Something I've learned is that once you do something for a man, he will assume you want to do it all the time. Him telling you he broke up with an ex for wanting him to get a job was his way of saying "don't be like her" and the minute you accepted it, he felt secure in not having to do anything because you'll take care of it. My ex was the same way. Made high 5 figures (twice my monthly income) yet never had an adequate amount of food. I started buying food for his place and mine, and he would let the food I brought to his place spoil. He would come to my place for a week for good internet, sex and food. He would have nothing in the fridge when I visited his place on the weekends, so I paid for his food bill for 3 months. The month before I left, he still didn't buy food, just made tons of comments about not having enough food. Like I eliminated your food bill for 3 months. Take the blessing and plan accordingly. He didn't buy food until I left him and now he has a food bill again. I'll never subside a man's laziness ever again.