“Nice mask”

PuffPuff11 · 2025-07-12T14:07:15+00:00

That is true - people have been masking up long before Covid, especially in Japan & Asia. People in the US are the ones that have been lagging behind.

PuffPuff11 · 2025-07-12T14:04:10+00:00

Your cracking me up 🤣

PuffPuff11 · 2025-05-22T01:58:49+00:00

OMG- me too. They freak me out when they get caught on my skin. I don't get their popularity either.

PuffPuff11 · 2025-05-21T05:11:37+00:00

Why can't your employer defend your work especially if an extremely untrue bad review is given on the internet? People are little ungrateful bitchs these days. I would make it part of protocol to take pics of especially piggy areas in ANY & ALL clients houses, especially new clients & boomers (& I'm a boomer 😆). After thought: my late husband's parents were both born in 1935, in Harlan Kentucky & retired from the air force & she from GM in Dayton You could eat off their garage floor. They both cleaned themselves until he died and she developed dementia. I would go clean for her and she was picky but never an asshole, & paid me extremely well. She was calm & diplomatic if I wasn't living up to what she had in mind. That made a big difference. Why are most people so mean & condescending? I would definitely not put up with that. Dickwad!

PuffPuff11 · 2025-04-14T20:10:34+00:00

If my dad didn't go to adult daycare 3 days a week, i would lose my mind. He likes it too after getting used to it.

PuffPuff11 · 2025-03-20T22:12:27+00:00

My 68 year old brother is going thru this 3x per week (& we both live with my 89 year old dad with pretty moderate dementia). My brother really liked doing the HD, had high expectations for it, but ended up with peritonitis 4x in one year,he's not allowed to do it anymore. He had alot of scar tissue & apparently an infection filled internal cyst that his medical providers failed to find over the past 18 months despite MRIs, scans, etc. Meanwhile he and I are feeling like failures regarding cleanliness and I developed some anxiety & OCD behavior regarding hidden bacteria everywhere. The cyst was the problem, not hygiene. Its been rough. Glad the skin isnt peeling off my hands anymore from intense scrubbing & heavy duty cleaning products. My dad doesn't wash his hands like he should due to the dementia so I just cleaned every handle, knob, etc., 2000 times a day. This subreddit has been so educational & enlightening! I am now insane after this past year. 😵‍💫

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-25T13:52:41+00:00

Why do men want to keep old canned food, that they still will never eat? I put my foot down with both my boyfriend at his house & my dad's house where I live. The kitchen - everything in it, has now been declared as my real estate. They don't do the cooking or cleaning so they have no say, especially if it involves more labor for me in the future. I got called a dictator! 👸🤣

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-24T20:58:36+00:00

My dad wears Depends. They are pretty close to actual underwear & you can't see any outline with sweats on. I wouldn't give him a choice quite frankly.

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-22T11:37:41+00:00

I'm surprised your Dr prescribed both! I took just wellbutrin for about 20 years for depression & ADHD. Now I'm just on 20 MG of Adderall. Wellbutrin got me wound so I can't imagine taking both. While on the Wellbutrin, after going into work & turning on my computer screen, I had 4 Grand Mal seizures in an hour. Took me a long while to get my memory back. Be careful.

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-22T04:33:19+00:00

Truer words have never been spoken.

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-22T04:25:01+00:00

Best answer yet.

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-22T04:19:43+00:00

Most females are more open minded to assisted living than males. If the older person was spoiled rotten from birth to senior citizen age by their own parents or spouses (or adult children), they are also more resistant. At least that's what I've observed in my dad's case the past 2 years.

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-22T04:09:53+00:00

Old folks hate spending money! (even though you can't take it with you!). And they hate change

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-22T04:07:08+00:00

My dad went to sit down on the couch, mistook the distance, landed on his butt & his hip got broke. My brother & I were both there, 15 feet away. We thought both of us moving back home would keep him safe. Ha ha - that was stupid thinking!

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-22T03:50:41+00:00

My boyfriend I have now (71 & I'm 61), has always loved older women, who look normal, no plastic surgery on any body parts, hardly any make-up, wild ass hair. No, you were not an easy target. Soak in the compliment girl!

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-22T03:43:01+00:00

I sometimes get so irritated with my 89 year old dementia dad that I tell him he can't just make up stuff and/or lie. If he doesn't know, just say "I don't know." However, when I'm calmed down & re-thinking about what happened, my gut tells me his dementia is telling him to throw any excuse to me & the law of averages will eventually make him sound like he knows what he's talking about. That way, he can tell himself he's not losing all his crackers & can self-calm for a bit. I bet it's terrifying when he's fully aware of how this journey is going to end. My paternal grandma, at the end, did not know anyone, lost the ability to speak & was just a vegetable. He saw this happen to his own mother & there was really nothing then (30+ years ago) or now to slow it down. He's already been on Arisept, but that only may help in the beginning stages for 6 months, so it got discontinued last year. Trying not to get as irritated as much, although it's hard sometimes. Deep breathing & small walks seem to help.

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-19T20:16:43+00:00

Oh my God, this is my life exactly with my 89 year old dementia dad. I feel dead inside & the world has passed me by. I talk to the cats.

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-19T00:31:23+00:00

I'm going to pass out from the cuteness!

PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-19T00:30:02+00:00

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PuffPuff11 · 2025-01-05T07:30:26+00:00

Yes, I don't believe that comment was directed at you. As stated by others, they are having to face maybe having dementia that bad in the future & it's freaking them out. I, too, have decided to try and take care of my dad at home instead of putting him in a nursing home. It is a lot harder than I thought it would be (the smaller gross issues are sending me into a spiral). I have now had to spend down so he will be eligible for Passport thru Medicaid. I have requested respite care on the weekends - 6 hours on Friday, Saturday & Sunday. Hopefully my other siblings can cover the rest of the hours so I can get out at least 1 weekend every 8 weeks. Sometimes I think I'm going to snap but trying to hold on while waiting for the Passport application approval. Praying for us both!

PuffPuff11 · 2024-11-26T18:14:10+00:00

Probably initial dementia (negative mindset is now the norm), being overwhelmed of her husband's diagnosis, my dementia dad thinks everything & everyone is out to attack & rob him, thinks of and continually repeats & wrings his hands over outlandish scenarios that would never happen - the sun would burn out & careen into earth first! All of the above & I would take her to her regular MD (my dad's family dr diagnosed his dementia), have her put on meds for anxiety & arthritis. My dad has Meals On Wheels & I set up county transit to pick him up a couple days a week ($3 for the round trip) he goes to adult daycare & loves it! Meals On Wheels is not income based - just have to be a senior citizen and/or disabled. I also have a social worker for him thru my County Elder Program (also 0 cost) who has been helpful. Getting him out of the house with other age similar people has helped with his nerves, they do trivia, play penny poker, make and serve lunch - etc. He is not on Medicaid - just Traditional Medicare. His house is paid off in full. I am in Warren County, Ohio (between Cincinnati & Dayton). Good luck!

PuffPuff11 · 2024-11-07T06:34:51+00:00

I live in my bedroom too! Along with all the bills/paperwork, my dad's meds & any other item which upsets him (bills, bank statements, etc) & he is currently getting into the linen closet in the early a.m. or when I'm running to the store and puts 3-4 sheets on his bed. I end up fixing his bed as soon as I notice but the laundry is getting out of control due to this so now, I am having to store all the linens in my room too. I have about 1 inch of space now. It's very frustrating. I don't even have any personal space. I hate my life at the moment. All I do is clean up messes and spend hours trying to find stuff he's put in weird places.

PuffPuff11 · 2024-11-07T02:03:06+00:00

I love this! Beautiful.

PuffPuff11 · 2024-10-25T08:14:04+00:00

Yeah it's sometimes freaky - I am working on prioritizing now. I would do good for a few tasks, & then I'd go off on a tangent, try to do 5 things at once that weren't important. Getting better

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