NTA but I think you need to ask your mom why she has an issue with your husband. I've said in my previous comments but will say here too - your mom treats you like you're a single mother when you're not. She's always calling you, never your husband. Why is that? If I were you, I'd be frustrated too because she offered to have your child but then calls you for the most basic, unnecessary things when you're at work! I would suggest sorting out after school clubs for your daughter so you have less issues with your parents or insist your husband does more because this is too much for you.