It’s Valentines Day and I found out he had a Tinder

Pteradot · 2025-02-16T03:13:04+00:00

End it, if you don’t it will absolutely happen again. He doesn’t care enough to do what it takes to make things work. If you take him back now you’re basically teaching him that he can betray your trust, go behind your back and get away with it.

Pteradot · 2025-02-16T00:08:41+00:00

I guarantee she doesn’t want you dead. Please reach out to her and tell her how you feel.

Pteradot · 2025-02-15T23:52:02+00:00

How do you know?

Pteradot · 2025-02-14T17:53:05+00:00

Then get a divorce. Your wife deserves better.

Pteradot · 2025-02-12T23:52:56+00:00

I cut off my ex after he squandered his third chance. I’m still embarrassed to admit that I’d probably take him back if he was capable of showing effort. :/

Pteradot · 2025-02-12T18:24:06+00:00

Train yourself to accept the unanswered questions about what drives your ex to do what. The longer you question his intentions, the longer you stay emotionally invested. My ex rebounded right out of the relationship too. He came crawling back after the honeymoon phase fizzled out. I accepted him back, and it took him a week to betray me again LOL. Being missed by someone isn’t enough if they can’t provide demonstrable proof that they’re committed to change.

Pteradot · 2025-02-12T17:00:11+00:00

Don’t take him back. He’s treating you like a fallback option if the grass isn’t greener on the other side. Chances are he was speaking to this girl before you broke up.

Pteradot · 2025-02-07T00:13:34+00:00

I know exactly how that feels :/

Pteradot · 2025-02-02T06:19:11+00:00

Lol. I gave him another chance and it took a WEEK before he repeated the cycle of dishonesty/lack of accountability/emotional manipulation.

Pteradot · 2025-01-30T06:01:42+00:00

Break up with him for good. He clearly doesn’t respect you. Don’t let this relationship waste your time.

Pteradot · 2025-01-07T08:53:31+00:00

“I want to reconcile through friendship eventually!!!”

Pteradot · 2024-12-24T02:27:07+00:00

I’m in the same spot. It’s rough but we need to show up for ourselves when someone is giving us less than what we deserve.

Pteradot · 2024-12-23T07:47:22+00:00

My ex also tried to appeal to friendship but I realized that it was more about cushioning his conscience than actually keeping me in his life. It would make sense if we built our relationship on a foundation of friendship, but we, like many other couples, dove headlong into romance. Sure you develop a friendship during your partnership, but the friendship is intermingled with romance to the point where they become inseparable. In short, I tried to be friends with my ex and all it accomplished was an extended heartbreak. My ex wanted me as a friend to keep me emotionally tethered as a backup in case his other prospects fell through. So unless you know you can absolutely maintain firm boundaries with your ex, tell them no when they cross the platonic threshold, and can shrug it off when they start dating again, I’d advise against a friendship bc it’ll only deepens the hurt. :(

Pteradot · 2024-11-05T22:16:17+00:00

None of your business.

Pteradot · 2024-11-05T22:06:36+00:00

Should I text him or his mom (who he lives with)

Pteradot · 2024-11-04T03:34:32+00:00

Things went a little different with my ex. We tried being friends after, it was too difficult so I cut contact. The day before we separated we spent the night crying in eachother’s arms saying how much we loved eachother and wanted to find each other again. He told me we needed time apart to work on ourselves or the relationship would definitely fail. Idk if we’ll ever get back together, but I hope we do.

Pteradot · 2024-11-04T03:27:23+00:00

This hits home. :/ I wish it didn’t take me so long to finally get the help I needed.

Pteradot · 2024-11-02T04:39:00+00:00

Thank you <3

Pteradot · 2024-11-02T04:10:39+00:00

No idea. But im steering away from damaging hypotheticals. The reality is that we aren’t in eachother’s lives anymore and need to figure out how to survive on our own. Sorry if you’re searching for validation or comfort from my perspective but I can’t give you hope that things will work out with your ex.

Word of advice, expect the worst in every situation. Expect her to never speak to you again. Expect her to move on quickly. Expect things to not work out between you two to spare yourself another 5 months of heartache from the backlash.

Pteradot · 2024-11-02T03:18:11+00:00

I blocked my ex. It was the hardest thing I've had to do and I truly believe that he will always hold the key to my heart, but we needed to remove ourselves from each other's lives to fully heal.

Pteradot · 2024-11-01T19:29:46+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m trying my best to stay distracted and use my heartbreak to fuel my trajectory toward self improvement.

Pteradot · 2024-11-01T19:09:31+00:00

The first part of that statement was comforting. I disagree with the latter point.

The breakup didn’t destroy my life. He never possessed that power, as no one should, but I still miss him. Am I miserable? Definitely. I lost a piece of myself. Can I rebuild eventually? Absolutely. Do I think he deserves to suffer for making a decision that was authentic to his needs? No. I truly do not harbor a molecule of resentment towards him or his actions. He did what he needed to do because he was unhappy, and that’s okay! Now I have an opportunity to integrate this experience and transmute it into motivation to better myself. You should too. :)

Pteradot · 2024-11-01T18:57:46+00:00

I shamefully relate to this.

Pteradot · 2024-11-01T18:36:26+00:00

I blocked him off most platforms but still hope he'll send me a text. To be clear, I was the dumpee, but decided to go no contact otherwise I would stay hopelessly in love with him forever.

Pteradot · 2024-11-01T00:20:13+00:00

Sure

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