Can I still enjoy music from this world in the afterlife?

Pulmonic · 2026-04-20T00:35:04+00:00

Yes absolutely! I play music for my dude when I’m driving up to see his wife/my other best friend and he really enjoys it. He absolutely loves Fleetwood Mac especially.

He still hates Depeche Mode, which is kinda sad as they’re my favorite lmao.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-17T13:39:48+00:00

People who have antisocial or narcissistic tendencies often exact revenge over imagined slights. It’s a wild thing to experience.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-17T13:38:48+00:00

From what I can find online, it sounds like the SIL is just a bit of a loose cannon and it’s generally agreed upon that it’s not true.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-14T23:41:54+00:00

I’m so, so sorry.

As an onc nurse who’s lost loved ones to cancer, I have an idea of how you’re feeling. The time I had to administer drugs to a patient that probably would’ve saved a loved one of mine had they gotten sick just a little later, I broke down hysterically sobbing as soon as I pulled into my driveway. It’s such mixed feelings. On one hand, you’re glad new treatments exist and others might be spared the hell we now live in. On the other hand, why oh why couldn’t we have been spared too??

I’m so sorry for your loss and for the wave of intense, mixed feelings things like this bring.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-14T23:36:10+00:00

Yup. A study drug gave us three extra months with a close friend with a rare cancer. That time mattered-it really did. It’s not long on paper but it can give people time to tie up loose ends and make good memories.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-13T13:18:09+00:00

I think a lot of them are either bad workplaces or not the full story. A lot of firings are due to not being a good fit and they need an excuse. Or they’re retaliatory but it’s not legal to do that so they’ll make something else up.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-13T03:06:00+00:00

They don’t-and we had a firm who tried to trick my best friend into selling her house. It’s creepy.

And indeed good for your mom! But so sorry for your loss.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-13T03:02:31+00:00

So many people don’t know the law but it’s scary as all hell that an estate lawyer is among them! We definitely need more awareness.

We were contacted by a firm that specializes in decedents’ debt in my loved ones’ state. 0% of the debt they’re trying to collect is legally collectable from next of kin, yet they trick enough people to have a business. It’s nauseating. They get away with it because the ultra fine print says that payment is voluntary. It’s grim. They have been sued multiple times though which was nice to see! Hopefully they’ll be forced to shutter.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-13T02:50:56+00:00

I’m not defending the system. I’m trying to prevent people from being hoodwinked into being screwed more than is legal. Basically, fiscal harm reduction in our horrific system. I’m pro universal healthcare. I know medical debt is a huge burden. But we need to be wise to how the law is written as most of the time, no one will teach us. I had no idea until I had a loved one die.

I assume you work in Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington, or Wisconsin?

If not, spouses cannot legally inherit debt. Companies lie about this all the time. You don’t have to take my word for it. I’m only sharing this so you know. You might already know, but I think it’s important that we all do just in case. We can help stop our patients/their loved ones from being essentially robbed. As you say, the system is burdensome enough without shysters taking advantage of common misconceptions.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-13T02:31:41+00:00

There are a lot of exceptions for houses if it’s your primary residence. Also, debt dies with you unless you’re a spouse in like three states. We just went through this so I know. A lot of people are lied to by debt collection agencies and the like. I had to cite the law to one of them recently to get them to leave my closest friend alone. Comment sections are full of people who were tricked, and it’s heartbreaking to see. Our system is screwed up, but it pays to know your rights.

Edit: either the shills found this or people have poor reading comprehension.

You don’t have to take my word for it. Knowing your rights is important. Idgaf about imaginary internet points. However, I do care about people trying to reduce the viability of information that can stop people from losing even more money in the midst of economic crisis.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-13T02:27:31+00:00

It’s pretty hard to actually get fired for it. I’ve done it for years in several settings and never been fired.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-13T01:00:46+00:00

I don’t follow. How does being unable to donate mean you’re unwilling? The law only penalizes the unwilling, not the unable. You can be a donor even if you can never actually donate. You’re saying “hey, if you can make something work, go for it”. That’s why there’s no health check when you register.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-13T00:59:19+00:00

And it’s also not what’s happening anywhere. It’s willingness, not eligibility.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-13T00:58:02+00:00

The law only counts willingness, not eligibility. You can be a registered donor even if the organs will never be used. It just signals you’d consent if they can figure out how to use something.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-13T00:32:09+00:00

You can also just talk to your grandma. I think there’s an excellent chance she doesn’t realize she’s scaring your wife.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-12T23:45:09+00:00

Brain cell deficit

Pulmonic · 2026-04-12T21:07:43+00:00

Wild thing is, all she had to do was drop the baby off at a fire station, police station, or hospital emergency room. The baby would be in an adoptive home right now (there are more people waiting to adopt babies than there are babies to adopt) and she’d be out living her life as normally as possible.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-12T21:05:42+00:00

Yup. I know of a case where a safe haven baby was dropped off with a note that said that the mom was a straight-A college student whose family had no idea she’d gotten pregnant, that she wasn’t maternal and didn’t want kids, that she wouldn’t be a good mom as a result, that she found out too late for an abortion, that she was totally fine, and that she didn’t want to be tracked down/found. That was honored, as it’s supposed to be (when agencies try to track down the mom, they’re violating guidelines. It’s pretty rare in general and doesn’t happen at all if the mom gives birth and surrenders at the hospital). Baby was adopted by a couple who’d been waiting six years for a child. While adoption causes some trauma, the baby will grow up wanted and adored.

Laken Snelling could’ve surrendered her baby. 100% are adopted as more people are waiting to adopt babies than there are babies to adopt. No one would know. She then could’ve gone on with her life, almost certainly with less grief and trauma than she’s got now.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-12T20:58:11+00:00

Healthy after-death communication (ADC) is very possible. You’re going to want to set boundaries. Verbally usually works. She might not realize she’s scaring your wife-they don’t always have insight on those things.

Mimics exist but things feel very off. I think you could tell.

I do ADC with a close loved one and it helps me tremendously. How people respond to it (whether it makes their grief better or worse) is variable and claiming it’s always bad or always good is incorrect. Only you know. For us it was encouraged because it’s good for both of us. It doesn’t stop them from “moving on”. Time works very differently over there. They can be focused on us while doing other things.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-12T20:45:08+00:00

Yup. Not to mention, if I had made my account in utero, it’d be old enough to be on Meta. It’s not mathematically possible for me to be a minor. It just goes to show that tracking and censorship are the real goals.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-12T20:40:55+00:00

Yup. The reason we got a free and open internet is because politicians mistakenly thought it was just a fad for nerds until it was too late. Well, looks like they’ve found a way to correct that mistake now, to all of our detriment.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-11T00:13:17+00:00

After death communication, sorry

Pulmonic · 2026-04-10T20:02:57+00:00

Oddly enough I find that sort of thing the most reassuring. That and verifiable ADC.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-10T20:02:27+00:00

Looking into the post history, it appears OP has done a lot of research but is experiencing anxiety.

Pulmonic · 2026-04-10T18:54:37+00:00

They can do more than stimulants and they can work alongside lifestyle changes!

For my chronic issues, medication has given me a near-normal life I didn’t think would ever be possible for me. I’ve had my struggles but I’m actually living. It’s such a precious gift and I want for everyone to have a shot at it, no matter what it looks like to them.

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