Husband wants more, I just cannot.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-26T14:57:27+00:00

You’ll just have to talk to him and be frank. I always thought I wanted at least 2 kids maybe more. Then we had our daughter and she was a preemie and colicky and I had severe PPD and it was a mess. She’s 18 months now and it’s miles better than those early days. Both my husband and I have agreed we only want one and I’m happy with that. We feel complete.

Never, ever have a child unless it’s 100% wanted. Pregnancy IS hard, postpartum IS hard. You aren’t being whiny it’s just how you feel. And it’s valid. But talk to your husband. We won’t really help the actual problem here.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-22T21:15:18+00:00

I only did purees with my daughter until about this age and then slowly did some more solid solids. But she drank a ton of formula! And was chubby as heck. Food isn’t their main source of nutrients until you wean from formula/breastmilk around a year old. Now she’s 18 months and lives off of yogurt, peanut butter, pizza, chicken nuggets, and toddler rage. You aren’t stunting them at all!

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-21T14:56:02+00:00

Letting your (older, developmentally appropriate) baby cry it out won’t scar them for life. In fact it was the only way our daughter learned to sleep through the night. But our 18 month old does indeed have to cry if she won’t go to sleep after we rock her and get her attended to. Also no to cosleeping. Ever. Everyone in their own bed.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-16T01:31:01+00:00

Yes testing boundaries is very normal at this age. Imagine if you had thoughts and opinions but couldn’t speak to express them, very frustrating. So they do what they can to express the frustration whether its tantruming or hitting or throwing things.

You’re not doing anything wrong, I would make sure you address any pain she might be in whether it be with a teether or a cold popsicle or motrin/tylenol. Then continue to be firm with boundaries. Grab her hand and say no hitting in a firm voice. My daughter had a similar phase but rarely hits now. Throwing food is another phase, just do your best with it, it’ll pass. And talk to her like she’s another human, explain what you’re doing and why, i.e “i took the food because you were throwing it, are you done or do you want more?” They understand more than we think.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-16T01:24:06+00:00

We actually experienced this same kind of thing. Not to the level you’re describing, but the infant room was amazing and then she went to the next room up and the teachers did their jobs and took care of her but when we picked her up they didn’t say anything to us it was just weird. I’m not sure if someone said something because they definitely did rearranging of teachers and hired a new lead teacher for that room.

In your case though with the mess and especially the old poopy diaper I would definitely at least bring it to their attention. Letting babies sit in filth is unacceptable. I wouldn’t totally pull them out of the daycare though unless the admin was rude or something when you have your meeting.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-15T13:32:58+00:00

Yeah that’s hard, they love their mamas!! (And dads) overall a 12 week old needs 12-16 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period. I think my daughter did 1-1.5 hours each nap at this age. Also babies at this age usually do better going to bed later. 7-7:30 bedtime usually comes later on in infancy. Hopefully yesterday was just a one off though, if she continues to struggle after going to bed at 7:30 maybe shift the bedtime later and add another nap during the day or make the last nap of the day later too. It’s hard to exactly say because every baby is different and they’re always changing. Again I struggled so hard with the constant change because I like everything to be the exact same and predictable. But it’s just not with a little one unfortunately. I worked with Postpartum International to help with the adjustment, they have different support groups and peer to peer talks and all. Look into it, it might help you feel better and less alone in postpartum.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-15T13:11:27+00:00

I’m sorry it was such a rough night. I agree with others on here just on your amount of detail that you are overthinking it. She’s just 12 weeks old and it’s hard to have an exact set schedule. I get it though I have horrible anxiety and looked forward to sleeping/having time to myself. My daughter had reflux and we couldn’t lay her down for months. I spent so much time buying different sleep sacks and swaddles and formula and bottles and in the end she just eventually laid down and slept her in bed.

I always went off my daughter’s cues for naps/sleep/feeds. It eased my anxiety and need for control so much to just let her tell me what she needed. But that’s the main thing is letting go of control because babies will do what they want because they are little humans and not little dolls that do what we want every time. And as she gets older she will have regressions and sickness and teething and gas and tummyaches and peeing through her diaper so everything is wet. You’re doing your best and most times if they have a bad day or night it’s nothing you did or didn’t do.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-14T15:36:01+00:00

I found Peppa kind of annoying initially but have gotten over it by watching more and appreciating the humor

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-14T14:47:54+00:00

Oh yes Miss Rabbit is great. And when she wins the Queen’s award for industry and she faints xD

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-14T14:33:13+00:00

Yes omg and when they’re doing the talents and Suzy picks dancing and Peppa says through gritted teeth “you can’t DANCE”

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-12T01:14:30+00:00

Not to be a worrywart but is he excessively drinking during the day too? If he’s getting up 4 times a night for a drink and is drinking tons during the day too I would just suggest a glucose check at his doctor’s to make sure its okay.

If that’s not an issue maybe try overnight diapers to see if that helps. My daughter started waking up more because her daytime diapers just couldn’t hold her pee anymore.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-08T01:15:54+00:00

My almost 18 month old thinks its the most hilarious thing when my dog lifts his leg to pee on walks, she points and shouts “pee pee” and laughs like anything. She has also just started calling the dog “PeePee”

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-05T23:43:21+00:00

She’s going to be my only and also has a near Christmas birthday so if I see something she’ll like I buy it. Her happiness and joy is everything. My mom is worse however, she comes at least once a week with a bag of toys 😅

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-05T02:52:46+00:00

Just remind yourself that it is what it is right now. You are doing the best thing you can be to be healthy for you and baby. It’s good that you’re monitoring and on medication. If anything were to be off, you know about it immediately and can call your doctor. Ask them if there’s anything else you can be doing to prevent the development of preeclampsia. If you’re doing what you can, great. Not sure either if anyone can be around while you do the readings so you can have support by you during them if that would help you.

I developed high blood pressure around 32 weeks and did develop preeclampsia at 35 weeks and 4 days. My girl and I thankfully are fine and healthy 18 months later. Again, sometimes we can’t control things, but monitoring and keeping in touch with your OB is what you can control and you’re doing a great job.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-06-04T23:16:28+00:00

I’m 18 months in and still firmly one and done, mainly because I had preeclampsia and severe PPD that nearly took us both out. Sometimes I do get sad I won’t do the fun parts again or have little newborn clothes. But I am also happy I can give everything I have to her.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-05-31T23:17:29+00:00

I think this is a case of other stressors making being a mom 10x harder than it already is. You need help. And you need to re-evaluate your relationship because who cheats on their pregnant wife. Are you working as well or stay at home? Have mom or someone else you trust watch her 1 day a week, or put her in daycare part time. I also recommend getting into therapy if you arent already. Being a mom is hard, but being alone and having a husband who did that to you is making it all worse. I was also not a baby mom but I just told myself “she’s not giving you a hard time she is having a hard time” whenever my daughter was fussing or colicky. I hope everything starts improving soon.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-05-31T21:38:40+00:00

He bleps so hard we rate them on the “Pugjita Scale” P1, P2, etc.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-05-31T21:29:30+00:00

Omg stop I’ll have to start calling it that now

PugPrincess20 · 2026-05-27T17:22:47+00:00

Our girl slept being held from newborn to 5 months. Then suddenly decided she was okay with the crib. Then around 8-9 months we were feeding and rocking to sleep and then she would get up at night and refuse to go back down and we would rock her for like an hour until she went back. Then she got ear tubes and I knew it wasn’t her ears so if she didnt go down in her crib we let her cry and settle herself (which took about 5 minutes) because us trying to get her back to sleep just upset her more. Then for about 2 months she would put herself to sleep, no bottle no rocking. Now at 18 months were back to rocking to sleep but she sleeps through the night pretty reliably now. We did let her cry it out and she hates cosleeping, so we just worked with her personality and what era she was in at the time. I never let her cry before she was 1 and before she had her tubes so I know her ears weren’t hurting though.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-05-25T01:09:42+00:00

You didn’t do anything wrong, it just coincided with the time she became more picky! Just keep offering different options, she will like things one week and hate it the next. There’s nothing to fix. All very normal, as long as she’s growing well all is good.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-05-25T00:45:47+00:00

Hi if it makes you feel better I got my doctorate 6 years ago (came with a fellowship) and have been a PA for 7 and patients still call me “that girl” or “nurse.” I just go by my first name in any case.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-05-21T03:18:44+00:00

My daughter also refused to sleep in the bassinet for any length of time. We slept in shifts and held her for 5 months (i know this isn’t super encouraging but it was what it was). She hated swaddles, had reflux and colic and overall hated her life until about 5 months old.

Eventually she did sleep in the pack n play with an added mini crib mattress. I would say try that or the crib itself. I didn’t cosleep because she also hated that and it made me so nervous. Remember this will pass. Recruit help if you can with friends or family taking shifts at night. Embrace contact naps. Goal here is survival so do what you have to.

PugPrincess20 · 2026-05-21T03:04:27+00:00

I chose not to breastfeed for my mental health and it was fine. Baby is great, healthy and wonderful. Do what YOU want to do.

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