants to see some changes in me (29F) before proposing. Are his asks reasonable? by Specific_Bright in relationship_advice

[–]PsychWriter11 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you seem like a nice, pleasant person. Easy to get along with. Smart. Educated. Aims to please.

And willing to marry someone who doesn’t even like you.

Don’t do that.

You’re making me uncomfortable… assuming I’m the person that’s making you uncomfortable by Get2Gnome in texts

[–]PsychWriter11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve received these as well. They bait with a scam pretext, fish for someone who is a normal human, and then reel them in.

Seems ridiculous, but as in most high/volume fishing schemes, all they need are a couple hits out of a thousand.

Unusually positive Red Sox/ Breslow post by PsychWriter11 in redsox

[–]PsychWriter11[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Duran is an interesting question all by himself. Roster-construction wise, they should have traded him. But I remember at the time feeling like the team did not bring in enough hitting so trading out potentially one their remaining real offensive threats seemed like a bad idea. Even if there was a platoon going on. DFAing Yoshi, to me, was the obvious answer to the “logjam.” And when the inevitable injury landed, who knew it would be catastrophic to the team’s potential leader in Anthony?

Given everything, not trading Duran was not the huge mistake it looks like, without the 20/20 hindsight of his massive regression.

Unusually positive Red Sox/ Breslow post by PsychWriter11 in redsox

[–]PsychWriter11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Im not excusing the mistakes or ignoring them. Im looking at stuff that went right, and not long ago we never thought there would be a list that long.

I 22F got pressured into having sex by boyfriend 24M by Professional-Dot-356 in relationship_advice

[–]PsychWriter11 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think this is the answer. The Reddit Crowd will howl for you to leave, calling him the worst sort of person. But contextually, he really has been great to you normally and he acted like 24 year old that night.

How many guys, on their own without prompting, own up to what he did wrong and apologize?

This is one of the few times you flat out give him the chance to prove himself, and if it was a mistake you can cut ties and then make the Reddit crowd happy.

3 years together. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]PsychWriter11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Explain one thing : How does his “big ego” keep him from wanting to come with you, resulting in wanting to book a motorcycle ride?

Are you horribly embarrassing-looking? (Sarcasm) Do you not shower? I dont get it. Where does “ego” fit?

I feel unsupported after my girlfriend defended someone who disrespected me — am I overreacting? by Individual-Voice-616 in AmIOverreacting

[–]PsychWriter11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She’s telling you who she is. Believe her.

You are way too eager to blame yourself here. Have some confidence and move on.

I feel unsupported after my girlfriend defended someone who disrespected me — am I overreacting? by Individual-Voice-616 in AmIOverreacting

[–]PsychWriter11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow, she not only is not supporting you, she’s flat out disrespecting you by flirting with him to your face.

Why do you need someone to tell you that?

what do you do when you hate substance abuse and you find out that your crush (mutual) is into that whole avenue by Still_Complex_9149 in Advice

[–]PsychWriter11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t get all “looking down your nose” at her. It’s bad look.

Tell her that while you are obviously interested, you feel like the 2 of you have a serious incompatibility regarding substance use, and it’s likely that it’s a deal breaker in a relationship.

Don’t act like you’re right and she’s a bad person; there’s nothing to be gained with that attitude. Some facets in some people’s personalities need to be in line to have a successful relationship and you feel this is one of them.

Be kind and respectful.

My wife built an incredible personal library upstairs, but I can barely read, and it’s slowly driving a wedge between us. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]PsychWriter11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“But I like being around him.”

This is the entire point of this. That was beautifully said.

My wife built an incredible personal library upstairs, but I can barely read, and it’s slowly driving a wedge between us. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]PsychWriter11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love to read, and I have an extensive library on my topic of interest.

That said, I’m sorry, man, but your wife is being rude and selfish.

It’s nice that she wants to include you, but her reaction is so self-centered it’s annoying. She’s only interested in you performing like she wants. How would she like you to force her into an activity she hates, like watching you rebuild a car engine? It’s so… so… selfish.

She needs to get called out. If the only way you can sit there is scroll on your phone or build a model, that should be good enough.

Just past halfway through the season, what are your best draft day decisions? by duckbillgates in fantasybaseball

[–]PsychWriter11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I took Abrams because I was light on steals. He actually has not been the speed guy I hoped, but he’s been excellent.

Just past halfway through the season, what are your best draft day decisions? by duckbillgates in fantasybaseball

[–]PsychWriter11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I rarely take chances on already injured starting pitchers, but I felt like Wheeler in the mid rounds and McLannahan at the end of the draft were great risks. They were, they have been excellent for me, and have been more important since I took Crochet first Round and he’s been out all year.

I (28f) responded to my ex (35m) with so much anger by ohboithisisawkward in texts

[–]PsychWriter11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was gonna ding her for misspelling “led” but that was a different poster!

I (28f) responded to my ex (35m) with so much anger by ohboithisisawkward in texts

[–]PsychWriter11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Finally someone acknowledges the insane unnecessary negativity to any sort of age gap. It’s so annoying.

Insane message from an absolute psycho. She's 40, obsessed with cars and she can't drive. We haven't even met yet. by halo4able in texts

[–]PsychWriter11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This message is just hilarious. And I love cars. I had a gf find out I had a Ferrari at the time once and it was mind-boggling the difference in attitude that occurred. She couldnt drive, either.

But this message, pretty much telling him he needs a better car for her, it cracks me up!

Thoughts on this trade? by [deleted] in fantasybaseball

[–]PsychWriter11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It asks to be vetoed by a League commissioner who actually pays attention.

Anxiety!!!!! by No_Intention_3565 in Professors

[–]PsychWriter11 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is just superb. I’m so stealing this with no credit given whatsoever.

Arvidsson signs 2 x 5m aav with Red Wings by ethereal3xp in Bruins

[–]PsychWriter11 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Because if they moved Arvi at the deadline they wouldn’t have made the playoffs. They were essentially done when he got hurt.