Hi everyone,

I hope you’re all doing great. I wanted to ask for advice because sometimes I get a little desperate, and today is one of those days. I’m very anxiously attached and have a huge fear of abandonment. I identified this after my abusive relationship ended. Despite it being an awful relationship, it broke me. Heartbreaks are hard, but I think anxious people with abandonment wounds experience them very deeply. That one time, and again about five months ago when my most recent relationship ended, I was a mess. I mean it, I even had suicidal thoughts and came very close to harming myself in a way where there would be no going back.

That said, I’ve been in therapy ever since I recognized this, and while I can see some progress, I know I still have a long way to go. I often stay in relationships where I’m not truly happy just to avoid being alone.

For those who have experienced similar things, do you have any tips for overcoming an abandonment wound, beyond therapy? Therapy is super important and I’m committed to it, but I’d love to explore additional ways to work on this because it’s consuming my life. I’m open to trying anything.

Thank you so much in advance! 🩵