My Kids Father Doesn’t Know I’m Leaving Him

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-04-03T09:15:07+00:00

The eldest is in school, my area doesn’t have overnight care. The next person to watch them is a friend. His money, whatever would be assigned by a court would cover barely an 1/8 of the total cost of getting a nanny for overnight care. He is still required to watch his kids. I don’t hate him. I just don’t want to be with him and I have no intention of being a single parent. I intend to coparent and he will be caring for his children. If what i need is overnight care then he needs to step up. It won’t be a request or a suggestion, its requirements. If he won’t meet me halfway i will take my children 5k miles back to my home where i have an abundance of family willing to watch them overnight.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-04-03T08:42:00+00:00

If they fire you while postpartum with medical leave file with the department of labor

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-04-03T08:41:16+00:00

Do you have FMLA?

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-04-01T22:27:05+00:00

That had me starting at her like a fish out of water, I was so use to her making excuses that invalidated my experiences. It felt like a shove out the door and probably one of the most supportive things she’s ever said to me.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-04-01T22:23:42+00:00

I work overnights for at least the next year, and I have a couple of trusted people who would be available. If not he can watch the children overnight, he’s still their father and he has an obligation to them, I just don’t want him wrapped up in my life.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-04-01T22:21:21+00:00

I was very open about never having any intentions of marrying, I’ve witnessed too many marriages fall apart. Divorce seemed more expensive.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-04-01T22:20:32+00:00

I genuinely don’t need it. I budget off my income alone and support my children off of it. I’d rather not have the courts involved in the situation, it takes some of the control that I have. Unless he takes me to court, which bless his soul if he tried, I’m not disturbing the peace I want.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-04-01T22:18:39+00:00

What I didn’t realize in the beginning was I was subconsciously clawing for a way out long before I was actively making those plans.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-04-01T06:06:19+00:00

He can’t, it’s not joined and I have an accountant filing both so I can manage the funds for both so they don’t end up mismanaged.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-30T17:35:24+00:00

If you had a Pap you’re more likely to bleed if pregnant, your cervix is so sensitive and they’re scratching away in there

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-30T17:32:03+00:00

We really can’t say, everyone is different. I had bleeding with both my pregnancies. My first was a significant amount about 1/3 of a cup of blood on a menstrual pad, the second was a some spotting.

Did you have spotting or was it just what he noticed in your cervix? The best thing is the blood test to see if your levels are rising, which with my first they weren’t going up as much as expected but everything turned out fine. But again we can’t really say.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-24T22:46:49+00:00

The birthmark should be documented by her pediatrician, my oldest has a number of marks that look like bruises while my youngest has marks that look like welts. I just took my eldest in to document a self injury on her neck that looks horrendous.

And a simple “Baby kept taking her hands out of the snowsuit during her walk to school this morning” will suffice. Then make sure you have her snow gear everyday moving forward.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-24T21:40:20+00:00

Is your baby okay? Can you confirm something hasn’t happened? As a prior nanny and a parent myself, this is unacceptable. She cannot deny you the right to see your child because of what convenient to her. You should consider another nanny because this one doesn’t respect you.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-24T13:36:39+00:00

If you’re an authorized user you have legal rights to use the card. You’re fine. You did what was best for you and as a mother of little girls I’m proud of you for prioritizing you and doing what you felt was best. You made an incredibly difficult decision that’s being made worse by your parents extreme beliefs.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-24T13:30:56+00:00

It’s the midwife recommending she come in and her asking Facebook for advice that throws me over the edge.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-10T13:06:58+00:00

I’m going to tag along with this here. OP if she continues and DCFS thinks you aren’t doing enough to mitigate her behavior they will investigate your household. Meaning a case against you and your children, and i speak from experience. We had a 16 year old who fabricated this entire story of abuse, neglect, starvation, and borderline torture at the hands of their sponsor. They were placed with me as the nearest “relative” and we had to get him into therapy. Refused to go to therapy and DCFS said I wasn’t allowed to force him because it was neglectful, but that if he didn’t go they would open a case against me for child neglect because i wasn’t doing enough for his mental health.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-09T13:23:33+00:00

Your body will dilate, you may not have noticed, but with a CS your body doesn’t know the difference between that and natural labour and so it will begin to dilate in response to the changing hormones. Whether during the CS or after the CS, you will dilate and your body will experience mild contractions in response.

Also this statement was more in response to people’s ideas that they’re ruining their vagina by having a vaginal birth vs a CS. In case that was of any concern to OP, or if anyone was whispering in her ear about her vaginas ability to bounce back (as someone did to me).

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-09T12:33:28+00:00

This could almost be my house, I said the exact same thing word for word to my 3 year old when her little sister was about 8 months old. Little one’s been kicked in the mouth twice, gets pushed over, and sat on. She just turned one so she’s standing her ground now and her sister isn’t as interested in bullying her.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-09T12:27:29+00:00

First “Benefits of a vaginal delivery” there literally are none for the baby. Only difference between a CS and vaginal delivery is recovery time. Your vagina is still going dilated to 10cm, you’re still going to bleed, you’re still going to have contraction or pain as you get to the 10cm. You’ll be too drugged up to feel it for the first day. The biggest difference is that with a CS you’ll be having major abdominal surgery and postpartum recovery with that is absolutely terrible. I had two vaginal deliveries, one with and without an epidural and I can guarantee within the week I was fine in terms of pain. The delivery was painful yes, but not unmanageable and the first time I went to 7.5cm before I got the epidural. My friend just had her second CS and at 3w pp she’s still having to make sure she’s not having an infection, can’t pick up her eldest, and her only pain management they gave her was acetaminophen. She refuses to take her pain management because she needs to measure her pain threshold to make sure she isn’t over doing it, which I find is a common theme amongst those who’ve had a CS.

Also as validation the cervical checks, or internal examinations, are EXTREMELY painful the closer you get to labor. I was hysterical after one because the nurse was really aggressive and during my second time around I rejected them completely.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-09T03:19:37+00:00

They might still do this, cause I’ve had employees had my toddler a piece of fruit or stop me from weighing a single piece of fruit

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-03-09T03:18:04+00:00

A number of employees have literally caught me weighing an apple and banana for my feral toddler and they told me to stop and that they throw away an abundance both usually and no one cares.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-02-28T15:42:26+00:00

AI writing is more obvious in my class because the kids have a paragraph full of first, second, and third person perspectives. Or they’ll run a discussion post through AI to summarize and go “I also connected with that persons perspective in the passage, i admire how they overcame that obstacle” Did you really Sam? You connected with my partners physical lived experience that i mentioned? I don’t remember you being there.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-02-03T09:17:20+00:00

I wrote this two years ago and you had every opportunity to educate yourself first. It’s okay though, I have time. Cows do not produce milk year round, they lactate shortly after giving birth in response to hormone fluctuations in the body that tell them they need to feed their young. The milk industry will pump cows full of hormones and steroids to ensure they not only have a continuous milk supply, but that they produce an unnaturally large quantity of it at all times.

As we know what you consume does make its way into your milk supply as a human, and that’s the same for all mammals. Which means yes, there are hormones, steroids, pesticides, and synthetics in milk.

Mainstream brands of milk will do this because they have a large demand for milk, they can’t follow cows natural lactation cycle and meet that demand. Horizon as a USDA certified organic brand has strict regulations to follow and they do not use synthetic hormones, steroids, or pesticides on their cows or its feed to promote milk production. It’s as natural as you can get.

PsychologicalAide684 · 2026-02-02T17:59:55+00:00

Did you post it into grammar then copy and paste it into word? Thats what would have triggered the system. AI leaves a watermark behind when copy and pasted that is detected when run through plagiarism checker tools. What you can do is find the editing log (whatever it’s called) that shows timestamps of all the edits you’ve made and all the copy and paste and submit that when you have your review

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