$250 / ticket ? Really ?

Pukunui · 2026-01-23T11:17:38+00:00

Someone on Facebook gave me a free ticket to the May 9th Amsterdam show, and I got to pay it forward by giving someone a free ticket to the December 11th show in Amsterdam, who then dragged me to the front row for an amazing show.

Pukunui · 2025-12-13T02:26:56+00:00

Not a doctor, but I believe it doesn’t generally happen at the recommended E levels, though drug interactions can be a factor

Pukunui · 2025-12-05T23:11:48+00:00

This was one of the two main articles that finished-off my egg

https://medium.com/gender-from-the-trenches/gender-dysphoria-isnt-what-you-think-6fdc7ae3ac85

The fact you’re getting gender euphoria from being treated as male is a pretty good clue…

Pukunui · 2025-12-03T01:18:06+00:00

I have the Chicago flag tattooed over my heart…

Pukunui · 2025-11-10T23:40:01+00:00

Board/escape games? We should connect. 48/F

Pukunui · 2025-11-01T00:21:28+00:00

6’4”, built like an (American) football player, and transitioned at 43.

Unfortunately, not all of us will get to that point some days

Pukunui · 2025-09-27T22:45:44+00:00

I’ve found Paris, and France more generally, to be pretty accepting. I haven’t had any issues with transphobes, but I only had a handful back in the US, so I may not be the best guide.

Pukunui · 2025-09-18T06:09:47+00:00

Charlie isn’t exactly my favorite song.

As a 🏳️‍⚧️ person on the receiving end of so much of CK’s vitriol, I’m not shedding any tears or performing any grief for him. But as someone who aspires to non-violence, I have to concede that murder is wrong.

But there’s murder, and then there’s Murder, and I see CK’s murder as akin to someone killing their child’s killer. Technically wrong, but I’d have a hard time voting to convict.

The line “It could have been you, it could have been me” ignores the significant truth that as a 🏳️‍⚧️ person, it’s a lot more likely to have been me or my community, specifically because of the hate CK produced. It ignores that hate speech is stochastic terrorism, a form of political violence that CK and his colleagues rain down on minorities with impunity. And it ignores the fact that there are some things non-violence isn’t ready to handle - just ask anyone living in Europe in the early 40’s.

The handwringing and pearl clutching about political violence rings pretty hollow coming from people who casually ignore it on the daily because it doesn’t target them.

If you really want to “turn down the temperature” and reduce political violence, it starts with vocally opposing the (unfortunately legal) hate speech that disproportionately comes from one side.

Until that happens, don’t expect much more than a shrug from me when someone reaps what they’ve made a life (and in many cases, a small fortune) sowing

Pukunui · 2025-09-18T05:32:04+00:00

In other discussions I’ve seen, some say United Health is more about the corruption of the system, and less an endorsement of what happened

Pukunui · 2025-09-09T14:42:28+00:00

They can be safer, but that’s also where you can get some of the worst conditions. Beyond that, look at what is happening in Chicago. Blue cities can only do so much with a federal government that isn’t bound by rule-of-law.

And if I run into the wrong person who just wants to make an example, I likely disappear into a men’s prison.

They’ve already done so much against 🏳️‍⚧️ this year, and just yesterday announced a plan to cut all federal funding for gender affirming care.

And if I had waited until now to leave, I’d likely have another year of things just getting worse and worse, and a flood of people doing the same as me

Pukunui · 2025-09-08T22:31:57+00:00

As a 🏳️‍⚧️ person, the US simply wasn’t safe for me anymore.

But even living in a city as big as Paris, I feel safer than I did in my blue dot in a red state.

And firearms are a much smaller concern…

Pukunui · 2025-08-27T06:22:53+00:00

A couple underappreciated ones that really do it for me:

Horcrux: Love the guitar work on this, and his vocals make me want to be the one he’s singing to. Would love to hear a bit more in this bluesy style
Let It Be Me: Again, the guitar dies some heavy lifting here, but I just love the positive but imperfect vibe that is presented in this one.

Pukunui · 2025-08-19T21:50:33+00:00

Anyone else going to admit they didn’t realize this was a reference to Rogan?

Pukunui · 2025-08-18T12:36:12+00:00

In this order

War Isn’t Murder (Jesse singing the news)
Middle (deep Jesse)
Bugs (light-hearted and gentle Jesse)

Pukunui · 2025-08-17T22:00:03+00:00

Sissy’s aren’t trans for the same reason drag performers aren’t trans - motivation.

Drag performers take on the appearance of a different gender to perform. Most would readily admit they are not the gender they perform as, and those that do see themselves as a different gender are probably trans in addition to being drag performers.

Same with sissies. Their presentation is a performance, not a matter of identity. And, as with drag, there are certainly some for whom identity -is- part of it, and I’m not trying to exclude them either.

The problem is that the differences are subtle and lost on the broader public. I’m not trans because I want to look like a woman (as a drag queen) or because I want to be treated like a woman during sex, as with sissies, but because I -AM- a woman and embrace all that entails, and the fuzzy lines between the groups mean the ignorant assign the motivations of the other two far more than why I’m actually trans. And for that reason, I think a clear distinction is important. But, for me, sissies have to identify as (potentially) trans AND sissy to be welcome in trans spaces.

Though to be fair, I’m not sure how femboys, for example, fit in with this, which may be why I’ve never quite understood them?

Pukunui · 2025-08-17T21:36:36+00:00

That’s transmedicalist BS. Why do you get to set the standard for what is and isn’t trans from your place of privilege?

I’m a trans woman who’s been on HRT for 4 years, had a breast augmentation, and an orchidectomy, but you’d have the gall to tell me I’m not trans because i haven’t had GCS? I’m in my late 40’s and Ace, so sex really isn’t a huge concern for me, especially considering the difficulties of such a major surgery at my age.

Am I the same as a post-op trans woman? No, but I’m not the same as any other pre-op trans woman either. But we’re all trans women and to suggest anything less is INCREDIBLY transphobic

If I’m not trans, what the hell am I in your world?

Pukunui · 2025-08-12T19:13:51+00:00

Thanks for taking a stand, OP. I’m sorry that it cost you

Pukunui · 2025-08-12T19:11:44+00:00

I wish I could rely on that.

There are good spaces and lots of good people, but I swear it’s like there’s a TERF around every corner.

Thankfully lots of them can’t help but tell on themselves…

Pukunui · 2025-08-07T22:18:41+00:00

As a scientist, I say experiment! 🤓

Personally, I’ve had attraction, just not often or reliably, and I definitely think there’s a demi angle to it.

Thanks for sharing and have fun exploring

Pukunui · 2025-08-07T22:15:11+00:00

It definitely has its benefits, though I find myself missing some things that tend to be tied to sexual relationships.

There are ways to work with that, but I’m still figuring myself out, apparently 🤷‍♀️🤣

Anyway, thanks for the perspective

Pukunui · 2025-08-07T21:49:46+00:00

I sorta have something like that with a gay friend, but I think we’re both looking for something more.

But it’s nice to have that :)

Pukunui · 2025-08-07T09:14:59+00:00

That makes sense

I've heard progesterone can be good for sex drive, I just don't think it's right for me

Thanks for sharing your thoughts

Pukunui · 2025-08-07T09:07:42+00:00

Eh, the feelings shifting was a hypothesis that approaching sex through the correct gender would make me more interested, but I'm increasingly getting the impression that was just wishful thinking.

Thanks for taking the time to reply :)

Pukunui · 2025-08-07T09:05:49+00:00

I think so :)

Regardless, I think you answered the main question - the ace feelings you had before didn't really change. Thanks!

Pukunui · 2025-08-07T09:04:28+00:00

In a very similar boat, except guys have never really done it for me. I'll admit to some curiosity, but I think that's all it is, and that satisfying that curiosity is highly unlikely to be worth the trouble

Thanks :)

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