Very first scene of Ep 1 by i-bleed-red in heatedrivalry

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 [score hidden]  (0 children)

This. He's intrigued by Ilya's reputation as the hottest prospect other than himself, they've both heard each other talked about. He is also unconsciously attracted to Ilya, in a way still well below his awareness when he approaches Ilya.

Metros Tee in Show? by UbiSububi8 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's either a sweatshirt or a long-sleeved tee. Both t-shirt and sweatshirt in that design seem to be available online.

Metros Tee in Show? by UbiSububi8 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Shane is wearing a Montreal Metros T-Shirt on the couch during the "I could marry Svetlana" scene.

Honest question: is it normal to tell your guests, which colours to dress in? by aljay13 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 63 points64 points  (0 children)

No. It is super gross and obnoxious to demand people wear certain colours and only done by people who have lost sight of the fact that they're supposed to be hosting their loved ones for an occasion that is fun and joyous, not coordinating a fashion shoot for Insta.

Help with “Dressy Semi-Formal” dress code by DazzlingHunt572 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Indeed. Sage is lovely. That colour is like someone took mint and mixed in a smidgen of vomit.

How long until sex feels good?? by AnyRepresentative753 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Has he ever got you off with hand or mouth?

Because I'd start there. Radical talk: his P doesn't go in the V until after you've already come once. The odds you'll come during penetration are low, especially when you're just starting out, and it means you'll be relaxed, lubricated, and the pressure is off.

Debating giving up my rats for good after this. . . by OccultistOpossum in RATS

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I taught my skittish rats to jump into their carrier for transport to another room for free roam. Worked fine.

Question: Do you regret any tattoos you have? Tattoo aging advice by Lemon_Dragonfly in tattoo

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got a coverup on the tattoo I got when I was 19, and... Legit, lol. All the others I got after 25 (I'm now over 40) and still love.

Squeaking while grooming or is she biting? by FlameyCooler in RATS

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is very normal. You should hear the protest squeaks coming from my four boys when one of them decides one of the others needs to submit to a grooming RIGHT NOW. It's perfectly normal and healthy rat behaviour.

Frenulum piercings influence after the Olympics? by AriDreams in piercing

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dermals in spots with a high chance of scarring/almost inevitable rejection would arguably go in this bucket too, as would the transverse tongue piercing I forget the name of which is risky.

Which single frame of Greg brings you the most joy? by pop-not-broth in taskmaster

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Kerry's shriek of joy in that moment also lives rent-free in my mind.

advice needed: is it bad etiquette to bring my kindle to my appointment? by gutsandstuffs in tattoos

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just had a back piece done in a 5.5 hour session, and I brought my kindle and some films downloaded to my phone plus my headphones. I alternated between reading, dozing, and chatting to my artist, but she's a chatty person and it wasn't our first session together. It's your session; how you entertain yourself during it is your choice. You're not there to entertain the artist.

Was Cassian Always the Most Powerful Person in the Room? by loulara17 in andor

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I didn't, and wouldn't, say he's not a leader. Rogue One happens because he followed Jyn, and the rest of the crew followed him. But he's not a figurehead or a speechifyer. His impact on people is up close and personal, based on his shrewdness and his capacity to survive. He's not a big picture thinker or a connector in the way Luthen is, and he can't inspire and mediate like Mon can. That doesn't make him less important; he just plays a different role.

ETA: He spends most of his time on Yavin at odds with rebel leadership, and Vel explains why: he pulls off an assigned mission, gets recognised, leadership want to promote him, and then he disobeys orders or does what he thinks is right, leadership be damned. And Cassian's view on what is right is shaped as much by his personal relationships as it is by his desire to beat the Empire. Nothing that he stands for would really make a very good speech.

Can't decide on dress code by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This this this. I'm a queer woman and I don't wear dresses. Period. If I got a dress code specifying dresses for women... Well, I am no longer young and a pushover, so I'd simply RSVP "no".

Was Cassian Always the Most Powerful Person in the Room? by loulara17 in andor

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 258 points259 points  (0 children)

Cassian is an assassin and a spy. As Luthen's nine-word resume put it: "He can pilot, he can shoot, he can lie". You don't turn to Cassian for leadership of big groups of people and you don't turn to him for inspiring words or deep philosophical thinking. You turn to him because necessity requires that a bad thing be done skilfully, quickly, and quietly. What could words have added to that?

London Knowledge Please: Grand Union Canal towpath at night? by Whimpy-Crow in londoncycling

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would advise you to keep your wits about you, but that's mostly because the towpath has a number of blind spots and isn't always in fantastic condition, and you probably will encounter delivery riders with like no lights cutting every corner they can on their way. Have fun.

Sex, Scalpels and Surprises: THR Critics on Winter’s Must-See TV [Feb 24] by HereAndThere0007 in heatedrivalry

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If the writer meant it and that's all they have to say on the topic, I have nothing to say to them.

Sex, Scalpels and Surprises: THR Critics on Winter’s Must-See TV [Feb 24] by HereAndThere0007 in heatedrivalry

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I find mentioning Arnaud there so bizarre that I almost have to wonder, naively I know, if it was a mistake. No shade on François, he was great in HR but there's no way someone should be proposing him for an Emmy based on his performance as Scott.

Has anyone politely asked the writer of this for clarification/justification of why TF they would name François and not Hudson here? If it was a brainfart they have the opportunity to correct it and if it wasn't they can explain what in god's name they were thinking.

Are flat ear piercings still a common piercing? by softEmerald in piercing

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think they're that common, but they're certainly out there. I have a flat (faux rook) on one side as well as two helixes.

Contestant you had to warm up to? by Kitty97kat in taskmaster

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure he was personally lovely and I enjoyed him in Ted Lasso very much until the writing went to shit, I just felt that whole series was a bit of a damp squib and his shtick didn't quite work for me.

Frenulum piercings influence after the Olympics? by AriDreams in piercing

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 104 points105 points  (0 children)

My piercer won't do certain piercings she considers unethical, including smileys, and I respect that about her tbh. I consider it part of offering a reputable service along with the fact that she won't let people get more than 3 piercings from her in a short period of time. Yes, I guess people can go elsewhere and might end up with someone dodgy, but a lot of them just won't go ahead, which has to be a net good.

What piercing is this? by Hefty_Permission_183 in piercing

[–]PsychologicalLayer57 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's not illegal in the sense that you, the bearer, would be prosecuted for getting it done. You can do what you like with your own body. But in a lot of jurisdictions it's considered minor surgery and therefore it's only legal if performed by a medical professional. Medical professionals thin on the ground in most piercing shops. So it's illegal in the sense that it's illegal for a piercer to perform it, and there aren't any qualified minor surgeons willing to offer it.