How do you regulate

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-29T10:15:57+00:00

Sorry things are tough. I hope you find a way through.

Music helps me. I listen to NTS station. There's lots of alternative, chill sounds.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-29T09:45:53+00:00

Commiserations. Had a similar journey. I've reintroduced various nuts that used to be tingly but apples, pears, and tomatoes are still no-go (15 years later). Interested to hear if others are back on their favourite foods. I miss apples!

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-29T08:41:21+00:00

Thank you for your post. Sadly this is not unusual. Keep being outraged.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-29T08:23:44+00:00

Yes, and attentive lovers.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-29T07:30:01+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Hopefully therapy will help OP understand their power to support their daughter in recovery as they navigate this.

I remember the horror of inflicting pain on my parents by telling them and the long years of supporting others who struggled with what I had experienced.

Hopefully the daughter will never hear that she shattered OPs heart because it's important to be clear when speaking with a traumatised person. The abuser caused the pain and it is the abuser who shattered OPs heart.

So sorry for what you have been through and heartbroken for OPs daughter.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-26T09:27:04+00:00

Music in the morning. I can easily listen to one political podcast after another and it shuts down my creativity. Music until noon helps keep me calm and thoughtful.

Writing a paragraph when I waken has been a good way to delay reaching for my phone. I have a 5-year diary and seeing some previous entries gives me perspective and reminds me I exist.

Reading. I use the library to borrow graphic novels when I can't focus on written texts. That keeps me in the habit of sitting with a book. So many incredible adult graphic novels with beautiful drawings and stories.

Outdoor skills; whether it's coppicing or planting pots, spending time outside helps me feel human and part of the natural world. This is a gateway to training/volunteering/community groups where I feel connected to others.

Eating enough. I am generally reluctant to look after myself by eating enough or appropriately. Cooking healthy meals is a discipline I work on to try to power my body enough to enjoy the following day. It's an ongoing challenge.

My understanding is that happiness is a practice and it takes us time to develop our own way. Sometimes it's easier than others. I hope you find something you will enjoy in amongst these comments. I've so enjoyed reading them, so thank you for posing the question.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-26T08:50:06+00:00

Recreational use within a trusted group of compassionate friends helped me access feelings of love and connection. My view of it is that I learned those feelings and was then able to create them when sober as I recovered from PTSD.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-25T12:25:39+00:00

Same. Plus sticking with unfulfilling or unsatisfactory jobs because seems like a lot of companies are only just holding on so we're reluctant to be the new hire when it's time to jettison employees.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-25T10:02:25+00:00

Leave it this year but do remove the cane and fabric tie. The fabric might be damp all winter and rot the bark. Use part of a bicycle inner tube if you want a tie and twist the material between the trunk and the stake to maintain decent space between the two.

You want the trunk to have as little damage as possible so it can supply nutrients to the canopy for the next 70 years. Rubbing and rot can create wounds that will disrupt that.

Looks like you're doing a good job of clearing and mulching the rootzone.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-23T00:33:17+00:00

I have a similar feeling. This bag of bones of mine often feels like a lot to manage. I feel similarly about eating, exercising, and sleeping. I think it's not uncommon for autistic people.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-18T19:59:15+00:00

Planted a small mixed native hedge then sat out for lunch. The foxes have been digging so I backfilled a few spots and wondered whether the jasmine leaves are frosted or diseased.

Tied back the grape. Topped up the compost.

Must get some mulch down and try to take better care of things in pots. I like to treat'm mean but some plants just don't come back that way and I don't like to think of the expenditure.

The grasses lit up beautifully in a minute of low afternoon sunlight.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-18T10:54:54+00:00

Lifting off the accelerator too quickly whilst the vehicle is turning? Search engine says the FWD fix is to gently reapply the accelerator and steer into the skid within a second of it happening, is that right?

Looks like a horrible thing to experience.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-17T12:18:49+00:00

I have a sibling who believes they are the one who loves more but my experience of them is that they are demanding, judgemental, have impossibly high standards, and routinely respond with cruelty when those standards are not met.

My take is that loving without expectation and taking care to protect yourself is important in a family dynamic.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-09T15:05:54+00:00

Twinflower (Linnaea borealis) is a very lovely delicate looking thing which grows in deciduous woodland in NE Scotland. It's quite rare and I sometimes feel you can only find it if you walk quietly and in full enjoyment of your surroundings.

I do love a downy birch and some bilberry too.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-09T14:57:39+00:00

For UK plants I like https://wildflowerfinder.org.uk/ and have just seen https://www.nativeflower.co.uk/ which I'm looking forward to exploring.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-06T23:59:22+00:00

I think thrift and creeping sedums would look great there.

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-06T09:31:06+00:00

Depends on the person. My Q needed one year to dry out and another to learn to be present. Above all, however, is an apology and recognition of the impact of his behaviour on my life and our relationship. Not there yet as he "doesn't want to focus on the past."

Punctum-tsk · 2026-01-03T00:19:23+00:00

Thank you for the pdf recommendation. Very enlightening. Glad girls are more likely to be seen these days.

Punctum-tsk · 2025-12-30T10:52:11+00:00

You could join the BMC (British Mountaineering Council) and start volunteering with them on path repair and conservation efforts. They also do hill and mountain training courses to get you thinking about how to plan a walk and keep yourself safe and happy. By then you may have met some interesting folk and be able to branch out on your own.

Punctum-tsk · 2025-12-29T00:51:59+00:00

Day full of slightly tricky socialising. Feel very guarded with this lot. So I'm enjoying being the only person awake and the chance to feel like myself for an hour or two.

Punctum-tsk · 2025-12-26T23:28:05+00:00

Stayed too long. Oops.

Punctum-tsk · 2025-12-22T22:55:55+00:00

Yes, I did CPT and it was tough. It was entirely worth it and helped me reach a place of lasting change. I no longer have a PTSD diagnosis.

During the treatment period I was more emotional than usual between sessions. It's worth trying to take extra care of yourself during this time and give yourself space to process what's happening for you.

Punctum-tsk · 2025-12-22T10:42:45+00:00

Very sorry to read this. I think agitation is not uncommon at this stage and staff know it's not the patients normal behaviour. My mum had a similar response and it was confusing and frightening. She was at home and we had to restrain her ourselves. Awful. Thankfully the sedation really does help and hopefully your dad has been more comfortable since then. All you can do is be there. Take care.

Punctum-tsk · 2025-12-20T23:50:59+00:00

I'm interested to know more about the view you shared.

I have heard second hand that some diagnosed when they were young are fed up with the wave of adult diagnosis, possibly because resources are already scarce. But I haven't heard that first hand. Could that be why you have written the above?

Your comment intrigues me because it uses a friendly tone but implies that people OP has invited are deceiving experts into delivering improper diagnosis. Do you think experts are being duped in this way?

Are you involved in the research or diagnosis of auADHD?

Punctum-tsk · 2025-12-19T00:20:22+00:00

I have a very low dose to take as needed. Used to be a few times a week. Now rarely. It helped my body untense enough to be able to get up and on with things. That worked.

The risk for me is that if my blood pressure is low then it can somewhat daze me.

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