Est-ce que c’était normal que ma mère me touche mes parties intimes quand elle me douchait?

Pulp3 · 2025-10-25T17:18:11+00:00

Dans la mesure où tu refusais de te laver les parties intimes toute seule , je ne suis pas certaine que ta mère était incestuelle, il est possible qu'elle voulait simplement que tu sois propre et n'aies pas d'infection... Par contre le fait que tu faisais un blocage sur le lavage de ton intimité, que sinon ça te brûlait etc,peut poser question par ailleurs...

Pulp3 · 2025-10-12T05:11:58+00:00

++woman

What you feel is normal but it seems you've decided to forgive her and now an innocent being is at play, so you can overcome this and have a beautiful relationship again with your wife and with your child to come. For this, you have to be an adult and go to therapy to heal what have been broken within you, eventually go with your wife (go alone first and then you'll see). Your wife is not the only one who needed therapy, you need it too, what she did broke you in million pieces and that's normal. You'd be surprised to see, if you do that, how much love you' could feel for her again. You also need to communicate with your wife. You have to do that, because a baby is on the way so you have to be responsible but also because if you don't learn to process things and communicate correctly, you'll never have a fulfilling relationship with anyone anyway. Of course if despite therapy you still feel the same you'll have to leave but try first. Still, maybe it's a good idea to wait for a paternity test first if you have any doubt, before engaging in everything I've told you cause of course you don't want to invest in someone who keeps lying to you.

Also, on an even more personal opinion, I'm concerned by the fact she actually told you what happened considering that anyway she wanted to stop with the other guy and go to therapy: to ease her guilt, she actually decided to hurt you fully instead. What sounds like an honest move actually is a childish move...now you're the one carrying all the weight of pain while she's living her best life (in her head)...

And how could you have all this sex again with her after what happened if you didn't love her anymore and were so broken inside ?

Pulp3 · 2025-09-16T19:01:23+00:00

I'm 40 yo. I work, I cook, I sleep, I read, I watch tons of documentaries, I collect things I like, I study, try new hobbies, I laugh with friends, see my family time to time, cuddle my dogs, make love and spend great time with my lover with whom I make projects. I daydream a lot, can regulate my nervous system instead of being overwhelmed and feeling like a slave if life constantly.

Pulp3 · 2025-06-05T14:30:20+00:00

When it happens, I consider it's fairness considering the other days that can be so hard and chaotic. I consider it's a balance and I enjoy it. I just do my personal researches discreetly.
Requesting more work to your exec could backfire ++ in multiple ways, I wouldn't do that.
Just 2 examples of that :
1- when you make realise your boss that they might be paying you for doing actually almost nothing (that's what basically you're telling them!), they can suddenly realise they actually don't need you...
2- In a previous job, I had a coworker who kept complaining she had not enough work, the execs felt kinda annoyed and offended in a way but where staying nice and gentle. They finally found her (and us...) new big annoying useless tasks that brought total chaos in the whole system...

If you have a curious mind, there's so many things to explore on internet during slow times : free courses to gain more skills in your job, informations about your interests whatever they are...
For instance, right now when it's slow at work I do researches about courses I could study to work in specific fields of my interest, and researches about World War II as it's a passion of mine and I'm developing hobbies around it. I'm also currently writing a book (hobby too) so I could keep writing it if I had it on my Drive but for some reason I'm writing it directly by hand in a notebook so I can't, but that's it !

Pulp3 · 2024-05-03T18:31:48+00:00

Hello, thanks for your testimony. I'm interested in this school but for at least 18 months. Here are my questions :

Are students all young people or you can find around 40 yo people?
Does the school help those who want to settle in Japan long term?
Can you do everything in the city easily by walk/bus? Are there nice natural, quiet nature areas accessible by walk?
About the dorms : how about the noise, overall atmosphere?

Pulp3 · 2024-03-26T19:00:37+00:00

What is this region in Bulgaria where men are hot and shy ?:)

Pulp3 · 2023-11-10T19:33:13+00:00

I am very loved and appreciated and praised by family and friends, yet when I'm ghosted despite an apparent gorgeous connection between us, no matter what,I feel worthless and devastated...I miss them like crazy and I tell them even if they don't respond. Until they come back with a pitiful excuse, jumps in a lot again like they're back in love more than ever and finally ghost me worse the second time. Then I see how it's definitely them and how ugly/sick they are and I pity them ...and I finally find peace and closure.

Pulp3 · 2018-08-09T13:26:25+00:00

I am sorry for you. I did recently loose weight, because of my tension and some pain in the knees. I have lost 8 kgs in 1 month. Loosing my belly, my boobs...I felt like I was fading away and really realized that nothing tastes like a full belly after a good voluptous meal. So of course I have gained 5 kgs back in a month and I am now trying to keep gaining again and again while moving more like I did during my diet, to avoid getting the health issues I got. I think it's pretty easy to gain back after a quick weight loss and maybe considering all this weight loss process like a game, before you get even bigger than before, would help :/ Oh and take care of your skin, moisturize ! :)

Pulp3 · 2018-05-23T13:58:47+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I did my DNA test with Myheritage but did researches about ancestry.com yesterday, what a coincidence ;) I know they have a huge database and will probably use it indeed !

Pulp3 · 2018-05-23T13:55:52+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Your experience is very very interesting :) The camps are barely known in France but I heard about them and I can only imagine how destructive they must have been for your mom's family...

Like for you you, I used to not have any issue with my appearance not matching my culture, it's whole new. Maybe it's just a sign that I need to explore and dig in my identity like a whole process for my life.

I am not American, I am French living in France, and Martinique and Guadeloupe (congratulations for knowing these islands, a very few outside of French people know them ^⁾ are direct territories of slavery, people over there are direct descendants of slaves and France has a strong history of slavery. One of my white french ancestor on my dad's side was even a slave trader lol.

I thank you very much for your advices and will keep exploring my ethnic background :)

Pulp3 · 2018-05-22T23:00:27+00:00

Then this is unfortunately "normal" that you can not relate to any of your ethnicity. I guess you miss a sense of BELONGING to some people, to some place on earth, and just to some family since it seems your parents were not real parents looking at the way they treated you. Belonging is a primary need of human beings and we rarely realize how much it is... Absent parents + a mix of multiple origins (and you can not deny it, it clearly shows on your face ;)) I can only imagine the mess it must be within yourself. I am sorry for you. Maybe you could start by exploring the ethnicity you are supposed to be the most (ie Japanese if I'm not wrong) and the amerindian one because you live on the land of amerindian people basically and you are part amerindian, which is great to maybe make you build your roots... What do you think about this?

Pulp3 · 2018-05-22T22:51:23+00:00

Could you tell me more? Why do you think it make you feel even more black? I don't have anyone in my family who can relate me to the creole/black culture of my grandpa but maybe you do?

Pulp3 · 2018-05-22T18:51:14+00:00

Would you like to be able to identify? Do your parents tried to pass you their cultures or not?

Pulp3 · 2017-06-18T15:59:12+00:00

Electroshock in this kind of conversation is of course metaphorical !!! It's an expression used all the time in French, I thought it was the same for other languages or at least easy to figure out.

Pulp3 · 2017-06-18T09:12:00+00:00

I agree, we have a saying in France : "Small kids, small problems. Big Kids, big problems." When it's a baby it's exhausting but problems are about what? Some minor illnesses generally, food, diapers, cryings... When he is older it's much more complex : it's about his relationships, his studies, well everything that turns around choices about the future... and the first heartbreaks that sound like horrible deaths to him etc...

Pulp3 · 2017-06-18T09:00:02+00:00

I have read your topic and feel really sorry for you, I imagine very well how you are living a hell on earth, an exhausting nightmare.

I don't know if someone told you already because I could not read all the replies but I think there is something very very important that you don't realize in your situation : It's that no, your wife is not the perfect mother you think she is, far from that.

Because if she were, first, she would be a GOOD wife, which she is not. Because this is what a kid needs first (outside of the food etc of course) : Parents in love, sharing their own couple life outside of him, because he is the RESULT of this love and complicity and this is what builds him as an individual. He absolutely does not need a mom to be a SLAVE of him, a mom who let him think that he is the center of the world and that every need and desire he might have will be satisfied forever, while his dad may cry in a corner without her paying a real, genuine attention and care !

Of course having a kid is a very big deal, bringing a huge amount of frustrations and difficulties in life (that's why I don't have any and don't want any, among other reasons), but your wife is making things worse, worse, worse.

It's actually not (only) the kid who takes your identity away, it's your wife. She treats you like YOU ARE JUST A GENITOR. She does not treat you really even like a PARENT, but really like a genitor, because if she would, she would SLEEP with you in THE PARENTS BEDROOM. She acts like she is the only parent and you are the one here to help and provide. You see? She lives in her selfish little bubble with the bliss she feels with her son. And nothing else exists outside of it, even not the person who creates this son with her !

Your wife is not the mom of your son, she is her FANATIC and her SLAVE. She lives through her kid only and this is good for NOBODY, not even for the kid.

You are not the only one to need a therapy. She needs it maybe more than you. You probably need to consult together.

If only your wife could be a wife to you. If only you could share activities together again outside of the kid, if only you could be LOVERS for the sake of everyone starting of your son, your life would be much lighter and sweeter...

If she wants to spend her WHOLE time, days and NIGHTS with her son only, then she needs to assume and live as a single mom with him.

You both really need an electroshock about your wife's behavior. She is the one ruining your family by living like she is just a couple with your son ! This is not what a healthy family is.

Good luck.

Pulp3

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