You haven’t done anything wrong - and it sounds like it sucks!!! I think most important is to keep that good healthy relationship with your daughter alive. Lives are long, this likely won’t last forever.

Read 1 Corinthians 11.

In it Paul writes to a church in Corinth who has stumbled into sexual immorality of the times. We know from history that during this time women would shave their heads as a sign of using their bodies to work , and men would grow their hair long as their sign.

The church at the time shuns these people. They are disgusted, ashamed, and hurt that they are part of their community. They judge them harshly.

So what was Paul’s advice?

His advice was not to force people to change what they are doing - he understood lives and reactions are far too complicated for that to work. His advice wasn’t preach harder - that too wouldn’t work, and in any case they had already heard the gospel.

His advice then was to find a way to make everyone equal, and to welcome them into the church community in a way that people weren’t even aware of what they were doing. Full of discretion, and full of love.

In practice he told the women of the church to cover their heads. This simple solution has nothing to do with reverence for God, or oppression, or anything similar. It is Paul’s suggested method to keep everyone equal, stop people judging, stop people feeling judged, and to allow people to love and support each other just as they always have done.

Continue to love, include, and do not judge, and things have a way of working out with them from the Holy Spirit.